Archive for the ‘Cell Phone’ tag
I got “the talk” tonight…bad night…
I was told I treat him likes s**t because I ignore him, that I don't do the dishes or clean the house and he has pictures to prove it!!! He said he's been taking photos on his cell phone everyday when he gets home to work to show I don't do dishes/clean? I don't act like I love him. He doesn't have an issue with drinking so he doesn't see where I get off saying he does. He only had 7 beers tonight and wasn't even drunk, so there's no issue. I don't talk to him enough. I don't share my interests to with him. My dogs were brought up that he deals with them so I should accept his drinking. He doesn't hardly get really drunk, like once in his opinion since June. He's done it more than once but I just quit writing it all down since it doesn't do anything.
This all started tonight because he was giving my daughter a little lecture on dating appropriate people. After like 10 minutes of his repetetiveness and me seeing her increasing anxiety I said I think she understands. He stormed out of the bathroom, slammed his hands on the wall, slammed his hands on the fridge LOUD, made everything fall off the fridge. Yelled at me and continued the above talking for somewhere around an hour?
The whole time my 11yr old cousin was here and heard/saw the whole thing. I kinda mentioned it while he was going off that this wasn't an appropriate talk with two little ones who understand everything. Yeah, that didn't go over well either.
So I sat silently listening to the whole line of BS, which made him mad, too. I won't talk to him, I suggested a therapist because I know nothing to do. Otherwise I didn't talk. I'm not speaking with someone who views talking about problems by slamming his fists on the walls and beginning a conversation by yelling at me.
I wanted to cry but I won't let him see me do that anymore.
He suggested after the holidays we finish our relationship up because there's nothing else left. That there wasn't any more for us to do. That I can't accept him as he is, meaning drinking, so it was over. That he felt like imploding and hanging himself everyday because he was so stressed over it(me not doing anything and not being affectionate).
This all started tonight because he was giving my daughter a little lecture on dating appropriate people. After like 10 minutes of his repetetiveness and me seeing her increasing anxiety I said I think she understands. He stormed out of the bathroom, slammed his hands on the wall, slammed his hands on the fridge LOUD, made everything fall off the fridge. Yelled at me and continued the above talking for somewhere around an hour?
The whole time my 11yr old cousin was here and heard/saw the whole thing. I kinda mentioned it while he was going off that this wasn't an appropriate talk with two little ones who understand everything. Yeah, that didn't go over well either.
So I sat silently listening to the whole line of BS, which made him mad, too. I won't talk to him, I suggested a therapist because I know nothing to do. Otherwise I didn't talk. I'm not speaking with someone who views talking about problems by slamming his fists on the walls and beginning a conversation by yelling at me.
I wanted to cry but I won't let him see me do that anymore.
He suggested after the holidays we finish our relationship up because there's nothing else left. That there wasn't any more for us to do. That I can't accept him as he is, meaning drinking, so it was over. That he felt like imploding and hanging himself everyday because he was so stressed over it(me not doing anything and not being affectionate).
Another Crazy Lawsuit
Arkansas man sues McDonald's over nude photos of his wife
DAILY NEWS STAFF
Sunday, November 23rd 2008, 3:46 AM
If you have naked photos of your wife on your cellphone, be sure to keep it safe.
That's sound advice a man in Fayetteville, Arkansas failed to heed.
Phillip Sherman mistakenly left his cell phone behind at a local McDonald's, and now he and his wife, Tina Sherman, are suing the fast food joint for $3 million after nude photos of her that were on the phone found their way to the Internet.
According to the lawsuit, Phillip forgot the phone in July and was assured the employees would keep it safe. However, the naked pictures of Tina ended up online, and the Shermans are blaming the workers at the McDonald's restaurant.
The couple is seeking damages for suffering, embarrassment and the cost of having to move to a new home.
DAILY NEWS STAFF
Sunday, November 23rd 2008, 3:46 AM
If you have naked photos of your wife on your cellphone, be sure to keep it safe.
