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Hiya, new to the site and a question…
I had been drinking for about 20 years, then a couple of weeks ago I faced losing my family because of my addiction. I quit drinking and haven't had any real cravings or wants except one night when we went to Hooter's, then bowling for my son's 15th birthday, I missed "knocking off the edge". My problem is that I'm sure like others, I get extremely bored and am easily agitated almost all the time. Will this agitation subside as I continue to get used to sobriety, or is it something I will have to constantly work on? Since quitting, it is sometimes very difficult to just "put on a happy face". Some things just **** me off and since I don't have a way to numb these feelings anymore, I tend to get frustrated very often. I appreciate anyone else's input especially if they have had similar experiences.
Fear of Change & Having a social life while sober
Sorry everyone, this is kind of a two-for-one here.
I think one of the biggest blocks to my staying sober (as of a year ago, I have not been able to stay sober longer than two weeks, before that it was much shorter) was fear of having a new life.
I've had one foot in A.A. and the other foot out for the last two years.
I've been too afraid to fully climb aboard A.A. because I feared it would be boring, sterile and bland. I'm afraid of the stigma of being part of a 'cult'.
I don't know how to socialize with people while sober.
I have held back telling my friends (or the ones I have left- who all drink to excess) that I can't go out with them anymore (and to do *anything* with them is to go out and drink). The rare times I have gone out with them and not drink, they're practically in convulsions by the end because they're jonesing to go to a bar.
I can't go on Myspace or Facebook anymore because everyone of my friend's status says something to the extent of 'I'm going out to a bar'. Sometimes just even seeing these people faces makes me want to drink because of the association.
I live in a town where pretty much the only fun for people is go out to a bar.
Even during the monthly Art Walk (where you get to go to all the Museum's in the city for free) there is complimentary wine (my drink of choice) EVERYWHERE.
It seems with everything that's fun to do here, there is some element of alcohol present. Nice restaurant? = HUGE wine list!
And I have not yet mastered being able to go to a bar or other situation where there is drinking and not drink. I've tried and I've done it before but I usually end up being bored, having a panic attack or giving in to the first drink.
But I need to socialize!
The only other option is to completely surrender myself to A.A.
I have issues with going to meetings all the time. I have issues with going to the meetings at night because I feel really amped up afterwards and can;t sleep from the coffee or have alot of my mind. Many of the night meetings are in area's I don't feel safe or have alot of horny young guys which I find irritating and distracting and they seem to be the only ones who will talk to me!
The morning and afternoon meetings are great, but by the time evening rolls around, I'm bored and I simply forget that I'm trying to quit drinking.
I know what the answer to this is, is to call people in A.A. and see if they want to do something, but it's been alot of my experience that they're too busy or untrusting of me because I can't seem to get thirty days together.
I lost a dear friend in A.A. over my constant relapses, and there seems to be this wariness of newcomer's, though I totally understand.
I can't just sit at home alone in front of my computer every night.
Does anyone have any suggestions for what they did for fun in early sobriety?
Thanks alot!
I think one of the biggest blocks to my staying sober (as of a year ago, I have not been able to stay sober longer than two weeks, before that it was much shorter) was fear of having a new life.
I've had one foot in A.A. and the other foot out for the last two years.
I've been too afraid to fully climb aboard A.A. because I feared it would be boring, sterile and bland. I'm afraid of the stigma of being part of a 'cult'.
I don't know how to socialize with people while sober.
I have held back telling my friends (or the ones I have left- who all drink to excess) that I can't go out with them anymore (and to do *anything* with them is to go out and drink). The rare times I have gone out with them and not drink, they're practically in convulsions by the end because they're jonesing to go to a bar.
I can't go on Myspace or Facebook anymore because everyone of my friend's status says something to the extent of 'I'm going out to a bar'. Sometimes just even seeing these people faces makes me want to drink because of the association.
I live in a town where pretty much the only fun for people is go out to a bar.
Even during the monthly Art Walk (where you get to go to all the Museum's in the city for free) there is complimentary wine (my drink of choice) EVERYWHERE.
It seems with everything that's fun to do here, there is some element of alcohol present. Nice restaurant? = HUGE wine list!
