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I've read a lot of posts here from a lot of people covering different situations and I am a little sadden that I am not seeing more positive stories from people. I know that there are a lot out there to be read. Maybe I'm lucky that my situation I was in worked out. I know there are people new here that are looking for advice and I know that some are in situations that they should get out of. I would like to give out some advice to some new members that there is hope if you alcoholic is willing to sober up. You do need to take care of yourself first but keep in mind your spouse has an illness. Remember all is not lost. I have been married for 22 years and 15 of it my spouse drank everyday. I was out of love and lost but after my spouse admitted the problem and sobered up I fell in love again with the person I married long ago. Have hope if you are in a situation that can be overcome.

Maybe I'm wrong to post this but I feel that some people need to hear there are some good positive stories out there

Hi to whoever is reading this :)

I am a 25 yrs old female and i have been sober for over 8 months and have been drinking for around 10 years. This is the longest ive been sober in my life. During the 8 months I have been working very hard on myself, trying to make myself happy and have been reading lots into buddhism and trying to change my life for the better. I have been out many times in situations where i used to get drunk and have felt proud when i get home and realise i havent had any alcohol and ive seen friends drunk and felt pleased that i wasnt like that. I have worked SO hard over the past 8 months.

But lately, i have felt empty, unhappy, like life is dull and flat and. Working on myself and trying to be happy doesnt seem to be doing much like it used to and i feel like my life is dull. Even when i do things like going out and socialising, i just dont feel like i enjoy it.

New years eve i went away to stay with a friend and allowed myself to be talked into drinking. It just felt like i didnt care about being sober anymore. "i feel depressed already, so what difference will having a few drinks make?" (One of the reasons i quit drinking was because it makes me feel depressed).

I am a very shy person and i have been trying so hard to change and be more relaxed without using alcohol/anything else, and i felt ok doing this in the beginning and felt really happy in the first few months, but lately, i just feel like i am fake, not being myself etc. And i really hate myself!! and feel guilt over every little thing. I just feel like such a terrible person and i dont want to be. I feel lately like the reason i quit alcohol was to stop these kind of feelings, but now i realise that i have them without the alcohol, so why not drink a little and enjoy myself more, than make myself feel more miserable by not drinking?

I had 3 pints of magners (cider) on new years eve from about 10pm to 3am. I didnt really feel the urge like i normally would to get out if my face, and i just stopped after my 3rd pint (even though i got bought a 4th...i just left it) because i didnt want to feel rough and paranoid and anxious and regret what ive done (how i feel the next day)........

i just wondered if anyone has ever quit drinking for a period of time and then been able to go back to drinking occassionally and say like that? I have only ever heard of people goimg back to drinking ans ending up as they were before. It was strange for me to want to stop drinking and its made me wonder if ive changed. or am i kidding myself? i honestly dont know. is all the effort i put in over the past 8 months wasted? or can i continue being sober and still be at the stage i was a few days ago or does it all the work have to start all over again?

has anyone else "fallen off the wagon" and have any advice they can share with me?

Thanks loads :-)

Hi all.I had been sober for over a year when during the summer I started on lexapro for anxiety and panic.

Then stupidly bought 1mg xanax and 10 mg valium over the internet and have been taking them daily.I then went drinking over christmas and went on a mad binge new years eve with all my xanax and valium gone.

I have had terrible panic and anxiety for the past few days and went to the hospital for help today.
The doctor prescribed me 2 10mg librium every four hours but it doesnt really seem to be taking the edge off.
He only gave me enough until Monday and told me to see my GP.

I really feel I need to take something else as I took three librium just to try and calm down for a while.And what he prescribed wont last till monday if i keep taking three.

I really dont know how ill manage till monday on what he gave me as its seems im withdrawing from xanax valium and alcohol at the same time.

should i take the extra librium as i really need them or what?
Anyone have any advice please help as Im in the horrors here.
I will NEVER drink again after this episode and i was doing so well and now have three witdrawals at once.
any advice???

Anyone got any tips or advice to help me stay sober?.:c009:

Try to make a long story short. Addict lives with me. Won't stop using. Needs hospitalization for bad wounds that won't heal. keeps promising he'll go to hospital. Bugs me for money. Lays on couch all day in agony. Needs his drugs. I am enabling. Can't get him to hospital. he won't let me call ambulance. Today promised for 2 weeks today he'd go. Came time to go, wanted his drugs, asked for money. Now, still hasn't gone.

I need to move Again. Everytime I try to leave, he comes back, or I do. To help him. But I don't help.

I pay for and do everything. he on couch all day. he is very sick. wounds that won't heal from surgeries done last year. Won't go to doctor, I offer to take him.

I need to get out don't I? My house, my name on the lease, my money that feeds and clothes and takes care of him, I never clean enough, never do enough to help him.