That's sound advice a man in Fayetteville, Arkansas failed to heed.
Phillip Sherman mistakenly left his cell phone behind at a local McDonald's, and now he and his wife, Tina Sherman, are suing the fast food joint for $3 million after nude photos of her that were on the phone found their way to the Internet.
According to the lawsuit, Phillip forgot the phone in July and was assured the employees would keep it safe. However, the naked pictures of Tina ended up online, and the Shermans are blaming the workers at the McDonald's restaurant.
The couple is seeking damages for suffering, embarrassment and the cost of having to move to a new home.
Overwhelming Change
I'm really hurting today. Right now. And have been for the last 36 hours or so.
You see, though stbXSAH has been saying a lot of hurtful things to me this whole time (since I filed for divorce) and trying to turn all the problems on me, he has also been telling me (in voicemails, emails, and texts) that he still loves me, that he doesn't want to hurt me anymore, that he really does want to work on this whenever I am ready to... until Sunday at 2pm. And he decided that the best way to let me know was via cell phone text message. He said, "Thanks for giving me this time to think. We probably weren't cut out for each other afterall. I wish u the best."
That was it. No explanations. No clarification on why things had to be this way or what had changed his mind. Just "goodbye".
I'm so shredded. Until now I've had hope. Until now I've felt "safe". Until now I haven't totally lost him. We can still "get better" and have a future. Now all that's changed.
I feel like my heart is being squeezed - suffocated. It cannot "breath" - I cannot breath. Any time I try to grasp my feelings and begin to actually address them and FEEL them and work through them, the weeping comes in gushing waves. I don't know what to do. I panic. I try to shore up the feelings, try to stop them. Then the slow, strangling suffocation sets back in on my heart. I'm so alone and so scared. All is quiet here, but the racket inside my head is deafening. How do I make it stop? How do I survive?
My head knows that this action on his part should (now more than ever) prompt the planning of the funeral. I should be writing the eulogy for the dream I married, the dream that doesn't exist in the real. But I don't want to. It hurts too much and I'm scared as he!!.
I want to wake up to find out this was all some awful dream. Wake up in my own house, in my own bed again, with his arms around me. Someone mentioned earlier today that up until this point, codies (myself included) have been able to always neglect their own feelings because as soon as some intense pain or joy came along for the codie, the A would come up with some new major situation, and the codie could put their feelings on hold, eventually forgetting them, and 'fix' the A instead. Now that he's not around, I can't focus all my energy and emotions on fixing him and his problems. Now I have to focus it on me and my emotions and fixing me. And I'm terrified.
I could definitely use your prayers and encouragement. This is so overwhelming.
You see, though stbXSAH has been saying a lot of hurtful things to me this whole time (since I filed for divorce) and trying to turn all the problems on me, he has also been telling me (in voicemails, emails, and texts) that he still loves me, that he doesn't want to hurt me anymore, that he really does want to work on this whenever I am ready to... until Sunday at 2pm. And he decided that the best way to let me know was via cell phone text message. He said, "Thanks for giving me this time to think. We probably weren't cut out for each other afterall. I wish u the best."
That was it. No explanations. No clarification on why things had to be this way or what had changed his mind. Just "goodbye".
I'm so shredded. Until now I've had hope. Until now I've felt "safe". Until now I haven't totally lost him. We can still "get better" and have a future. Now all that's changed.
I feel like my heart is being squeezed - suffocated. It cannot "breath" - I cannot breath. Any time I try to grasp my feelings and begin to actually address them and FEEL them and work through them, the weeping comes in gushing waves. I don't know what to do. I panic. I try to shore up the feelings, try to stop them. Then the slow, strangling suffocation sets back in on my heart. I'm so alone and so scared. All is quiet here, but the racket inside my head is deafening. How do I make it stop? How do I survive?
My head knows that this action on his part should (now more than ever) prompt the planning of the funeral. I should be writing the eulogy for the dream I married, the dream that doesn't exist in the real. But I don't want to. It hurts too much and I'm scared as he!!.