And I have not yet mastered being able to go to a bar or other situation where there is drinking and not drink. I've tried and I've done it before but I usually end up being bored, having a panic attack or giving in to the first drink.
But I need to socialize!
The only other option is to completely surrender myself to A.A.
I have issues with going to meetings all the time. I have issues with going to the meetings at night because I feel really amped up afterwards and can;t sleep from the coffee or have alot of my mind. Many of the night meetings are in area's I don't feel safe or have alot of horny young guys which I find irritating and distracting and they seem to be the only ones who will talk to me!
The morning and afternoon meetings are great, but by the time evening rolls around, I'm bored and I simply forget that I'm trying to quit drinking.
I know what the answer to this is, is to call people in A.A. and see if they want to do something, but it's been alot of my experience that they're too busy or untrusting of me because I can't seem to get thirty days together.
I lost a dear friend in A.A. over my constant relapses, and there seems to be this wariness of newcomer's, though I totally understand.
I can't just sit at home alone in front of my computer every night.
Does anyone have any suggestions for what they did for fun in early sobriety?
Thanks alot!
Getting hacked off with being straight..
Apologise in advance.. I just need to sound off..
I've been sober almost 11 months given 1 relapse.. But just when with the aid of a counseller I'm telling myself its all green shoots and its all behind me, I now feel like I'm bored with it all, bored with trying to recover and carve out a new me, bored with 'looking inwards at myself and my emotions' and frankly just want to go out forget it all and have some, err, booze.
Is this common? Its almost like the process of proving I could do without it was a challenge and was in some ways fun. Now I'm feel like I want to go back to my old ways.
I've been sober almost 11 months given 1 relapse.. But just when with the aid of a counseller I'm telling myself its all green shoots and its all behind me, I now feel like I'm bored with it all, bored with trying to recover and carve out a new me, bored with 'looking inwards at myself and my emotions' and frankly just want to go out forget it all and have some, err, booze.
Is this common? Its almost like the process of proving I could do without it was a challenge and was in some ways fun. Now I'm feel like I want to go back to my old ways.
Going clean into the future
Hello.
I quit cold turkey. I was like 4 years drunk. It is my 45th day of being sober(i just had 2 glasses of light alcohol).
The first month was terrible. The most painful was the anxiety, fear of goind mad and depression. That was a good lesson for not drinking alcohol again. I don't feel like drinking. I feel less anxiety now(but the anxiety is not totally gone). I drank a glass of wine yesterday and my anxiety was gone :( . I fear that i will drink my whole life to get rid of anxiety. I don't like those thoughts.
I also have a fear from the future( i just graduated). I am bored most of the time.
Anyone experienced something like that?
Please tell me something to make me feel more strong. I appreciate any kind of answers
Thank you
I quit cold turkey. I was like 4 years drunk. It is my 45th day of being sober(i just had 2 glasses of light alcohol).
The first month was terrible. The most painful was the anxiety, fear of goind mad and depression. That was a good lesson for not drinking alcohol again. I don't feel like drinking. I feel less anxiety now(but the anxiety is not totally gone). I drank a glass of wine yesterday and my anxiety was gone :( . I fear that i will drink my whole life to get rid of anxiety. I don't like those thoughts.
I also have a fear from the future( i just graduated). I am bored most of the time.
Anyone experienced something like that?
Please tell me something to make me feel more strong. I appreciate any kind of answers
Thank you
what am i in for?
Hi, this is my first post and I know this information is probably somewhere else on the forums but I'm no good at navigating any kind of forums so I'll just ask. First off, I'm 23 years old and would not have considered myself a heavy drinker by any means until the last month. This past month I have drank every single day without a miss. I was drinking because I had the money and I was bored all the time, but now I find myself actually craving alcohol and thinking about it on a regular basis. I'm not to the point where I'm drinking at work yet but I know that might not be too far off. Also the money is gone and I'm actually coming up with schemes to get the money for more booze. This has to stop and it has to stop quick or I'll end up like the rest of my family who are almost all alcoholics(i mean long term). I guess I got a good head start in realizing that I have a problem and it need to fix it so my question is aside from loss of sleep and anxiety what will my body go through while not drinking and should I see a doctor at this point or have I not drank long enough yet? I'm pretty terrified about DTs or something really bad happening to me since I'm going cold turkey.
