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When I get mad, I drink. But I'm not drinking anymore. Well, actually, I'm drinking Diet Coke even though I don't really need the caffeine at 9pm because I was physically thirsty and emotionally, I really needed to crack open something.

I'm mad at a chick at work. It's just your run-of-the-mill stuff... this wasn't my best friend since kindergarten or anything but we were close work friends and I just discovered she's been throwing me under the bus. I'm at home now and I'm still mad. Mad mad mad mad mad.

I don't do mad. I avoid mad. I bury mad. When I found out my ex-husband was cheating on me, I didn't get mad. I did, however, get drunk. Ridiculously drunk, actually. I am really good at getting drunk and avoiding mad. Drunk was so much better to me than mad, you see. But now drunk is not an option and this stupid Diet Coke is not helping at all. I don't know how to get comfortable in my skin right now. I want to rip someone's head off. I don't like this. I can't even bury it for a few days until I can drink. I can't drink to solve this problem because that's not an option anymore. But that was my only approach... Drink until you forget or until you make enough of an ass of yourself that you have a new problem to be ashamed of. Just don't stay mad. Nice girls like me don't get mad, you know. That wouldn't be classy. (Like drinking a 12-pack on a Tuesday was real classy, huh?)

How do you deal with strong emotions now that you're sober???


ETA -- shoot, I just realized that I meant to put this in the newcomers forum. I have no clue how to move it, sorry!

Hi,
I'm wondering if anyone has any experience with this.

I'm married to a man who has an alcohol problem. We're both around 30 yrs old. For the last year, we would fight constantly cuz of his drinking.

He stopped drinking in August this year, and since then, I thot things were great between us. We get along, we don't fight and it's like we're newlyweds again.

Back in February, he googled some pretty hurtful things and I found out and confronted him. Since then, I've been checking his phone records and e-mails and there hasn't been anything bad. As my trust grew, I snooped less and less.

I went away for a conference this past weekend and when I came back, I checked, and all evidence points to him cheating on me, and not only that, but drinking (he googled the local liquor store - to check for hours probably). I haven't confronted him yet, but I've been gathering 'evidence' and now it's pretty clear.

Anyway, I don't really know what to do now. Has anyone's partner cheated AFTER they got sober? I would have kind of understood it back when he was drinking, but this really hurts.

Any thoughts?

hope

Okay, so this post basically says it all. IM DONE!!! My now ex b/f has been doing really good lately in the keeping clean area, and I still pray he continues on the right path but I'm just done. I've been doing everything I can and he still always accuses me of cheating on him...like I can't even do anything without him saying I must be cheating, including driving to his house...I'll be on my way to see him, and he says someone is with me and I must be taking them home on my way. He wants me to call him before I leave home, when I get to work, when I get back home, if I go to the store, take a shower, etc, I could go on forever!! Well I've been doing these things thinking that they would help him get better and prove to him I am faithful, nothing does. He tries to make me feel like I am worthless, I'm assuming so I will think no one else would want me I dunno. Well tonight when I got off work he was acting retarded as usual, I was being nice as usual, and when we hung up he sent me a text saying "It's over, I can't do this anymore, I know you cheat on me, I'm just done." I said well thats a nice attitude to have, and he replied with "I hate you, you lie to me, cheat on me, I feel it everytime I think of you that you hurt me, just admit it, and leave me alone, and go away. I hate you." Okay so I said, I don't lie to you, I don't cheat on you, but you do treat me like ****, and make me feel worthless, and since you don't respect me and hate me I will go away....and then I turned off my phone..and haven't turned it on since. He called my house around the time I got home and talked to my mom who told him I didn't want to talk. He told her to tell me to read my text msgs...but I'm not because I don't want to get sucked back in..I am going tomorrow to get my # changed. No matter how much I love him I just cant do it anymore..its not fair to me..and I have to start living for ME again. Please give me some advice if you have it.

alli

I need some advice: I want to tell my 17 yr old son's girlfriend something that will probably make them break up. He smokes cigarettes & she forbids that because she watched her grandfather die from emphysema & it affected her greatly. He says he won't quit for her. My son also has had past abuses with alchohol & marijuana, which she knows about. But she doesn't know about his past abuse with cocaine, & his most recent use of salvia (a legal hallucinogen), and about cheating on her in the past! The only reason I want to tell her or her parents is because I am sickened at what my son has become & I wouldn't want my daughter dating someone like my son. I love my son greatly & we used to be really close til he started partying (& lying & deceiving, etc.) last year. The only thing stopping me from talking to her parents or her is that my son has an anger management problem & this will certainly cause a major fit. The last time I told his girlfriend about smoking cigarettes, before I knew how she felt about it, he exploded & threw furniture around & I had to go to the police station to consult with a police officer. I decided not to get the police involved then, with my son agreeing to get help (again) & stop smoking. He's still smoking & as far as I know avoiding partying, but then again what do I know. By the way, it wouldn't be such a bad thing for him to not have a girlfriend, but he's very popular so I don't think that would stay like that long. I have tried getting him so much help, for many years, so without getting even more involved with that, my question remains, should I talk to his girlfriend &/or his parents? Thank you.:praying