I want to wake up to find out this was all some awful dream. Wake up in my own house, in my own bed again, with his arms around me. Someone mentioned earlier today that up until this point, codies (myself included) have been able to always neglect their own feelings because as soon as some intense pain or joy came along for the codie, the A would come up with some new major situation, and the codie could put their feelings on hold, eventually forgetting them, and 'fix' the A instead. Now that he's not around, I can't focus all my energy and emotions on fixing him and his problems. Now I have to focus it on me and my emotions and fixing me. And I'm terrified.
I could definitely use your prayers and encouragement. This is so overwhelming.
They can be so manipulative
Can you believe AS is not in jail, they realized him the next morning. The officer called me to say " what a lovely, honest, well kept young man he is" She also believes he is telling the truth. He does have a court date set so I will have to testify that I saw him steal the vehicle. As for the credit cards, ID and sentimental bracelet, he claims he left my purse in some bar and when he went back to get it it was empty. Police have identified the two girls on Video using my card. When I spoke to the officer yesterday she said they were putting survelliance on the one girl trying to catch her for identitity fraud. So this girl has my birth certificate , social Insurance number , and drivers licence. How nice!!!!! AS calls me today and says" ya I just got in from a big party bash last nite drank all nite" Next thing out of his mouth is he has no food, he had enough to drink with and probably buy crack, the he says
how nice the cop was and he can probably beat the stolen vehicle charge. I'm so sorry to vent again, just very upset that these addicts are running around with my ID what a violation, and AS doesnt seem to have a care in the world plus they have my cell phone with all my personal numbers and my home address. I hung up the phone on AS and put him on call block. This cop was very young obviously not been on the force too long and does not know how manipulative addict can be. Maybe its a good thing I am still angry.
how nice the cop was and he can probably beat the stolen vehicle charge. I'm so sorry to vent again, just very upset that these addicts are running around with my ID what a violation, and AS doesnt seem to have a care in the world plus they have my cell phone with all my personal numbers and my home address. I hung up the phone on AS and put him on call block. This cop was very young obviously not been on the force too long and does not know how manipulative addict can be. Maybe its a good thing I am still angry.
I just don’t know what to do anymore
For those that don't know - my mom is addicted to prescription painkillers and heroin.
I haven't spoken to her since August when she came to my house and stole from me. She lives with my aunt (who is an alcoholic).
Well I guess her and my aunt got into an argument and my aunt said something along the lines of, "Your own daughter even told me she wants nothing to do with you" - which is true.
So for the last couple of days she is calling my work constantly and when I answer she just starts screaming...so I just hang up immediately without saying anything.
She then calls my cell phone and leaves me horrible messages saying, "You are the worst daughter I could imagine, I want nothing to do with you or your "f"ing wedding and you can go straight to hell"
She's left me 3 messages like this in the last 2 days.
Then last night at about 10pm she called from a private number and when I answered she said, "I hate your "f"ing guts" and then hung up on me.
I just can't take this anymore. When she says these things to me I am SO hurt inside. I don't know how much more of this I can handle...I cried myself to sleep last night thinking over and over about how she said, "I hate your "f"ing guts". How does a mother say that to her child??
I am at a loss about how to completely remove her from my life...she just keeps calling and calling just to hurt me.
I haven't spoken to her since August when she came to my house and stole from me. She lives with my aunt (who is an alcoholic).
Well I guess her and my aunt got into an argument and my aunt said something along the lines of, "Your own daughter even told me she wants nothing to do with you" - which is true.
So for the last couple of days she is calling my work constantly and when I answer she just starts screaming...so I just hang up immediately without saying anything.
She then calls my cell phone and leaves me horrible messages saying, "You are the worst daughter I could imagine, I want nothing to do with you or your "f"ing wedding and you can go straight to hell"
She's left me 3 messages like this in the last 2 days.