Got chewed out by the counselor
I have been here reading the past few days..don't know if I had told you all the latest. Last Wednesday got a call from the rehab that AS was having suicidal ideations, and somewhat of a breakdown, that they were transporting him to a psych hospital for an eval..probably 48-72 hours. The counselor had called and told me the hospital and the number in case I wanted to check on him. As a mom and also an EMT I heard psych hospital and know some of the places we bring out patients too so my head was reeling...
I heard from my son that night, he said he just had racing thoughts, suicidal thoughts, and we talked for a bit. He never once said he wanted to come home...the 48-72 hours turned into almost 6 days. He got discharged back to rehab today. Over the course of the 6 days we spoke a few times. Especially over the weekend when there were no groups or anything and he was bored out of his head. He called and we talked about what the rehab was like, stuff so innocent that he got to grocery shop for himself there, and what should he buy, to other stuff about the counselor and that she had met with him only once and she said stuff that really got him thinking....so he called me today and told me the doctor had come in and discharged him he was just waiting for the papers..and I heard the nurse ask him if he was talking to the rehab and he said no, my mom, and she said "have her call over there and have them call us and ask for Dolly (the case worker). I thought this was weird, but I called the rehab, and left a message with the lady there, that the hospital told me to call and have you call them. A bit later, my son calls and said the driver from the rehab showed up..I told them that I didn't tell them he was ready..but just to call and see.
Then the counselor called me and chewed me out. Saying that I spoke with him every day, and that I wasn't supposed to. That she is sure he begged me to come home and I swear, HE NEVER DID. I told her that, and that he said it was tough, but we talked about it...that's what he needs, he needs to grow up, he will be stronger...and she said that he was manipulating me, and that the driver showed up and wasted time cause he wasn't ready...and I needed to be on the same page as her for things to get better. I was pretty much crying because I'm an emotional train wreck as it is, and with someone kinda telling you off it made me real upset. I told her I do like the program, that it was a complete misunderstanding, and I do not want to be on bad terms with her. She said she was sorry if she came on very strong, but she is very passionate about what she does, she knows it works, but I have to stay with her on things. She thinks this whole hospital thing, was a maneouver by my son to get drugs. i don't know. He didn't sound that way to me, he never begged to come home, he told me he was mad at having to stay there so long, but what was he gonna do...but wait..he just didn't want to go backwards in his treatment process. I'm sure they are used to all the tricks in the book, but isn't it possible not everything is a trick?
She said she'd call me at the end of the week for an update, that if my son sneaks a phone call, I'm to let her know immediately. I hope he does the right thing and does not call. He told me he knew he couldn't talk to me when he goes back, that he'd talk to me in a week or so.
Thanks for letting me vent. This whole thing is emotional enough, and I'm all worked up tonight again...I want to go bury my head in some sand.
Eileen
I heard from my son that night, he said he just had racing thoughts, suicidal thoughts, and we talked for a bit. He never once said he wanted to come home...the 48-72 hours turned into almost 6 days. He got discharged back to rehab today. Over the course of the 6 days we spoke a few times. Especially over the weekend when there were no groups or anything and he was bored out of his head. He called and we talked about what the rehab was like, stuff so innocent that he got to grocery shop for himself there, and what should he buy, to other stuff about the counselor and that she had met with him only once and she said stuff that really got him thinking....so he called me today and told me the doctor had come in and discharged him he was just waiting for the papers..and I heard the nurse ask him if he was talking to the rehab and he said no, my mom, and she said "have her call over there and have them call us and ask for Dolly (the case worker). I thought this was weird, but I called the rehab, and left a message with the lady there, that the hospital told me to call and have you call them. A bit later, my son calls and said the driver from the rehab showed up..I told them that I didn't tell them he was ready..but just to call and see.
