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Oh ladies, it’s almost over, I’m almost there…………heh heh….
I think right now the bonus I have to look forward to with all my "bah-humbugness" is that for the last few days of the week I'll be off from work!! Which means I can lay around and do nothing. I don't have to get up at O'dark-hundred in the morning.
But just knowing that after tomorrow with it being Christmas Eve and then Christmas, I'm home free!!!!!!!
There is a lot of emotional, family, kids stuff I'm having to deal with, work through, however you want to put it, that I'm not thrilled with having to "deal" with but THAT is almost over too, so YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you for letting me vent and share.
YAHOO!!!!!!! Aiy-eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WOO HOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's almost over, it's almost over, it's almost over..........Woo Woo!!!!!!
:Xmaskstar::Xmasdstar
But just knowing that after tomorrow with it being Christmas Eve and then Christmas, I'm home free!!!!!!!
There is a lot of emotional, family, kids stuff I'm having to deal with, work through, however you want to put it, that I'm not thrilled with having to "deal" with but THAT is almost over too, so YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you for letting me vent and share.
YAHOO!!!!!!! Aiy-eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WOO HOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's almost over, it's almost over, it's almost over..........Woo Woo!!!!!!
:Xmaskstar::Xmasdstar
the DV police came by AND i met with my new psychiatrist today
and boy do i feel better.
i guess i must be pretty lonely because i really enjoyed chatting with the police officers.........i asked them some questions but they weren't able to answer them all. most likely the order of protection will be extended and my heavy-drinker BF will not be allowed back home (we are both on the lease) yet. i was very happy to be able to tell them that i am day 15 sober today.
i didn't know what kind, if any, of specialty this psychiatrist has......turns out he treats children who are victims of domestic violence so that's a major bonus. he asked a lot of questions and also explained to me that the kind of attorney i will get is "ATB" - pro bono - whereas BF gets legal aid society. doc and i will def. meet again before the court date.
he immediately pinpointed that this is a toxic relationship..........also that i am depressed........and i told him that i don't want to get back on anti- depressants again and he doesn't believe in them, but wants me to try some supplements to get my seratonin levels back up.
he is also going to check on NYS law regarding leases and if i can have him removed from the lease legally in a situation like this. this would buy me some time - either way, i know i have to leave this neighborhood SOON.
what a blessing that i found this man. i called him yesterday and he met with me today before i went to work and now my mind is a little more at ease. he knows my BF and knows about his health problems and explained that people like him usually have a lot of anger. he also stressed that i need to put the focus on ME, and let BF take care of himself.
work was quiet (more like DEAD) so i was "cut" early and went to the movies and saw Quantam of Solace...........and i dearly love Daniel Craig as James Bond!!!!!!
i guess i must be pretty lonely because i really enjoyed chatting with the police officers.........i asked them some questions but they weren't able to answer them all. most likely the order of protection will be extended and my heavy-drinker BF will not be allowed back home (we are both on the lease) yet. i was very happy to be able to tell them that i am day 15 sober today.
i didn't know what kind, if any, of specialty this psychiatrist has......turns out he treats children who are victims of domestic violence so that's a major bonus. he asked a lot of questions and also explained to me that the kind of attorney i will get is "ATB" - pro bono - whereas BF gets legal aid society. doc and i will def. meet again before the court date.
he immediately pinpointed that this is a toxic relationship..........also that i am depressed........and i told him that i don't want to get back on anti- depressants again and he doesn't believe in them, but wants me to try some supplements to get my seratonin levels back up.
he is also going to check on NYS law regarding leases and if i can have him removed from the lease legally in a situation like this. this would buy me some time - either way, i know i have to leave this neighborhood SOON.
what a blessing that i found this man. i called him yesterday and he met with me today before i went to work and now my mind is a little more at ease. he knows my BF and knows about his health problems and explained that people like him usually have a lot of anger. he also stressed that i need to put the focus on ME, and let BF take care of himself.
work was quiet (more like DEAD) so i was "cut" early and went to the movies and saw Quantam of Solace...........and i dearly love Daniel Craig as James Bond!!!!!!
Finally taking action on something
xAH screwed up our tax return for 2005, treating his withdrawal of his 401k as normal income (yeah I know I shoulda paid attention back then). So the IRS is of course saying we owe back taxes, to the tune of over $6200. xAH says he never got notified (this was back before the divorce) and he can't pay anyway since he is still unemployed (3+ years now) and that it's my problem. ARRRGGGG!
Anyway, I am finally meeting with a lawyer tomorrow to find out how much it's going to cost me to get out of this altogether or at least lower the amount I end up paying. Apparently there is at least a chance I will get out of it totally under something called the innocent spouse rule (don't ya love the name of that rule?)
So hopefully hiring these folks won't break the bank. If I can get the amount lowered substantially it'll be worth it. And it will sever the final remaining loose end with xAH. What a bonus that will be!
Anyway, I am finally meeting with a lawyer tomorrow to find out how much it's going to cost me to get out of this altogether or at least lower the amount I end up paying. Apparently there is at least a chance I will get out of it totally under something called the innocent spouse rule (don't ya love the name of that rule?)
So hopefully hiring these folks won't break the bank. If I can get the amount lowered substantially it'll be worth it. And it will sever the final remaining loose end with xAH. What a bonus that will be!
Made and amends today…question
Today I made an amends to a family member (my Uncle). I owed him about $4000.00. After telling everything, I was about to give him a check, but he said don't worry about that. Keep the money. He said he and his wife were more concerned that I was doing well and that was good enough for him. I asked if he was sure and said I had the check right here, he still wouldn't take it.
It took a long time to save that money. More money than I've had in one spot for a very long time. So being able to keep it was a bonus.
Here's the question...do I insist he take it? My sponsor said he forgot to tell me that I should insist. Then he said that my heart was in the right spot and that's what counts.
What do you think?
Mark
It took a long time to save that money. More money than I've had in one spot for a very long time. So being able to keep it was a bonus.
Here's the question...do I insist he take it? My sponsor said he forgot to tell me that I should insist. Then he said that my heart was in the right spot and that's what counts.
What do you think?
Mark
libido and alcohol
just wondering,did you feel your libido was supressed while drinking and when you stopped did it come back with a vengance or very little or not at all?One of the reason I liked drinking was it supressed it and I didnt think about sex which was a good thing as I found it very difficult to find a partner so it was in fact a bonus thing.