Then last night at about 10pm she called from a private number and when I answered she said, "I hate your "f"ing guts" and then hung up on me.
I just can't take this anymore. When she says these things to me I am SO hurt inside. I don't know how much more of this I can handle...I cried myself to sleep last night thinking over and over about how she said, "I hate your "f"ing guts". How does a mother say that to her child??
I am at a loss about how to completely remove her from my life...she just keeps calling and calling just to hurt me.
Slipped, contact with AH last night.
AH # is blocked from my phones but he can still text me. I got a text last night saying he was angry and ashamed for the hurt he causes me, the woman he loves. He's never lived alone before and said it was a humbling experience (no ****, I've done it for a yr and a half and I'm doing it again). He said he knows he needs help. I did bring it up to him how fortunate he was to be alive after his recent intentional OD. I told him how incredibly scared I was to see him in such a condition, which brought on a few tears. He said I saw it for myself and it scared the poop out of me so he could only imagine how I felt ( I taped him on my cell phone in that condition because I wanted him to see what he was like).
I sent the video to him after he had gone. He says "someone is watching over me" and reminded me of two other situations in which he escaped catastrophic injury/death.
He has my RA brothers number but hasn't called him. " I can hardly think of my problems myself, I can't talk to a stranger about them".
I told him I have forgiven him at that I know his disease is the one in control of his life. I asked if he had a plan since he said I need help. He said "no". He just kept saying he loves me and misses me. That he sees all the family's coming out to eat together and knows that's what he wants but he knows I will not tolerate his addiction. So, I'm thinking to myself " go get help".
He was calling himself a looser and so on and I said STOP that it only leads you back to your addiction. I finally said to him that I do believe he loves me but that his love is limited as his addiction is his first love, if it weren't he'd be on his hands and knees begging for help. He said I was right and that he was afraid to give it up and fail again. I said think about what you just said afraid to give it up over your wife and your children and most of all for your peace and serenity. He doesn't want the no contact boundary I said I am putting in place after this last conversation.
No matter what I always kept in contact with him. My RA brother said get out of his way and let him live his life the way he chooses knowing that I will not be a part of it even if it's just contact. RA brother said in eleven yrs you have come far. You've kicked him out when he was using not going back on your decision no matter how hard it has been for you. But he continues to use. He knows he can call you and that you are the one person who loves him unconditionally. Maybe if you are not there and he don't have you to call when he's down and feeling guilty and ashamed it will sink through to him that he can't have his addiction and an emotional connection with you too!!
RA brother said you could be the key to him seeking out recovery for himself but you don't know because you've never gotten completely out of his way. Makes sense to me but AH doesn't like that idea at all (surprise). I said I talk to you and end up having/creating expectations which only hurts me when those expectations don't come to fruition. He did understand that and said he doesn't want to hurt me anymore yet it hurts him not to be able to hear my voice. I told him that I loved him and that no contact was not a way for me to punish him but simply for me and my commitment to take care of me. I told him if he ever decides to seek help, is active in recovery with solid proof of such I'd be happy to hear from him. He said "ok, I understand. I love you" and we said good-bye. I CAN do this. I know I CAN. No more slips. I pray for God's strength because this is my weakest area.
I sent the video to him after he had gone. He says "someone is watching over me" and reminded me of two other situations in which he escaped catastrophic injury/death.
He has my RA brothers number but hasn't called him. " I can hardly think of my problems myself, I can't talk to a stranger about them".
I told him I have forgiven him at that I know his disease is the one in control of his life. I asked if he had a plan since he said I need help. He said "no". He just kept saying he loves me and misses me. That he sees all the family's coming out to eat together and knows that's what he wants but he knows I will not tolerate his addiction. So, I'm thinking to myself " go get help".
