Archive for the ‘Bill Of Health’ tag
AH Going Backwards…………..
My AH at 45 had a full hip replacement. He has not worked for over 2 and 1/2 months with no pay. I have carried the load. He said he had been drinking so much and smoking weed to deal with the pain. He was going to turn a new leaf- no more weed- only drinking on the weekends.... lose weight...get back in the great shape he was in when we met 10 years ago.
WEL>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Okay- I paid $5000 Out of Pocket insurance money - struggled to pay mortgage and college and cars and take care of teminally ill parents.....supported his recovery no matter how long it took.....was supportive...went to appointments... you name it I did it. If the hard work was to have my husband back ..who cares. Well- the surgery is done..... he has clean bill of health but now the back hurts..can't work.....drinking has picked back up...find beers thrown in laundry room...can see the anger building in his eyes from the drugs. I have tried to address it only to be called an unsupportive nag. I was told that I would get no sympathy for my dying parents as I give him none. He sits here now and spews hate at the tv, at my kids at me. Today the back doctor mistakingly forgot to call him back. He is our neighbor for god sake! I got home and after having the phone thrown at me.....I called them and they apologized and said he can come in now...He cursed and refused.. Nice. He chooses to be hurting all the time..we have had MRI's - blood tests you name it....He is fine besides being horribly depressed. I wished him good day yesterday and he said **** You! Who says that?
I am trying to stay positive and let him live with his choices. He lost his first wife and 3 daughters to this. He has little to do with the girls and they have suffered all in their own way. He spends no time with me or my boys- we try. He is in bed by 7 if he is not drinking. I told him I would spend no time with him while he is drinking or smoking and that leaves just that ..no time. He is so angry I have detached. I will not pay for the house and the cars and the boat so that slob can curse at me and spit at me and throw things in the yard. It is so upsetting . He called his folks to tell them I was mean to him and they enable him and actually called me on some things . I don't know what I want anyone to say--just how do we begin to think this is the way I live and it is what it is. ??????????????? I will not take him to my company Christmas party as God knows what he would say. I was just nominated for Realtor Rookie of the Year here and would be mortified if people really knew who I really am. I am gonna watch Dancing with the Stars.....I would love to dance..........my sons and I still have dance parties like when they were little..it makes us laugh...he tells us we are stupid.
c'est la vie!
WEL>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Okay- I paid $5000 Out of Pocket insurance money - struggled to pay mortgage and college and cars and take care of teminally ill parents.....supported his recovery no matter how long it took.....was supportive...went to appointments... you name it I did it. If the hard work was to have my husband back ..who cares. Well- the surgery is done..... he has clean bill of health but now the back hurts..can't work.....drinking has picked back up...find beers thrown in laundry room...can see the anger building in his eyes from the drugs. I have tried to address it only to be called an unsupportive nag. I was told that I would get no sympathy for my dying parents as I give him none. He sits here now and spews hate at the tv, at my kids at me. Today the back doctor mistakingly forgot to call him back. He is our neighbor for god sake! I got home and after having the phone thrown at me.....I called them and they apologized and said he can come in now...He cursed and refused.. Nice. He chooses to be hurting all the time..we have had MRI's - blood tests you name it....He is fine besides being horribly depressed. I wished him good day yesterday and he said **** You! Who says that?
I am trying to stay positive and let him live with his choices. He lost his first wife and 3 daughters to this. He has little to do with the girls and they have suffered all in their own way. He spends no time with me or my boys- we try. He is in bed by 7 if he is not drinking. I told him I would spend no time with him while he is drinking or smoking and that leaves just that ..no time. He is so angry I have detached. I will not pay for the house and the cars and the boat so that slob can curse at me and spit at me and throw things in the yard. It is so upsetting . He called his folks to tell them I was mean to him and they enable him and actually called me on some things . I don't know what I want anyone to say--just how do we begin to think this is the way I live and it is what it is. ??????????????? I will not take him to my company Christmas party as God knows what he would say. I was just nominated for Realtor Rookie of the Year here and would be mortified if people really knew who I really am. I am gonna watch Dancing with the Stars.....I would love to dance..........my sons and I still have dance parties like when they were little..it makes us laugh...he tells us we are stupid.
c'est la vie!
Problems With My Other Son
This is harder for me right now to handle, than what is going on with Joey. I need some help here.
My 35 yr old son is a single dad of 2 young sons ages 7 & 4. Yesterday we went to visit my parents, and while we were there he started telling my mom about dental work he needs to get done. My mom being the giver that she is immediately said they would pay for it. Before we left she gave me $400 for him & said make sure he uses it for the dentist. Well on the way home I asked him about it & he went into this long tirade about how good he is & that he is old enough not to have to answer to me, that he is tired of always being broke & he has some things he needs to buy yada yada yada. He was laid off from his job on Aug 15th & he is on unemployment. Money is tight & there really is not enough left for wants......though there is enough for needs thank God. He is also not feeling well & has to go back to the dr on the 20th. I am in agreement that to look for a new job now before he gets a clean bill of health is foolish but I am really upset about his attitude toward money.
This kid of mine experimented with drugs in his early 20's but once he became a dad he really cleaned up his act.
He tends to buy what he thinks he needs then come to me for help. I know he is not going to use that money for the dentist, and I do not want to have any part in decieving my dear parents. I also know he smokes weed & though we have had many arguements about it and he tells me he knows he has to stop & oneday he will, as of now, he still smokes it. It also costs money & I resent him buying it, then telling me he needs money for food, gas, or whatever. I can't stop seeing him as Jim & I are helping him raise his kids ( our grandchildren ) He pays his bills, takes excellent care of his kids, home, car etc.
Oh I am so tired of all of this BS. I just want him to stop, he doesn't need it & it will only bring him down. ( if not cause worse problems )
I would really like some input as to how to handle this.
My 35 yr old son is a single dad of 2 young sons ages 7 & 4. Yesterday we went to visit my parents, and while we were there he started telling my mom about dental work he needs to get done. My mom being the giver that she is immediately said they would pay for it. Before we left she gave me $400 for him & said make sure he uses it for the dentist. Well on the way home I asked him about it & he went into this long tirade about how good he is & that he is old enough not to have to answer to me, that he is tired of always being broke & he has some things he needs to buy yada yada yada. He was laid off from his job on Aug 15th & he is on unemployment. Money is tight & there really is not enough left for wants......though there is enough for needs thank God. He is also not feeling well & has to go back to the dr on the 20th. I am in agreement that to look for a new job now before he gets a clean bill of health is foolish but I am really upset about his attitude toward money.
This kid of mine experimented with drugs in his early 20's but once he became a dad he really cleaned up his act.
He tends to buy what he thinks he needs then come to me for help. I know he is not going to use that money for the dentist, and I do not want to have any part in decieving my dear parents. I also know he smokes weed & though we have had many arguements about it and he tells me he knows he has to stop & oneday he will, as of now, he still smokes it. It also costs money & I resent him buying it, then telling me he needs money for food, gas, or whatever. I can't stop seeing him as Jim & I are helping him raise his kids ( our grandchildren ) He pays his bills, takes excellent care of his kids, home, car etc.
Oh I am so tired of all of this BS. I just want him to stop, he doesn't need it & it will only bring him down. ( if not cause worse problems )
I would really like some input as to how to handle this.
