Drug Rehab Options Blog

cookconfay…Congratulations!!!

CarolD — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 02:29:48 +0000

11 years of clean and sober living!

:a122:

:day4

BOSTONLUV-we can’t message you!

Jules62 — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 02:16:41 +0000

Hey-your PM box is full and for some strange reason I can't message you on your profile either.

Just wanted to let you know!

Jules :)

If your happy and you know it …

nogard — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:29:31 +0000

... Clap your hands or say summin great about recover and or life.

I ran 21km a half marathon yesterday and am feeling recovered today.

Have many real issues but when I trust and have faith they fall into place.

Happy to be here and to be me, one of 6 billion.

Kevin

:ghug:Dance7::bounce

where do i go?

help2judgeme — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 00:09:57 +0000

Hi,
Today is my 1st day sober in 10 years, I've been addicted to "more" of everything since i was 16.
The drugs have had a horrible effect on my life, I have moved half way around the country to be away from my parents because they cared too much and i couldn't hide the truth from them.
I've lost a truly beautiful girl that i was engaged to.
And i have run up some horrible debts from not caring about tax or credit cards or well anything
There my biggest regrets,
I wont bore you lot with the rest, we all have our reasons for quitting.

So now i'm trying to quit alone, >1000 k's from my family, one too many chances away from beloved ex fiance, and living in a double world of work and drugs.

I can't ask my work friends to help because none of them know, no idea how but they all don't even think i drink.
I can't ask my drug friends because i know i need to distance myselfm if i am ever going to quit, not to mention I;m expected to turn up with gear at everyone of my mates houses.

So any advice on someone to talk to to help me quit? Or even ways to replace the emptiness? I don;t know how to make friends unless they want something from me or there scared of me.

Sorry about the long post and its probly in the wrong spot but i'm about as lonely as they get, and i guess i want someone to congratulate me for trying, not just laughing at me like everyone else...
Andrew

Tomorrow’s the day

BaldHeadedJohn — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 00:08:45 +0000

Tomorrow's the last day I will drink. I know I've said this before- here and to many others. It's just too much work. I've been lurking around on these forums for a few weeks, trying to decide if I really want to stop drinking, and I find the answer to be "Yes, I do." Many of you have really inspired me to do this.

I have to commit to this. My life is starting to lose all meaning, and I've been down that road before. All I do is work, drink, sleep... day after day.

I have so many hobbies and interests I used to enjoy, but I can't stay sober long enough to do anything constructive.

I'm tired of just existing- i want to live.

Thanks for listening.

BHJ

1st day sober

help2judgeme — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 23:48:37 +0000

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Get Busy Living…We`re Worth it All

Ann — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 23:47:34 +0000

Did you ever find that some days you read or hear the same thing over and over and wonder if it's a coincidence or your HP is trying to tell you something.

Twice today I have heard "You can live in the problem or you can live in the solution...it's up to you to choose."

And twice, not once but twice again, I heard that line from The Shankshaw Redemption `Get busy living or get busy dying`

I think someone is telling me to find some positive energy and start living my life as if it were worthwhile.

Or maybe there`s just an echo in here. :D

I think I will start by taking a drive in the country tomorrow and picking up some fresh vegetables and fruit at a roadside stand and maybe a fresh pumpkin pie.

And maybe I`ll take some time to stop for a new hairstyle, or at least a trim and a new colour.

My husband begins vacation Monday and we are heading up north of Lake Superior for a week....and I promise you I will be living well in my favourite neck of the woods hiking by day and nice drives looking for bear and moose, and then a nice hotel at the end of the day...with room service of course :D

A week of no work, no cooking, no housework....just living it well and enjoying each day.

Okay, so maybe we can`t all take a week off and head north, maybe I`m just having a lucky week....but you CAN get busy living if you set your mind to it.

How about you, I double dog dare you to get busy living well this weekend...and of course share it with all of us. :a122:

Tell us your plans to get busy living.

Hugs

Always the Guilty One(Forgotten Family)

ColliseumJane — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 23:33:55 +0000

I'm always the guilty one. I let myself be. I don't know why. I've seemed to have lost all confidence. The addict in my life, always seems to be the 'good' guy in this. He's the one wanting and trying to change. He's the one with the problem. He's the one who is so wrapped up in himself, that he can't even acknowledge that I am trying to reach out to him; that , despite everything, I want to be there and help heal us, and keep our family together. Seems it's always ...always about HIM. One way or another....about the progress he makes..or doesn't make, about how he feels and what he wants. I am lost and so confused, because we (our daughter and I), are going through this too, differently, but maybe even more so than him in some ways. We have more invested in it ...emotionally. He only thinks if him. and...that's good...it's good that he wants to change and improve his own situation. Now...if he, or anyone else who is trying to help him won't think about us...then...I will. I have to...for her. for myself. I don't know where to start.. I feel so worn down, and hopeless. Worthless even. I know I'm not really, and I guess that's what hurts the most...knowing that he doesn't really care about me anymore...not really. I find myself taking on all the blame. We don't talk at all anymore. We sleep in seperate rooms. I get angry, no matter how hard I try not to. Because I am human, and I am hurting. All I ever hear, is how all I do is Bitc* at him, and all I see is how miserable he is. Yet, he doesn't even care enough to tell me when he gets the courage to go to his first NA meeting. I feel I don't know him at all anymore. and I can't live like this, but then he says he still wants me around, and still cares. But he won't talk to me about it, he doesn't see how I am going through it too....Every time I cry, every time I get upset , every time I lose my way, I'm guilty of something somehow. I don't have anyone encouraging me, taking my hand, and reassuring me I can get through this. ...I feel like I have to be strong on my own, but I don't know how to be anymore. I have invested so much in him and his problem, that I have neglected to take care of myself, I have forgotten how to. ... We, the forgotten family of the addict, are displaced. We can't seem to reach him, but we don't want to just walk away from our family, after everything. Where do we turn, what shoulder do we have to cry on, and who cares for us. I don't really want to leave , but I don't know how to stay. I know that leaving may be the best hing for all of us right now. I don't know where to start. Feeling so broken.

How do I deal with a secret drinker?

believer62 — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 22:45:32 +0000

My wife is a secret drinker and its driving me insane (almost literally). I've tried talking to her about her drinking, but most of the time she denies it or challenges me to prove it. When I can't it makes me think that I'm stupid even though I know I'm not. What I find more worrying is her recent inability to hold a sensible conversation, but I no longer appear to be able to tell when she's sober or drunk because it's all done in secret. What can I do? I still love her dearly, but more and more I feel incapable of continuing.

Praise + Prayers Needed

CrushedbyCrack — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 22:04:18 +0000

Well Praise the Lord, my husband admitted himself to inpatient rehab this morning. It is a 21 day program (unless they determine he needs to be there 30 days). He had many chances to get out of it, since it took a week from the time he made the decision to go until they actually had an opening. I was so fearful that he would change his mind before it happened. Even up until the moment we said our goodbyes, I was worried. BUT HE DID IT! This was his decision! He told his 13 year old daughter this morning before he went that he loved her and would miss her and he has to do this so he can be a better dad to her. I almost cried on the spot.

Of course, this is only the first step, and the easiest. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers that the Lord's will be done and that he will be able to apply what he learns in there to real life once he gets out. I know that we have a long hard road ahead of us and it is only the beginning. I'm looking forward to the counseling sessions we will have as a family and I'm hoping to supplement those after he gets out with more family therapy. Also, I have the book Codependent No More which I'm going to start reading tonight!