Unexpected Changes?
I have figured out that the social aspect of quitting alcohol is big for me. First, telling (or not telling people) that I've quit is difficult sometimes. My party buddies don't know what kind of relationship we need to have if I don't drink. Acquaintances think I have a "defect". Family- don'e even go there- they were in such denial of my problem that they are in total shock (oh really?!?).
And if it's not enough to see and be concerned about other people's reactions to it- then there's ME!! I'm not the funniest person in the room anymore. I get bored at our social gatherings and find myself going home pretty early. I don't have so much to say as I did. Right now, I think I'm just boring.
I didn't realize that a part of recovery and staying sober would be creating a sober "social life". I think I thought it meant just never drinking again but, it's bigger than that. I'm starting to realize that, for me, that includes finding new interests and new friends.
I'm wondering what others have discovered like that. What else did you have to do or change that you really didn't expect? What parts of your life were affected or altered that was a surprise to you? How did you feel about going through it then and how do you feel about it now?
Why isn't just quitting drinking enough? (I know the answer to that quesion for myself, it just feels better to ask the universe to answer it for me).
And if it's not enough to see and be concerned about other people's reactions to it- then there's ME!! I'm not the funniest person in the room anymore. I get bored at our social gatherings and find myself going home pretty early. I don't have so much to say as I did. Right now, I think I'm just boring.
I didn't realize that a part of recovery and staying sober would be creating a sober "social life". I think I thought it meant just never drinking again but, it's bigger than that. I'm starting to realize that, for me, that includes finding new interests and new friends.
I'm wondering what others have discovered like that. What else did you have to do or change that you really didn't expect? What parts of your life were affected or altered that was a surprise to you? How did you feel about going through it then and how do you feel about it now?
Why isn't just quitting drinking enough? (I know the answer to that quesion for myself, it just feels better to ask the universe to answer it for me).