He was calling himself a looser and so on and I said STOP that it only leads you back to your addiction. I finally said to him that I do believe he loves me but that his love is limited as his addiction is his first love, if it weren't he'd be on his hands and knees begging for help. He said I was right and that he was afraid to give it up and fail again. I said think about what you just said afraid to give it up over your wife and your children and most of all for your peace and serenity. He doesn't want the no contact boundary I said I am putting in place after this last conversation.
No matter what I always kept in contact with him. My RA brother said get out of his way and let him live his life the way he chooses knowing that I will not be a part of it even if it's just contact. RA brother said in eleven yrs you have come far. You've kicked him out when he was using not going back on your decision no matter how hard it has been for you. But he continues to use. He knows he can call you and that you are the one person who loves him unconditionally. Maybe if you are not there and he don't have you to call when he's down and feeling guilty and ashamed it will sink through to him that he can't have his addiction and an emotional connection with you too!!
RA brother said you could be the key to him seeking out recovery for himself but you don't know because you've never gotten completely out of his way. Makes sense to me but AH doesn't like that idea at all (surprise). I said I talk to you and end up having/creating expectations which only hurts me when those expectations don't come to fruition. He did understand that and said he doesn't want to hurt me anymore yet it hurts him not to be able to hear my voice. I told him that I loved him and that no contact was not a way for me to punish him but simply for me and my commitment to take care of me. I told him if he ever decides to seek help, is active in recovery with solid proof of such I'd be happy to hear from him. He said "ok, I understand. I love you" and we said good-bye. I CAN do this. I know I CAN. No more slips. I pray for God's strength because this is my weakest area.
Retail employee’s post recession tips for Black Friday.
First off, there are fewer of us this year, if you need help you'll have to wait your turn.
If you see a cart in the parking lot near where you park...grab it! More than likely there wont be any where they belong, and if there are, they'll be full of unspeakable trash.
Do NOT leave your cart unattended in the store, it WILL disappear. Not "may", will.
Arrive as early as possible if you want those nifty sales items listed in the paper. "While supplies last" means just that. If you mosey on in after 10:AM, you're pretty well screwed...to put it bluntly.
Because ther are so few of us associates now-a-days please do your research before you come in. Have a plan B.
If an associate is truly rude to you, don't scream at the cashier, ask for a manager.
All Christmas trees are harvested at the same time, if you want a nice looking one, get it early. The longer you wait, the homlier they'll get. I recommend hosing them down when you get home too, they're quite filthy, and some even contain critters!
Yes you look fabulous dressed to the nines, but you're going to be in a lot of LONG lines today, wear comfortable shoes.
The closer you park to the front of the store, the more insanity you'll have to deal with when you leave, and people are truly crazed on Black Friday.
Remember the old saying: You get more bee's with honey than you do with vinager.
In the land of "Duh!":
Do NOT leave your children or your purse unattended.
Keep you receipts if you want a quick returns experience.
If you must talk on your cell phone, find a place thats out of the way.
When you do find an associate, don't just butt in, wait your turn like a civilized human being.
If you see a cart in the parking lot near where you park...grab it! More than likely there wont be any where they belong, and if there are, they'll be full of unspeakable trash.
Do NOT leave your cart unattended in the store, it WILL disappear. Not "may", will.
Arrive as early as possible if you want those nifty sales items listed in the paper. "While supplies last" means just that. If you mosey on in after 10:AM, you're pretty well screwed...to put it bluntly.
Because ther are so few of us associates now-a-days please do your research before you come in. Have a plan B.
If an associate is truly rude to you, don't scream at the cashier, ask for a manager.
All Christmas trees are harvested at the same time, if you want a nice looking one, get it early. The longer you wait, the homlier they'll get. I recommend hosing them down when you get home too, they're quite filthy, and some even contain critters!
Yes you look fabulous dressed to the nines, but you're going to be in a lot of LONG lines today, wear comfortable shoes.
The closer you park to the front of the store, the more insanity you'll have to deal with when you leave, and people are truly crazed on Black Friday.
Remember the old saying: You get more bee's with honey than you do with vinager.
In the land of "Duh!":
Do NOT leave your children or your purse unattended.
