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Our thoughts are with you as you run the marathon today! What an awesome achievement, and I do mean awesome. :You_Rock_

Please let us know how it went!!!! :bounce

I want to kick this question around:

Why is it that so many drug addicts feel more comfortable in AA rather than NA where they belong?

I have heard a lot of people in the past couple of years tell me that even though their not alcoholics they feel more comfortable in AA and it bothers me. I am always wondering how we can change that. What is it that we are failing to do to help make these individuals feel more welcome in NA?

What are your thoughts?

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My, that sounds terrible even just typing it.

I have posted before about my fear of going back into AA. I was in AA for 42 days and then went back out for 5 months. Today I have 4 days and I am really excited about the future!

A lot of my fear has to do with the fact that I cannot be totally honest about who I am. I am also worried because my line of work is almost "required drinking". I searched the forum and can't find any info along the lines of my specific problem....

So....I am a high end escort/call girl. I started because of financial reasons, I am trying desperately to get out, but I have a child in need of financial resouces. I primarily do dinner dates and drinking is expected. I started a new business that has gone beyond my expectations and I expect to be out of the "business" in the next 90 days.

For now, I must do this to provide for my childs needs. The problems are:

1) I can't be honest in the rooms. Will this thwart by ability to overcome this problem? I am afraid to get a sponsor because I can't be totally honest with her.

2) Most of my clients prefer to drink Champagne or wine with me. I am learning to stay away from people, places and things but it is difficult as an escort.

My child will suffer if I quit escorting (earning money). Should I put sobriety on hold until I no longer need to escort? I have been telling my clients that I have eliminated alcohol in my diet but they want me to have "just a sip of Champagne" to start the evening. They have no idea that I am an alcoholic.

If I am anything, I am a wonderful mother. I am also a great friend, sister, daughter, business person and generally a great person. I am not a bad girl, I just happen to have some problems that seem to have no solution.

Please advise.

Thanks!

Okay, so this post basically says it all. IM DONE!!! My now ex b/f has been doing really good lately in the keeping clean area, and I still pray he continues on the right path but I'm just done. I've been doing everything I can and he still always accuses me of cheating on him...like I can't even do anything without him saying I must be cheating, including driving to his house...I'll be on my way to see him, and he says someone is with me and I must be taking them home on my way. He wants me to call him before I leave home, when I get to work, when I get back home, if I go to the store, take a shower, etc, I could go on forever!! Well I've been doing these things thinking that they would help him get better and prove to him I am faithful, nothing does. He tries to make me feel like I am worthless, I'm assuming so I will think no one else would want me I dunno. Well tonight when I got off work he was acting retarded as usual, I was being nice as usual, and when we hung up he sent me a text saying "It's over, I can't do this anymore, I know you cheat on me, I'm just done." I said well thats a nice attitude to have, and he replied with "I hate you, you lie to me, cheat on me, I feel it everytime I think of you that you hurt me, just admit it, and leave me alone, and go away. I hate you." Okay so I said, I don't lie to you, I don't cheat on you, but you do treat me like ****, and make me feel worthless, and since you don't respect me and hate me I will go away....and then I turned off my phone..and haven't turned it on since. He called my house around the time I got home and talked to my mom who told him I didn't want to talk. He told her to tell me to read my text msgs...but I'm not because I don't want to get sucked back in..I am going tomorrow to get my # changed. No matter how much I love him I just cant do it anymore..its not fair to me..and I have to start living for ME again. Please give me some advice if you have it.

alli

Hello. I've just signed up and here I am. I am the wife of an alcoholic and I've just today begun to realize that I am powerless over alcoholic and that MY life has become unmanagable.

Guess I always thought it was his problem. And suddenly I am having this realization that I am sick too. Which, of course, means I'm probably infecting my children with it as well! Ugh!

My husband is an active alcoholic. He is 41 and always been a drinker but in the last year it has spun completely out of control. He has admitted (not to me) that he knows it's a problem, but is convinced he can get it under control.

I am angry (SO angry) and hurt and guilt-ridden and tired and...

Just want to get healthy! Went to my second Al-anon meeting this week. I see that this will be the key to MY recovery and that I can in turn be a better mother to my children, a better friend, a better sister and a happier person.

Nothing more to say. Just kinda want to put it all out there. Been reading lots of blogs on this site and so many have been helpful to me. I am hopeful that things will get better - they do don't they?

Thanks,
Babs

I think for me it is time to move on. I have gotten so much from every one here and I want to thank you all. I feel that I have reached a point where I don't have anything to contribute. Those of you who have been with an A for a few years I think can understand. I am ready to move on with my life and for me this is part of it. I could not be where I am without all of you, past and present. I am ready to let go of the pain and sorrow, I am ready to stop my own wallowing in sorrow. I am ready for me.

Peace.:You_Rock_

Hi everybody,
Today I became an aunt to the world's most adorable baby, complete with squishy fat cheeks and a double chin (she is a BIG girl!!). I am thrilled that both baby and mom are doing well, and that I finally got to meet the little one I've been waiting forever to see. I celebrated by NOT having a drink!

I am Danielson's girlfriend, and during a conversation I posed a question to him that he was unable to answer and he thought I should post it on here to get some insight.

In the course of 14 years, he has been able to quit smoking successfully after one try. He smoked 1-2 packs per day. He was also in an environment where smoking was almost encouraged.

He managed to cut all of his favorite foods out because of health concerns without once cheating to eat something unhealthy. He also managed to wake up every morning without fail to go to the gym in an effort to change his cholesterol and blood pressure.

However, when it comes to alcohol, he just can't quit. If he has the willpower to cut everything else out, why not this?

It is affecting every facet of his life, he is aware of it, but he just can't quit.

Why? Why is this so different? He has (in the past) been able to roll with the punches, pick himself up when he is down, and make life changing decisions on a whim, but alcohol has this strange grip on him that makes all of that impossible now.

i'm a mother of two beautiful babies, i have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter and a 1week n 5 day old son. the father of my children happens to be a man i have given my everything to over the last 11 yrs. 2 days after my son was born he took his secound journey into rehab with the hope that he can get better so his kids will beable to enjoy him as well as him enjoy himself. over the last week 1/2 me and him talk almost once a day. and i started looking into some form of al-non, to learn to understand myself and why i'm so addicted to him being apart of my life, and to learn to understand the whys of what has happened between us,. he has lied, cheated, hidden, manipulated, and used me for every little thing. now he wants to come home to me and the kids, and i so badly want him here. but i'm a lil worried that i'll be used as a safe haven, and that he will end up back into stuff and our babies will get hurt, yet again. i want this to work.. i want to share our lives together. but not control or be jealous of our own lives.. i'm not sure on how to go about things and having a hard time finding ways to talk to people and let alone more information on programs that can help me with me so i can learn to accept him for him, instead of sit there and judge him... so pls if you have ne advice. write me back.. i'm a little lost in wonder of the what ifs and whys again.