Archive for the ‘Bum’ tag
I passed a tinny test!
In all me misery today on Turkey day "alone" and sick, depressed and longing for some male companion(sad but true)!
I was crying on my front stoop after a phone call that shattered any false shred of naive hope that a unrepairable relationship could be repaired. AN older lady happened to be outside as well. She was smoking.. I haven't had one since before Halloween!! (smoked for 17ish yrs) I probably should have but i didn't !!! Bum a ciggaret!! No i'm not a bum anymore and proud of it. Maybe I shouldn't be though?
I was crying on my front stoop after a phone call that shattered any false shred of naive hope that a unrepairable relationship could be repaired. AN older lady happened to be outside as well. She was smoking.. I haven't had one since before Halloween!! (smoked for 17ish yrs) I probably should have but i didn't !!! Bum a ciggaret!! No i'm not a bum anymore and proud of it. Maybe I shouldn't be though?
Just venting…
So here I am, watching a movie, drinking some coffee, and posting to you guys.
Where's AH? Sitting outside in the cold smoking and drinking and talking politics and philosophy with his friend (I will not let them smoke in the house)... having a grand old time. I want to beat them with sticks.
I work all day! I clean and do the laundry! He's just a BUM! Why am I stuck with all the work and he's the one that gets to have fun? I'm SO outta here.
:skillet
Where's AH? Sitting outside in the cold smoking and drinking and talking politics and philosophy with his friend (I will not let them smoke in the house)... having a grand old time. I want to beat them with sticks.
I work all day! I clean and do the laundry! He's just a BUM! Why am I stuck with all the work and he's the one that gets to have fun? I'm SO outta here.
:skillet
The Gal In The Glass
The Gal In The Glass
When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you queen for a day
Just go to a mirror and look at yourself,
And see what THAT gal has to say.
For it isn't your husband or family or friend
Who judgment upon you must pass;
The gal whose verdict counts most in the end
Is the one staring back from the glass.
Some people may think you a straight-shootin' chum
And call you a person of place
But the gal in the glass says you're only a bum
If you can't look her straight in the face.
She's the gal to please, never mind all the rest
For she's with you clear up to the end,
And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the gal in the glass is your friend.
You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But your final reward will be heartaches and tears
If you've cheated the gal in the glass.
~unknown
When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you queen for a day
Just go to a mirror and look at yourself,
And see what THAT gal has to say.
For it isn't your husband or family or friend
Who judgment upon you must pass;
The gal whose verdict counts most in the end
Is the one staring back from the glass.
Some people may think you a straight-shootin' chum
And call you a person of place
But the gal in the glass says you're only a bum
If you can't look her straight in the face.
She's the gal to please, never mind all the rest
For she's with you clear up to the end,
And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the gal in the glass is your friend.
You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But your final reward will be heartaches and tears
If you've cheated the gal in the glass.
~unknown
Temptaions
I'm sure you all have temptations. So I thought I'd start this thread so we can all talk about it, and share with each other how we said "NO!"
My temptation today came from my neighbor. He didn't know that I quit drinking, and started going to AA. He came over to bum a cig from me. Told me he'd trade me a couple beers for a cig! Oh boy! 10 days ago, I'd have been happy to do it! What a deal! TWO beers for one cig!?!?! But I quickly told him my decision to stop drinking. He apologized and said he'd have never offered if he had known. It was kinda funny, the look on his face was one like he had just ran over my dog.
A good person is an old drinking buddy that finds out you are sobering up, and does all in their power to not tempt you! Definition of an a$$hole...an old drinking buddy that finds out you are sobering up, and brings you a beer to celebrate!
:jail
My temptation today came from my neighbor. He didn't know that I quit drinking, and started going to AA. He came over to bum a cig from me. Told me he'd trade me a couple beers for a cig! Oh boy! 10 days ago, I'd have been happy to do it! What a deal! TWO beers for one cig!?!?! But I quickly told him my decision to stop drinking. He apologized and said he'd have never offered if he had known. It was kinda funny, the look on his face was one like he had just ran over my dog.
A good person is an old drinking buddy that finds out you are sobering up, and does all in their power to not tempt you! Definition of an a$$hole...an old drinking buddy that finds out you are sobering up, and brings you a beer to celebrate!
:jail
Are all active alcoholics bums?
As some of you know, my ASO and I have been separated for 6 weeks now and we have a 9 month old daughter together.
Ever since we separated, he has rarely seen our daughter and is still driniking actively. He and I have an arrangement that he pays for day care. He helped out with the day care bill one week and has not pitched in since. Of course, we have not seen him since either. Now he is saying that he will give me enough for both weeks of day care that he was not around when he gets paid next week. He is supposedly in recovery since yesterday, yet he still does not have 24 hours of sobriety under his belt.