Keep you receipts if you want a quick returns experience.
If you must talk on your cell phone, find a place thats out of the way.
When you do find an associate, don't just butt in, wait your turn like a civilized human being.
lost girl…
My husband has a drinking problem. It's like this horrible cycle. He stays out until 11 or 12 and gets drunk; he stays home the next night, but doesn't move from the couch. This makes me angry, and I am not nice to him when he is home, so the next night he goes and gets drunk. And it repeats over and over and over. We used to party together. We used to talk. We used to have so much in common. Now we have a 3 year old, and I don't feel like I can have one drink at all without being a hypocrite. I don't have a problem with drinking. But I don't even want to drink because of what it is doing to my husband, my marriage, my self-confidence, my daughter, our future. I have told him that I feel neglected. He went and got drunk. I told him that we needed to talk; he went camping and got drunk, went to a football game and got drunk, etc. Am i making him drink? Am I making him choose alcohol over me and our daughter? I feel like this is my fault. All of it. I have tried to lay down some rules, but all that does it make him retaliatory. And then I get hurt more. He took my cell phone, password protected the computer at home, he leaves with our only car seat. I used to be so strong and confident. My friends don't even call anymore because I can never keep our plans as I don't know if he is coming home or not, or how drunk he will be when he gets there. I feel so cheated, and well, just plain lost. How did I get here? It's like I woke up one morning, and I am "that" girl. How did this happen? I'm that girl that people feel sorry for, and I don't know how that happened. I am not financially able to leave, and being a child of divorce, I do not want that for my daughter. I just don't know how to get through to him. I don't know what I am supposed to do, and I certainly do not know how to fix this.
I feel so lost…
I am probably posting in the wrong place, I am very sorry.
My husband has a drinking problem. It's like this horrible cycle. He stays out until 11 or 12 and gets drunk; he stays home the next night, but doesn't move from the couch. This makes me angry, and I am not nice to him when he is home, so the next night he goes and gets drunk. And it repeats over and over and over. We used to party together. We used to talk. We used to have so much in common. Now we have a 3 year old, and I don't feel like I can have one drink at all without being a hypocrite. I don't have a problem with drinking. But I don't even want to drink because of what it is doing to my husband, my marriage, my self-confidence, my daughter, our future. I have told him that I feel neglected. He went and got drunk. I told him that we needed to talk; he went camping and got drunk, went to a football game and got drunk, etc. Am i making him drink? Am I making him choose alcohol over me and our daughter? I feel like this is my fault. All of it. Is our life so awful that he feels like he HAS to drink? I have tried to lay down some rules, but all that does it make him retaliatory. And then I get hurt more. He gets so mean. He took my cell phone, password protected the computer at home, he leaves with our only car seat. I used to be so strong and confident. My friends don't even call anymore because I can never keep our plans as I don't know if he is coming home or not, or how drunk he will be when he gets there. I feel so cheated, and well, just plain lost. How did I get here? It's like I woke up one morning, and I am "that" girl. How did this happen? I'm that girl that people feel sorry for, and I don't know how that happened. I am not financially able to leave, and being a child of divorce, I do not want that for my daughter. I just don't know how to get through to him. I don't know what I am supposed to do, and I certainly do not know how to fix this. I just don't know what to do... I know that I am not alone in the way that I feel, but I am alone in this marriage. I just want to be able to fix this so badly.
