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Today I have 9 months!
Today is my 9 month anni. I am so happy to have discovered this forum while searching for another....as well as the support from the NA rooms as well.
Some of the miracles that have happened in my life:
I can think clearly
I remember things
I get along with my husband and boys
I am not prone to outbursts of anger over dumb little things.
I have taken over the family finances (and stayed on budget!)
I continue to keep up with the house AND do extra things as well (canning, etc....last year I let the apples rot in the basement till we had fruit flies everywhere)
I am able to keep appts.
I am doing some job training
I have decided to run for a non-partisan position in my town
I have been working with training a puppy
I have stepped up to the plate to lead a women's study at my church on thursdays and teach sunday school with my husband once a month.
I helped out w/ my sister in laws wedding and was able to be counted on
I am no longer living in fear of who might "find out"
I have learned how to have boundries with my sister who is still using
I have learned how to encourage others as it isn't all about me anymore
These are just a few that come to mind....daily I am able to do more and take on more and I don't feel like I have ADD anymore! LOL
Sheila
Some of the miracles that have happened in my life:
I can think clearly
I remember things
I get along with my husband and boys
I am not prone to outbursts of anger over dumb little things.
I have taken over the family finances (and stayed on budget!)
I continue to keep up with the house AND do extra things as well (canning, etc....last year I let the apples rot in the basement till we had fruit flies everywhere)
I am able to keep appts.
I am doing some job training
I have decided to run for a non-partisan position in my town
I have been working with training a puppy
I have stepped up to the plate to lead a women's study at my church on thursdays and teach sunday school with my husband once a month.
I helped out w/ my sister in laws wedding and was able to be counted on
I am no longer living in fear of who might "find out"
I have learned how to have boundries with my sister who is still using
I have learned how to encourage others as it isn't all about me anymore
These are just a few that come to mind....daily I am able to do more and take on more and I don't feel like I have ADD anymore! LOL
Sheila
Sa?
Hello all, I was here a long time ago when my son was going through recovery from drug and alcohol addiction. He is still doing well, substance wise, over 18 months sober at age 21 and working, going to school, living on his own and I am very proud of him. He is very active in his AA/HA/CA community and does step work, meditation and prayer to his HP, has a sponsor and sponsors a few people. He is very open and honest with me, for the most part.
He recently told me he thinks he is a sex addict and is seeking out an SA sponsor and starting those steps.
Here is my dilemna.
Codie me. He has had to cut back his work hours due to the difficult college major he has chosen, and I know he spends a lot of time studying and is trying hard. He wants this career path he has chosen and need financial help from me. I required us to sit down and make out a budget and advised where he could cut corners. Based on that, we agreed upon an amount I would give him each month to allow him to keep up his studies and still pay his bills. He feels (and I agree) that it is better for him to live on his own because his life really changed once he had to do that.
But I am a signer on his checking acct and I see that subscriptions to "adult" sites are being charged to him. His laptop screen recently went out - it has been a problem with this laptop we have repaired more than once. I told him flat out I cannot afford a new laptop for him and gave him the information to call the manufacturer to see if it was still under warranty.
I am seriously struggling here with continuing to give him money since he is still paying for the adult sites..........and IMO the laptop screen going out....I wanted to ask him what site he was looking at when it happenned!?!
I do not want to jeopardize his sobriety by requiring him to work too much and either miss meetings/sponsor/step time or college. But knowing what I know, I don't want to enable him with his SA problem. I also don't want to leave him hanging out to dry. I can afford to help him, but I don't want to keep ignoring these concerns I have and I feel bad calling him out about his SA since he was honest and upfront with me about that.
Anyone been in this situation? Any advice?
And if SA is not an appropriate topic on this board, I apologize and admins/mods please remove.
TIA
CIM
He recently told me he thinks he is a sex addict and is seeking out an SA sponsor and starting those steps.
Here is my dilemna.
Codie me. He has had to cut back his work hours due to the difficult college major he has chosen, and I know he spends a lot of time studying and is trying hard. He wants this career path he has chosen and need financial help from me. I required us to sit down and make out a budget and advised where he could cut corners. Based on that, we agreed upon an amount I would give him each month to allow him to keep up his studies and still pay his bills. He feels (and I agree) that it is better for him to live on his own because his life really changed once he had to do that.
But I am a signer on his checking acct and I see that subscriptions to "adult" sites are being charged to him. His laptop screen recently went out - it has been a problem with this laptop we have repaired more than once. I told him flat out I cannot afford a new laptop for him and gave him the information to call the manufacturer to see if it was still under warranty.
I am seriously struggling here with continuing to give him money since he is still paying for the adult sites..........and IMO the laptop screen going out....I wanted to ask him what site he was looking at when it happenned!?!
I do not want to jeopardize his sobriety by requiring him to work too much and either miss meetings/sponsor/step time or college. But knowing what I know, I don't want to enable him with his SA problem. I also don't want to leave him hanging out to dry. I can afford to help him, but I don't want to keep ignoring these concerns I have and I feel bad calling him out about his SA since he was honest and upfront with me about that.
Anyone been in this situation? Any advice?
And if SA is not an appropriate topic on this board, I apologize and admins/mods please remove.
TIA
CIM
Financial Literacy
Hey, need your help on how you handle money. I find im struggling to stick to a budget with my finances and save. ive had a full time job for a while now (thanks be to god) and the income is still feeling new to me, i feel like when I have money, I just have to spend it. ill spend it on music or junk food and if its in savings account, well i just withdraw it....i dont respect it do it?.....any tips or whatever on how you handle money and finances?? any help appreciated. cheers.