Then the counselor called me and chewed me out. Saying that I spoke with him every day, and that I wasn't supposed to. That she is sure he begged me to come home and I swear, HE NEVER DID. I told her that, and that he said it was tough, but we talked about it...that's what he needs, he needs to grow up, he will be stronger...and she said that he was manipulating me, and that the driver showed up and wasted time cause he wasn't ready...and I needed to be on the same page as her for things to get better. I was pretty much crying because I'm an emotional train wreck as it is, and with someone kinda telling you off it made me real upset. I told her I do like the program, that it was a complete misunderstanding, and I do not want to be on bad terms with her. She said she was sorry if she came on very strong, but she is very passionate about what she does, she knows it works, but I have to stay with her on things. She thinks this whole hospital thing, was a maneouver by my son to get drugs. i don't know. He didn't sound that way to me, he never begged to come home, he told me he was mad at having to stay there so long, but what was he gonna do...but wait..he just didn't want to go backwards in his treatment process. I'm sure they are used to all the tricks in the book, but isn't it possible not everything is a trick?
She said she'd call me at the end of the week for an update, that if my son sneaks a phone call, I'm to let her know immediately. I hope he does the right thing and does not call. He told me he knew he couldn't talk to me when he goes back, that he'd talk to me in a week or so.
Thanks for letting me vent. This whole thing is emotional enough, and I'm all worked up tonight again...I want to go bury my head in some sand.
Eileen
Was/Is anyone else vindictive?
i have come to realize by reading all about co-dependancy and alcoholics that i actually was crazy when i lived with my AH. I let him drive me crazy, but I wonder if anyone else was "crazy" like me
see when my husband would pass out, it would bug me and i would either get bored or vindictive, whatever you want to call it and would bug him while he was passed out
examples--
say he would pass out in the living room floor, i would then take off his shirt if he had one on, then turn the air up really high and hide his blanket, yes i know it was mean :c043: so then he would wake up in the middle of the night freezing and i would pretend to be dead asleep or would tell him he must of done something with the blanket lol
he would pass out on the couch, in the chair, whereever, i would then get a permanent marker and write stuff on his face :e058: then take a picture of him- again i know it was mean, and childish, but funny, he never got mad about it, usually laughed about it the next day, except one time he woke up in a hurry to go to work and when he got to work, his buddies started laughing at him and showed him what i done lol, but even then he didnt really get mad, he just told his buddies i was a nutcase and got bored when i couldnt sleep lol
when he drank vodka, i would pour some out then add water, and got away with it for a while, til he put it in the freezer and it froze :e136:
ive done other things but i wont go into them , yall get the point, i was bored couldnt sleep and he was passed out and it annoyed me what can i say, am i the only one who would mess with their drunks when they were passed out? and it wasnt all vindictive, im a naturally sneaky and playful person, im always playing jokes on folks, but sometimes you just get tired of them being passed out every single night my way of coping i guess
see when my husband would pass out, it would bug me and i would either get bored or vindictive, whatever you want to call it and would bug him while he was passed out
examples--
say he would pass out in the living room floor, i would then take off his shirt if he had one on, then turn the air up really high and hide his blanket, yes i know it was mean :c043: so then he would wake up in the middle of the night freezing and i would pretend to be dead asleep or would tell him he must of done something with the blanket lol
he would pass out on the couch, in the chair, whereever, i would then get a permanent marker and write stuff on his face :e058: then take a picture of him- again i know it was mean, and childish, but funny, he never got mad about it, usually laughed about it the next day, except one time he woke up in a hurry to go to work and when he got to work, his buddies started laughing at him and showed him what i done lol, but even then he didnt really get mad, he just told his buddies i was a nutcase and got bored when i couldnt sleep lol
when he drank vodka, i would pour some out then add water, and got away with it for a while, til he put it in the freezer and it froze :e136:
ive done other things but i wont go into them , yall get the point, i was bored couldnt sleep and he was passed out and it annoyed me what can i say, am i the only one who would mess with their drunks when they were passed out? and it wasnt all vindictive, im a naturally sneaky and playful person, im always playing jokes on folks, but sometimes you just get tired of them being passed out every single night my way of coping i guess
Anti Social/bored After Not Drinking For A While
I cut drinking out of my diet completely for about 3 months at the beginning of the year. I slowly began drinking again but now I'm ready to quit once moreh. I'm on my 3rd week of zero alcohol.