Anyway, I plan to officially file for child support if he does not follow through next week and begins to contribute every week going forward. I can get by without him, too, so sometimes I wonder if it is worth it to go through all the hassle or if I should just move on and accept him for the A/bum he is. However, a part of me thinks that it is only fair that he supports both his children as he does pay child support for his first daughter from a previous marriage already.
My A always took advantage of me even when we lived together because I let him do that. Although he is a functional A with a great job, he never paid rent or utilitites during the few years we were living together. He would buy the groceries most of the time and would pay for most of our entertaining bills (restaurants, outings, etc.), but what he spent never came close to what I spent on the house. His spending was always spontaneous. In other words, he could go out and buy something for the house and get a dress and/or a toy for our daughter, but it was only when he felt like it and was in the mood. He was never good with scheduled payments like rent, utilities, car payments, etc.
What are your thoughts on that? Have you had similar or different experiences with the A's in your life?
Ever since we separated, he has rarely seen our daughter and is still driniking actively. He and I have an arrangement that he pays for day care. He helped out with the day care bill one week and has not pitched in since. Of course, we have not seen him since either. Now he is saying that he will give me enough for both weeks of day care that he was not around when he gets paid next week. He is supposedly in recovery since yesterday, yet he still does not have 24 hours of sobriety under his belt.
Anyway, I plan to officially file for child support if he does not follow through next week and begins to contribute every week going forward. I can get by without him, too, so sometimes I wonder if it is worth it to go through all the hassle or if I should just move on and accept him for the A/bum he is. However, a part of me thinks that it is only fair that he supports both his children as he does pay child support for his first daughter from a previous marriage already.
My A always took advantage of me even when we lived together because I let him do that. Although he is a functional A with a great job, he never paid rent or utilitites during the few years we were living together. He would buy the groceries most of the time and would pay for most of our entertaining bills (restaurants, outings, etc.), but what he spent never came close to what I spent on the house. His spending was always spontaneous. In other words, he could go out and buy something for the house and get a dress and/or a toy for our daughter, but it was only when he felt like it and was in the mood. He was never good with scheduled payments like rent, utilities, car payments, etc.
What are your thoughts on that? Have you had similar or different experiences with the A's in your life?
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I'm just an autistic, worthless, declining... bum who is having a rude awakening about life.
A different kind of prayer
A DIFFERENT KIND OF PRAYER
Heavenly Father,
Help us remember that the" jerk" who
cut us off in traffic last night is a
single mother who worked nine hours
that day and is rushing home to cook
dinner, help with homework,
do the laundry and spend a few
precious moments with her children.
Help us to remember that the pierced,
tattooed, disinterested young man who
can't make change correctly, is a
worried 19-year-old college student,
balancing his apprehension over
final exams with his fear of not getting his
student loans for next semester.
Remind us, Lord, that the scary looking
bum, begging for money in the same spot
every day (who really ought to get a job!)
is a slave to addictions that we can only
imagine in our worst nightmares.
Help us to remember that the old couple
walking annoyingly slow through the
store aisles and blocking our shopping
progress are savoring this moment,
knowing that, based on the
biopsy report she got back last week,
this will be the last year that they
go shopping together.
Heavenly Father, remind us each day that,
of all the gifts you give us,
the greatest gift is love.
It is not enough to share that love
with those we hold dear.
Open our hearts not to just those
who are close to us, but to all humanity.
Let us be slow to judge and quick to forgive,
show patience, empathy and love.
The will of God will never take you where the grace of God cannot protect you.
Be careful how you live. You may be the only Bible some people will
ever read. His love is always with you, His promises are true, And when
we give Him all our cares, You know He will see us through.
Heavenly Father,
Help us remember that the" jerk" who
cut us off in traffic last night is a
single mother who worked nine hours
that day and is rushing home to cook
dinner, help with homework,
do the laundry and spend a few
precious moments with her children.
Help us to remember that the pierced,
tattooed, disinterested young man who
can't make change correctly, is a
worried 19-year-old college student,
balancing his apprehension over
final exams with his fear of not getting his
student loans for next semester.
Remind us, Lord, that the scary looking
bum, begging for money in the same spot
every day (who really ought to get a job!)
is a slave to addictions that we can only
imagine in our worst nightmares.
Help us to remember that the old couple
walking annoyingly slow through the
store aisles and blocking our shopping
progress are savoring this moment,
knowing that, based on the
biopsy report she got back last week,
this will be the last year that they
go shopping together.
Heavenly Father, remind us each day that,
of all the gifts you give us,
the greatest gift is love.
It is not enough to share that love
with those we hold dear.
Open our hearts not to just those
who are close to us, but to all humanity.
Let us be slow to judge and quick to forgive,
show patience, empathy and love.
The will of God will never take you where the grace of God cannot protect you.
Be careful how you live. You may be the only Bible some people will
ever read. His love is always with you, His promises are true, And when
we give Him all our cares, You know He will see us through.
