Archive for the ‘Benders’ tag
Yes, I am a broken record…
As usual I am worrying myself silly. So afraid of suffering after effects of drinking even if I abstain for years. I'm a woman and I just haven't read anything encouraging about our health with this issue. I was a drinker for almost seven years, daily and at least 6 beers a day and benders on the weekend, sometimes up to 12. And occasionally vicodin as well. My blood work comes back fine for now, but trouble down the road? I just don't know. I'm so troubled by this. I know there are no certain answers but if anyone has a story of heavy drinking and long term recovery in good health, I would love to hear it... Thanks for putting up with me. I will only have 50 days tomorrow.
troubled
As usual I am worrying myself silly. So afraid of suffering after effects of drinking even if I abstain for years. I'm a woman and I just haven't read anything encouraging about our health with this issue. I was a drinker for almost seven years, daily and at least 6 beers a day and benders on the weekend, sometimes up to 12. And occasionally vicodin as well. My blood work comes back fine for now, but trouble down the road? I just don't know. I'm so troubled by this. I know there are no certain answers but if anyone has a story of heavy drinking and long term recovery in good health, I would love tohear it... Thanks for putting up with me.:sorry I will only have 50 days tomorrow.
Long time no sober.. I’m back, bigger and drunker than before
My first attempt at sobriety was around a year ago.. I made it 100 days. After that I slowly got worse and worse and drank more and more. I graduated from a few benders a week to everyday. Also changed from wine to hard stuff. It's been a wild ride. but I am here again which I believe is a good sign. So I'm raising my cup of coffee and cheering day 1 of many.!
Not my first rodeo…
First post...
Been drinking pretty heavy for 16 years on and off. Like many of you I used to just get hammered on the weekends and laugh at all the crazy blackouts and craziness my friends and I would end up creating. Normal weekend in college was starting friday night and partying saturday night as well, recover sunday and back to life monday.
As I got older and out in the real world things began to slowly change...now when I would drink it would usually be a situation where I would guzzle like a mad man for 2-3 days straight, and then stop and deal with 2-3 days of suffering coming down from the booze.
Now, years later my last few bad benders have included doing nothing but drink for 7-12 days straight (vodka gatorade's a plenty), 2 arrests on dui charges, lost opportunies with women and possible job advancement, job loss in general, shame, loss of weight due to malnurishment, sweats, shakes, convulsions, depression, money problems.....so on so on......you all know the story. My costs for the neverending benders include: arrests, friendships, girlfriends, scars from fighting, missed appointments, and the worst.....depression and feelings of worthlessness.
The last bender I was on was an 8 day alcohol diet, I missed appointments at work, ruined my relationship with the girl I was dating, lied constantly, passed out 2-3 times a day, and the icing on the cake, smacked the back right of my company car into the side of my garage while in a blackout. That alone could have cost me BIG TIME! The depression and withdrawals I went through following that bender were wicked; sweats, shakes, anxiety, clammy skin, insomnia, nerves shot......
I decided after the last one I would be done with booze, that was over a month ago. I have read many of your posts and I am glad this site is here. That is all for now....just felt like joining this group of people who are like me in knowing we are not good drinkers.
Been drinking pretty heavy for 16 years on and off. Like many of you I used to just get hammered on the weekends and laugh at all the crazy blackouts and craziness my friends and I would end up creating. Normal weekend in college was starting friday night and partying saturday night as well, recover sunday and back to life monday.
As I got older and out in the real world things began to slowly change...now when I would drink it would usually be a situation where I would guzzle like a mad man for 2-3 days straight, and then stop and deal with 2-3 days of suffering coming down from the booze.
Now, years later my last few bad benders have included doing nothing but drink for 7-12 days straight (vodka gatorade's a plenty), 2 arrests on dui charges, lost opportunies with women and possible job advancement, job loss in general, shame, loss of weight due to malnurishment, sweats, shakes, convulsions, depression, money problems.....so on so on......you all know the story. My costs for the neverending benders include: arrests, friendships, girlfriends, scars from fighting, missed appointments, and the worst.....depression and feelings of worthlessness.
The last bender I was on was an 8 day alcohol diet, I missed appointments at work, ruined my relationship with the girl I was dating, lied constantly, passed out 2-3 times a day, and the icing on the cake, smacked the back right of my company car into the side of my garage while in a blackout. That alone could have cost me BIG TIME! The depression and withdrawals I went through following that bender were wicked; sweats, shakes, anxiety, clammy skin, insomnia, nerves shot......
I decided after the last one I would be done with booze, that was over a month ago. I have read many of your posts and I am glad this site is here. That is all for now....just felt like joining this group of people who are like me in knowing we are not good drinkers.
Need to know what he’s thinking - insider info please!
Hi there,
I might be posting this in the wrong forum - if so please let me know - but I felt that I need to hear from other alcoholics how your thinking works when you're in the grip of this because I simply don't understand.
I am not an alcoholic, though I do drink. My boyfriend is an alcoholic. He's now my ex. We were together for just over a year and were living together. The whole time, and all his adult life (I've known him since we were teenager, now in our 30s) he has always had a problem with binge drinking and three or four day benders where he doesnÂ’t come home, spends all his money and misses work. Then during the week he continues to drink, just not as much.
This last weekend I had had enough of him not coming home, stealing drinks from me and pretending not to be in the pub when he was etc etc, and packed up all his stuff and asked him to leave. His parents supported me on this – his dad even told me to do it – and say he needs tough love.
The problem is, I feel like I am punishing myself. I miss him terribly and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. When things were good they were brilliant and it was only when he would start drinking that problems happened. If he could conquer this there is no reason why we wouldnÂ’t be together.
I havenÂ’t heard from him since he took his stuff. Maybe heÂ’s fine about it being over? Maybe he never loved me that much? I was kind of hoping this would be the shock he needed to make him make a real change but instead he seems happy to be free to drink more without me to feel guilty about.
What should I do? I never actually told him stop drinking and we have a chance. I just threw him out in anger.
I might be posting this in the wrong forum - if so please let me know - but I felt that I need to hear from other alcoholics how your thinking works when you're in the grip of this because I simply don't understand.
I am not an alcoholic, though I do drink. My boyfriend is an alcoholic. He's now my ex. We were together for just over a year and were living together. The whole time, and all his adult life (I've known him since we were teenager, now in our 30s) he has always had a problem with binge drinking and three or four day benders where he doesnÂ’t come home, spends all his money and misses work. Then during the week he continues to drink, just not as much.
This last weekend I had had enough of him not coming home, stealing drinks from me and pretending not to be in the pub when he was etc etc, and packed up all his stuff and asked him to leave. His parents supported me on this – his dad even told me to do it – and say he needs tough love.
The problem is, I feel like I am punishing myself. I miss him terribly and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. When things were good they were brilliant and it was only when he would start drinking that problems happened. If he could conquer this there is no reason why we wouldnÂ’t be together.
I havenÂ’t heard from him since he took his stuff. Maybe heÂ’s fine about it being over? Maybe he never loved me that much? I was kind of hoping this would be the shock he needed to make him make a real change but instead he seems happy to be free to drink more without me to feel guilty about.
What should I do? I never actually told him stop drinking and we have a chance. I just threw him out in anger.