It seems like much less fun and I am bored when I go out over the weekend now. I get edgy too. I shouldnt have to rely on alcohol to make things fun. This happens always when I quit and I always start drinking again to bring the fun back.
Anyone else experience this? Any suggestions?
thanks!
It seems like much less fun and I am bored when I go out over the weekend now. I get edgy too. I shouldnt have to rely on alcohol to make things fun. This happens always when I quit and I always start drinking again to bring the fun back.
Anyone else experience this? Any suggestions?
thanks!
I hate weekends
I look forward to them all week at work. Then when they get here. I am just so tired and lazy and depressed.
I dont feel like doing anything....I am bored and sick of just work and home all the time.
I feel bad for feeling like this. There are alot of people here going through some serious things right now and I am complaining that my life sucks.
Sorry guys.
Just feel sad for no reason.
I dont feel like doing anything....I am bored and sick of just work and home all the time.
I feel bad for feeling like this. There are alot of people here going through some serious things right now and I am complaining that my life sucks.
Sorry guys.
Just feel sad for no reason.
I guess I am just needy this weekend…
Sorry for posting so many threads. I have been in a little funk this weekend.
I think it has to do with being bored. I dont get like this during the week when I work.
Anyway. I have replaced my addiction with food.
I have always liked to eat. Dont walk in my house without expecting to be offered something to eat a million times. Grams will make you eat or bug the shyt out of you. LOL.
But its not just the eating. I will go nuts and have the same thoughts about eating as I did with getting high.
I changed my eating habits all last week and did really good. Lost a few pounds. But when I got all down this weekend. I had that same F it thinking about eating. I dont care I need to do something. Thats what I thought to myself.
I am already big as hell. And it isnt helping my back none I am sure. Although I am learning to like myself again. This weight is disgusting and is a huge esteem issue. I was a stick all my life until I got heavy in my addiction about 10 yrs ago. I gained well over 100lbs smoking crack like a maniac. I thought it was the other way around.
Cops use to ask me in Florida when they saw me in the street what the hell my grams was feeding me. Being out there like I was and getting fatter.
I cant get any bigger and really need to lose aot of this weight. It is getting to a crucial health issue point now.
I dont want to end up dieing with a heart attack from being fat. Or getting sugar.
I am lazy too. I really need to get more active. When I get a car again I am joining the Y and start swimmming a few times a week and doing cardio. Plus I need to stay commited to my eating changes. Swimming seems like a good way to get started without getting bored. I get bored just walking on a treadmill. You know what I mean?
Anyway..Anyone have any ideas?
I think it has to do with being bored. I dont get like this during the week when I work.
Anyway. I have replaced my addiction with food.
I have always liked to eat. Dont walk in my house without expecting to be offered something to eat a million times. Grams will make you eat or bug the shyt out of you. LOL.
But its not just the eating. I will go nuts and have the same thoughts about eating as I did with getting high.
I changed my eating habits all last week and did really good. Lost a few pounds. But when I got all down this weekend. I had that same F it thinking about eating. I dont care I need to do something. Thats what I thought to myself.
I am already big as hell. And it isnt helping my back none I am sure. Although I am learning to like myself again. This weight is disgusting and is a huge esteem issue. I was a stick all my life until I got heavy in my addiction about 10 yrs ago. I gained well over 100lbs smoking crack like a maniac. I thought it was the other way around.
Cops use to ask me in Florida when they saw me in the street what the hell my grams was feeding me. Being out there like I was and getting fatter.
I cant get any bigger and really need to lose aot of this weight. It is getting to a crucial health issue point now.
I dont want to end up dieing with a heart attack from being fat. Or getting sugar.
I am lazy too. I really need to get more active. When I get a car again I am joining the Y and start swimmming a few times a week and doing cardio. Plus I need to stay commited to my eating changes. Swimming seems like a good way to get started without getting bored. I get bored just walking on a treadmill. You know what I mean?
Anyway..Anyone have any ideas?