My husband has a drinking problem. It's like this horrible cycle. He stays out until 11 or 12 and gets drunk; he stays home the next night, but doesn't move from the couch. This makes me angry, and I am not nice to him when he is home, so the next night he goes and gets drunk. And it repeats over and over and over. We used to party together. We used to talk. We used to have so much in common. Now we have a 3 year old, and I don't feel like I can have one drink at all without being a hypocrite. I don't have a problem with drinking. But I don't even want to drink because of what it is doing to my husband, my marriage, my self-confidence, my daughter, our future. I have told him that I feel neglected. He went and got drunk. I told him that we needed to talk; he went camping and got drunk, went to a football game and got drunk, etc. Am i making him drink? Am I making him choose alcohol over me and our daughter? I feel like this is my fault. All of it. Is our life so awful that he feels like he HAS to drink? I have tried to lay down some rules, but all that does it make him retaliatory. And then I get hurt more. He gets so mean. He took my cell phone, password protected the computer at home, he leaves with our only car seat. I used to be so strong and confident. My friends don't even call anymore because I can never keep our plans as I don't know if he is coming home or not, or how drunk he will be when he gets there. I feel so cheated, and well, just plain lost. How did I get here? It's like I woke up one morning, and I am "that" girl. How did this happen? I'm that girl that people feel sorry for, and I don't know how that happened. I am not financially able to leave, and being a child of divorce, I do not want that for my daughter. I just don't know how to get through to him. I don't know what I am supposed to do, and I certainly do not know how to fix this. I just don't know what to do... I know that I am not alone in the way that I feel, but I am alone in this marriage. I just want to be able to fix this so badly.
Need advise - AS selling drugs?
My 18 yo AS went through a 28 day rehab and returned home 2 weeks ago. Within a week of returning home, he was using again. One of our boundaries was that if he was using, he could not live at home. He left, with his car, not much money, no job, no clothes, etc. He has been staying with a friend of his (I think his drug dealer). We turned off his cell phone the day after he left. He has come home 1 time in the last week to get a change of clothes.
Tonight, we receive a call from my AS best friend's parents. His best friend has been out of town for the past 5 weeks just as my AS was going into rehab. This friend was doing drugs with my son prior to his leaving town 5 weeks ago. This friend is back in town today. Tonight, he tells his parents that my AS is now dealing drugs to make money. This has just happened in this last week after we made him leave.
I am completely devastated. I don't know what to do. I can't believe my baby boy is doing this.
Tomorrow morning we plan to go over to where he is staying and retrieve his car. The car is also in my name, so I can legally take it. We are then going to dismantle it so it cannot be driven. This should at least make it more difficult for him.
I have written my AS a letter that I plan to drop off when we get the car. Basically, I tell him how much his father and I love him and that we would like him to come home and choose recovery. I then tell him that we have heard he is dealing drugs from his best friend so we have taken the car. Again, I tell him how much we love him. I then point out that dealing drugs is a felony. We, along with his best friend's parents, plan to go talk to the parent of the boy my son is staying with. He lives with just his dad. We plan on telling him what is going on. All these boys are just 18 yo. I then tell him again how much we love him and that he needs to make his own decisions, but they need to be legal ones.
Has anyone else been through this and could you please give me some advice?
Help!
Kathy
Tonight, we receive a call from my AS best friend's parents. His best friend has been out of town for the past 5 weeks just as my AS was going into rehab. This friend was doing drugs with my son prior to his leaving town 5 weeks ago. This friend is back in town today. Tonight, he tells his parents that my AS is now dealing drugs to make money. This has just happened in this last week after we made him leave.
I am completely devastated. I don't know what to do. I can't believe my baby boy is doing this.
Tomorrow morning we plan to go over to where he is staying and retrieve his car. The car is also in my name, so I can legally take it. We are then going to dismantle it so it cannot be driven. This should at least make it more difficult for him.
I have written my AS a letter that I plan to drop off when we get the car. Basically, I tell him how much his father and I love him and that we would like him to come home and choose recovery. I then tell him that we have heard he is dealing drugs from his best friend so we have taken the car. Again, I tell him how much we love him. I then point out that dealing drugs is a felony. We, along with his best friend's parents, plan to go talk to the parent of the boy my son is staying with. He lives with just his dad. We plan on telling him what is going on. All these boys are just 18 yo. I then tell him again how much we love him and that he needs to make his own decisions, but they need to be legal ones.
Has anyone else been through this and could you please give me some advice?
Help!
Kathy
