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I'm not sure if this is the correct forum put my question into but here goes...

Can someone please explain to me what the difference (if any) is between a Co-dependent and an Enabler?

How come you cant embed videos in certain forums? Like follies and substance abuse where I have tried to embed but it wont. It just shows the code. But in newcomers it will.
No big deal..Just curious

Says hello, and that she's thinking about everybody on the board. We've been IMing. She's taking some time to get ready to quit drinking... Hopefully she's back soon! :)

really chaps my butt sometimes.

it has been so long since I've been on this board...for the first time in months I just feel so devastated and sick. My recovering heroin addict boyfriend has been clean for over 6 mos. and tonight he is out getting high.

About a month ago, after living together for 2 years out of state, we moved back to the city we are both from so that I could begin law school. He got a job in a restaurant and everything still seemed good. Then tonight I heard him on the phone in the bathroom and for some reason I just had the feeling that I needed to listen (a habit I thought I had broken myself of). Sure enough, I heard him making plans to use heroin with someone he works with. I felt like I was going to throw up. Of course he got upset and denied it, but by the end of the argument he just seemed defeated and said he loved me but he had to leave-would call me later. And he left. I feel so thrown off and I don't know what to do with myself. Part of me wants to hop in my car and go trolling around the city to find him, but I know I can't do that. I'm not even going to call him. I am only in my 1st week of school and have work I need to to but I feel too upset to concentrate.

I feel so stupid...how could I let myself think that this wouldn't happen again? why did I think that 6 mos. was so great? Now I am living in apartment that I can't afford without his help that I counted on. it is a year lease. I really believed that he was going to work, and not get high, and contribute. It has been such a great 6 months that I let myself be duped into thinking this was just how it was going to be from now on. I can't pay for this place alone and my parents have given all the help they can give-I also can't bear the thought of telling them what is going on. we lived so far away that I have thus far been able to keep it from them. I have taken out so many loans to pay for law school that I cannot bear the thought of trying to take out more. I want to do well in school and so don't want to try and pick up a job that would take time away from my studying. I am so unbelievably angry at him and myself. I don't know what the hell to do now. I know this is long and I don't expect any answers-I just feel so alone right now. thanks for listening.

I have dug back 3 pages and all I have seen are topic about cars, trucks, sex and drugs... all important topics in their own right.

What about "The Change" in your life.
How are you dealing with it ?
What crazy things have you been experiencing ?
What personality traits changes have you noticed ?

You know they actually have a name for this..? Yea, its call andreapause

I started 3 yrs ago, at least when it was confirmed by the doctor.
You know, the hot flashes, crankiness, being short, feeling restless.

I found its not uncommon to have a career change.

Myself, I went on a full two week Carribean cruise (east and west) 2 yrs ago. This summer I rode to Sturgis SD in the seat of my Harley.

I'm finding that my eye sight is getting worse, my health is good but I'm finding that when I do get sick I get clobbered. When I over do it... I'm wiped out for days, sigh.

Anyone else going thru this ?

its been too long!
hello to my old buddies. All is well but today I need a little reinforcement. After a nice chunk of my ad in sobriety, I start to get all worrisome and feeling out of control... that means back to meetings for me.

Hope all are well, talk soon

jeepgirl

Well, I did it again. Another nasty bender that left me hospitalized, and I got very suicidal and ended up in residential rehab (9th rehab program I've started, but first inpatient) as it seemed a fine alternative to 5150. I just transitioned to day treatment and sober living.

I never got over my past incidents and resentments, and I was working a fairly strong AA program, but one that was full of half measures--lack of service, and recovery was not always my first priority.

I'm pulling out all the stops this time to get some structure and get sober. I lost my fiancee and apartment again, almost a year to the day I lost them last year. Luckily I still have my job; my boss is very supportive, thank god.

I'm being treated for bipolar and have a new therapist who is an addiction specialist. Hopefully this can get me over the hump of depression, mania and obsessive thoughts that keep taking me out every few months. It's hard to believe I have to go through all this when I've drank only six times in the last 400 days. Each time I get drunk now I get drugs, and the coke/booze combo nearly killed me this time. I sink into a dark depression that is worse every time I go out. I just don't have the luxury of "one last run".

Thanks for listening.

MR

I wondered how many of you have gone through this because of your health?

I'm looking at doing this at the moment and have made some sort of decision regarding what direction I want to go in. I'm a bit anxious about it but excited at the same time.

Prior to being ill I had started my own business as a copywriter/freelance writer but after I got ill, I found it too hard to keep it all up and only a few months ago took down my website etc... I've found it quite hard to face the facts on this one.

But I've decided I want to go and get some training that would enable me to teach english in (what you guys call) high school. Over here we call it college. I'd teach kids aged 13 - 17. Maybe only part time too.

I'll have to do a English Lit degree then a years teacher training. It may end up taking me 10 years or something (if I go to school part time) before I get there but I'll only be 40 then (I'm only 30 now) so I'd have at least 25 more working years ahead of me.

Anyone else got any ESH on this?
I'd love to read it.

Okay well I am new on here and to give everyone a brief summary I am now 20 and my dad has been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember. He got really really bad in the last year and I was sick of it. My sister mainly just gave up and wanted him to die but he is my father and I still love him so I worked very hard to get a spot set up at a rehab and talked to many people to figure out how to get him into a center. Found out that all it took was a long talk with him about everything. He agreed and was there for 30 days I visited him as much as i could and went to group meetings he graduated and agreed not to drink and go to meetings and i lived with him it has now been about 6 months and he is very lonlely he is still doing the same things he used to just without the booze I mean he is really lazy doesnt leave the house. He also bought booze to keep at his house for his friends and he went on a date and he said that he had one beer. My sister is having a baby in one month and getting married next year and if he goes back to doing everything she will never speak to him again. I need some advice on how to talk to him about everything and how to say it as nice as possible without yelling. Because he has a temper and I don't think yelling helps at all but he needs to know that we both worked very hard and he can't just throw it all away. Some tips on what to say and maybe a good started conversation. Someone just help tell me what I can do or something please thank you sorry so long had to give a little info to know the situation a little bit