I really need help. What do I do? He cannot take care of himself. :praying

I had 23 days sober until about an hour ago.

I live in a very small town where most of the people know me as a drunk who cannot be counted on to a) show up for work, b) be sane. These things I have brought upon myself, I know this, I accept this. I do not like this, and I had been on my second longest sober streak in the last ten years trying to fix this.

I am not drunk at the moment, but I know I am not sober, either. By this I mean that when I went to get a chair out of my car trunk a little after 2 am central time and saw a quarter bottle of black velvet I said to myself "well heck, look how good I have been doing, it's new years, and it's right there, might as well."

So I started. My own choice. A bad choice, but all on me. My question is about the fact that I have a very hard time sleeping normally, and when I go sober it makes it..last longer. I used to have a slew of people I talked to online when I couldn't sleep, but most of them were people who drank or did drugs. By most I think I mean all.

Now I have no idea where to go on the internet to try and keep my mind busy for the critical hours between two am and sunup. Do any of you know any good places? When I try google I end up with lame pron sites for late night chatting, lonely, alone, etc. and /b/ is always around, but that place is just flat out horrible.

well- carol steered me to the site where i need to look at stopping cold- to refresh- i have been drinking and had a bout with drugs 10 or so yrs ago(havent touched the coke and whatever for 15 yrs) - anyway drinking for 25+ yrs- but i am taking clonazapam drs orders for a year- well i am not sure how to do this- i think i will taper?? would really like to not die. i hate the drinking- and the drs rx helps (history of bipolar in my fam but im not). anyway - weird converstation. but i hate driniking. its does nothing good for me. i must be complicated

I'm wrestling with something.
To make a long story short, my ASisters bf stood by her through a lot of her bad using periods, up to and including arrests for faking prescriptions. It really took a toll on him. Just as she was about to start her latest rehab she found out she was pregnant. I guess the stress of it all made him go out on a bender and come home in such a raging state the police had to come and haul him away.
That was a month or two ago. Since then he's had a charge hanging over his head and until its resolved he has to live elsewhere. As stressful as its been for the two of them she's kept up her treatments and doctors appointments pretty well, and he also seems to have benefited from the time apart from her. They've both had a bit of time to work on themselves.

The drawback is it has required a lot of expensive travel on his part to get to work, living away. He wants to add me as a surety to be closer to work and to her.
I feel he might really benefit from NA (or at the very least, joining this forum). He's dealt with a lot of her issues either alone, or with just me to talk and vent to. If I'm going to agree to be one of his sureties, I can insist that he come with me to try out NA. Even though she is doing really well in recovery, I want him to have better supports this time around dealing with all the ups and downs that will surely come. Joining a support group to help himself will also look good when he has to deal with his own charge in court.

So my questions, from someone who's never been to an NA meeting:
a) should we be in the same meeting, since we have an addict in common but we have two different relationships with her?
b) is it right that I'd make him go? he's open to the idea, but I have this vague fear that if its a room full of people telling him his relationship with her is doomed and he should detach and get out....it'll be on me for throwing a wrench into their attempt at rebuilding their lives.

I don't want to be trying to steer their relationship, but he needs other,knowledgeable people to talk to. I'm thrilled he's still here after all this time, and willing to give it all yet another chance, but I find it really hard listening to the awful things he's had to put up with over the years and all his fears and suspicions, because it weighs down on me and also makes it impossible for me to be neutral support to her. If that makes sense.

I signed up for anger management classes.Yes.....Its true. They are free so there's that but, honestly, I'm afraid because my anger is my armor. I feel like it could be like the bottle for an A. It runs my life, it "protects" me. It "helps" me accomplish tasks. It separates me from the rest of he world. Its MINE!!!!!

I don't know if I want to get rid of it. I do but I don't. It's not healthy but I can't let go of it. It has a hold on me and makes me think it is "good" but it really isn't. It causes me physical and mental pain. See the confusion? I'd like to know what the big deal is. Why am I so torn over this?

Any thoughts or advice? I promise I won't get MAD at you!:angryfire:angryfire

ABF hasn't had a drop to drink in the 2 weeks he has been back, until today. My dad (alcoholic) and his 2 drunk friends stopped by to plow the driveway tonight. Of course, all of them are drinking, and Chris asked them to bring one in for him, promising he would only drink one. Of course, that never happens. Now he is on his second. I know that I can't control it....but they are all sitting on my couch right now, talking, drinking, and being loud.

It takes me back to childhood, I f-u-c-k-i-n-g hate listening to a bunch of drunks, makes my blood boil......

The key to how this night ends is on how I handle things after they leave. I want to flip out, but it won't do any good. Any advice on what to say? I don't have boundaries yet....all day long Chris has been wanting romance and I promised "later", b/c I was busy doing stuff. I can't give it to him now....I just hope I can stay calm, Ryan has a friend over.