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Curious Topic…oh and i miss everyone!
Hi everyone! Hope you guys are feeling better by the minute!
I had an interesting conversation with my therapist yesterday and it had to do with J, my exabf (of course lol)! I was asking her if it was common to create a "fantasy life" for an ex? What i mean is, I've been having quite a rough time the past month (job moved, father in process of lung transplant and so on). I AUTOMATICALLY revert back to J and how WONDERFUL his life must be right now and wishing he came crawling back missing me!!! She also told me that when other things go badly we tend to throw everything that we are sad about in the mix.
It's weird, we hardly had a week of any normalcy without drama and chaos, yet i always think that now that we are no longer together that his life is a bowl of cherries. I know that some of you will say who cares, and for the most part i don't care but am curious as to how many others have felt this way....and when the hell does it end lol!!
I know that he did me the favor of leaving but i think that sometimes i let my mind get the best of me and get bummed out at the thought of me struggling my butt off over here while he lays in a bed of roses around the corner!!
HELP....what do you do in those times of wondering and mind wandering!!!!!!
I had an interesting conversation with my therapist yesterday and it had to do with J, my exabf (of course lol)! I was asking her if it was common to create a "fantasy life" for an ex? What i mean is, I've been having quite a rough time the past month (job moved, father in process of lung transplant and so on). I AUTOMATICALLY revert back to J and how WONDERFUL his life must be right now and wishing he came crawling back missing me!!! She also told me that when other things go badly we tend to throw everything that we are sad about in the mix.
It's weird, we hardly had a week of any normalcy without drama and chaos, yet i always think that now that we are no longer together that his life is a bowl of cherries. I know that some of you will say who cares, and for the most part i don't care but am curious as to how many others have felt this way....and when the hell does it end lol!!
I know that he did me the favor of leaving but i think that sometimes i let my mind get the best of me and get bummed out at the thought of me struggling my butt off over here while he lays in a bed of roses around the corner!!
HELP....what do you do in those times of wondering and mind wandering!!!!!!
Please don’t sign off on mine and I won’t sign off on yours :)
I am still new and one thing I've learned in the MONTHS of being in treatment is "keeping it green". No matter how many days, weeks, months or years I have I should never forget where I came from.
One great thing that I learned about what I do as an addict is my behavior and I learned that a lot of things I was doing was just as bad as picking up a drink or was at least the first step in taking one.
Also, when people make suggestions I should "take the cotton out of my ears and stick it in my mouth" and take a look at what I'm doing because sometimes other people, our peers, friends, family, sober supports see things that we don't because we're in the middle of it or "in our own way" so to speak.
Sobriety isn't a bed of roses, a bowl of cherries, some days it's a living hell and I'm prepared to deal with that with out picking up. Acceptance is key for me.
Anyway, there is a reason why I had to post this and mainly because I was at a group tonight and a gal there had some issues that I addressed and she felt hurt by what I said and when she attacked me I said nothing because that's her stuff, not mine.
I will, however, never sign off on anyone's BS. Why? Because if I make it ok for you to do what ever it is that you're doing, you know what? That means that I just laid down the path to make it ok for me to do in the future. I'm setting myself up for a relapse and that's not ok!!!!
Here goes the final vent of it all......................
If you're going to tell me about your bad behavior I'm going to call you on it and I would expect you to do the same for me.........if you care. ;)
Thanks!! :rant:
One great thing that I learned about what I do as an addict is my behavior and I learned that a lot of things I was doing was just as bad as picking up a drink or was at least the first step in taking one.
Also, when people make suggestions I should "take the cotton out of my ears and stick it in my mouth" and take a look at what I'm doing because sometimes other people, our peers, friends, family, sober supports see things that we don't because we're in the middle of it or "in our own way" so to speak.
Sobriety isn't a bed of roses, a bowl of cherries, some days it's a living hell and I'm prepared to deal with that with out picking up. Acceptance is key for me.
Anyway, there is a reason why I had to post this and mainly because I was at a group tonight and a gal there had some issues that I addressed and she felt hurt by what I said and when she attacked me I said nothing because that's her stuff, not mine.
I will, however, never sign off on anyone's BS. Why? Because if I make it ok for you to do what ever it is that you're doing, you know what? That means that I just laid down the path to make it ok for me to do in the future. I'm setting myself up for a relapse and that's not ok!!!!
Here goes the final vent of it all......................
If you're going to tell me about your bad behavior I'm going to call you on it and I would expect you to do the same for me.........if you care. ;)
Thanks!! :rant:
