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The Old -2 -The New!!!!!
The Old -2 -The New!!!!!
Current mood: content
Category: Life
♥ Well here is to a Old Year, and to a New One, well I see^^ it
like this we Out Grow our Cloths, and our Children grow, I believe
in order to get to the next Level, we most let go of the old Level!
weather be the Level of Mentality,or Attitudes & Behaviors,or People! and Grow Up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
this year I'm Bless! God is my Architect, he is defining me in to his Level of Grace!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
were I know all alone I could not have don't it ,He is Great in Power.!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
only He could change the circumstances in your Life!! We See^^ God like some
type of M.T.A machine, or our own personal Jeannie in the bottle, but we miss the hall Pic! the best Gift was Giving his Son Jesus Christ,! and Giving us Free Salvation,! some of us choose this Salvation,! and some of us don't,! but He is My Potter! and Architect,! He is writhing my Life Story,! I'm in His hands!!!
He is constructing my Life!! Re-arranging it!! to His Image! and Likeness!
I'm going to the Next Level in my Life!! weather all seems^^ uncertainty,!
and Like nothing makes seance, well all I could do is Trust in Him!!
and the Might of His Power!! he never Fail me! We Fail Him! Mans,& Fam, so call Friends could fail you,! but He never fails,!♥ I Love God for who He is, His Essence!♥ and Loving Grace!♥ He sheds upon Me everyday!♥ I Love U Jesus♥ xoxooxoxoxox ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥xoxoxox
I Love Him♥ I'm in Love with Jesus♥ his been Good to me! Not deserving! anything!
He gave it His all♥ Muahzzzzzzzzzzz♥♥♥♥♥I Luv U ♥♥♥Jesus♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ this year I Learn allot of things Positive, and also Negative about me, but the good thing is that in Christ you don't have to put up a Mask! or Front into something your! Naa you could B♥U all around Him!! cause He created U! He knows who you are! so yeah!!! I'm going to my Next Level in Him !!!!
I.m Learning,& Growing in Him! Only in Him!!!!!!!!Tata!!See^^ Ya
Next Year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!♥ :nyaj
Current mood: content
Category: Life
♥ Well here is to a Old Year, and to a New One, well I see^^ it
like this we Out Grow our Cloths, and our Children grow, I believe
in order to get to the next Level, we most let go of the old Level!
weather be the Level of Mentality,or Attitudes & Behaviors,or People! and Grow Up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
this year I'm Bless! God is my Architect, he is defining me in to his Level of Grace!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
were I know all alone I could not have don't it ,He is Great in Power.!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
only He could change the circumstances in your Life!! We See^^ God like some
type of M.T.A machine, or our own personal Jeannie in the bottle, but we miss the hall Pic! the best Gift was Giving his Son Jesus Christ,! and Giving us Free Salvation,! some of us choose this Salvation,! and some of us don't,! but He is My Potter! and Architect,! He is writhing my Life Story,! I'm in His hands!!!
He is constructing my Life!! Re-arranging it!! to His Image! and Likeness!
I'm going to the Next Level in my Life!! weather all seems^^ uncertainty,!
and Like nothing makes seance, well all I could do is Trust in Him!!
and the Might of His Power!! he never Fail me! We Fail Him! Mans,& Fam, so call Friends could fail you,! but He never fails,!♥ I Love God for who He is, His Essence!♥ and Loving Grace!♥ He sheds upon Me everyday!♥ I Love U Jesus♥ xoxooxoxoxox ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥xoxoxox
I Love Him♥ I'm in Love with Jesus♥ his been Good to me! Not deserving! anything!
He gave it His all♥ Muahzzzzzzzzzzz♥♥♥♥♥I Luv U ♥♥♥Jesus♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ this year I Learn allot of things Positive, and also Negative about me, but the good thing is that in Christ you don't have to put up a Mask! or Front into something your! Naa you could B♥U all around Him!! cause He created U! He knows who you are! so yeah!!! I'm going to my Next Level in Him !!!!
I.m Learning,& Growing in Him! Only in Him!!!!!!!!Tata!!See^^ Ya
Next Year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!♥ :nyaj
My Sister called me today
For the first time in years.
I need to "journal" this all out, that phone call and the subsequent phone call "stirred my pot" hugely, I am hoping that I will get some clarity by "journaling with feedback"
As many of you know, I had moved up to "rescue" my family 3 years ago Thanksgiving, and I left maybe 5 months ago, maybe four, not really sure.
The reason I had to "rescue" my family is my sister had an infant and refused to work, leaving my mother to work 100 hour work weeks. long story, blah blah blah much of it is documented here.
My sister is an ex junkie and now a practicing addict on opoids (Dr. prescribed thank you very much med system). She views everyone in the world as how they can add to her life and what she can get from them. She does it so unconsciously as to be nearly unnoticeable. It's just a given "what can I get from this person" is hard wired into who she is.
When I left my "family" and "run away from home" I swore to her that I never wanted to talk to her or any of them ever again, she broke down and sobbing begged me not to "disappear" so I have maintained contact with my sister, but no one else.
I had left some tools there (forgot them) and have been asking her to pick them up and take them to work so I could pick them up for the last few months so I could avoid going to the family property, she has "forgotten" for two months, I eventually did the job I needed those tools for and don't really need them any more, although they are mine, and I "need to get them".
I wasn't really that attached to her picking them up, but under no circumstances was I going to set foot on the family property.
I have called her a number of times in the last few months, twice to ask her about the tools, the other times to see how she was doing and ask about my niece (4 years old), I recently noticed that she never called me, I was the only one that ever called.
I called her from Boston the other day, she sounded great, we had a great conversation, she sounds like she is doing well, she has her eye on a new job, Mom just bought her a new car, my niece is doing great, in the conversation she brought up my tools, and I said yeah, if she could grab them I'd pick them up.
So this morning she knows I am driving up the coast, she calls me, talks for awhile, asks me how I am doing, mentions she is going to pick up my tools so she will have them today, and will I want them today...I am surprised that she called and pleasantly surprised she is concerned for me and doing something for me.
She then asks me about my House generator, we didn't have electricity on the property, everything was solar powered or by "house generators", then she asks me if she could have mine as hers is smoking and about to die.
First I tell her I don't have access to it because it is stored at a friends house, then I relent and say if she drives to meet me (changes a five hour drive into a 3.5 hour drive for me one way) I will pick up my generator and give it to her.
I have no use for it right now, it will be handy during power outages but is by no means a daily necessity for me as it is for her.
After I hung up the phone I was talking to "R" and started to realize I was getting angry, I began to feel manipulated and I realized she had called me for the first time in years and it was the same old story, she needed something, that when I needed my tools 2 months ago she couldn't drive 2 blocks to pick them up, but now she needs something she is suddenly making an effort to not only grab my tools, but to make contact with me.
There is also "other stuff" going on here, my sister is a single mother, the father is in Mexico, and my nickname is "Uncledaddy" for my niece, my "job" was to be the stable male father figure for my niece. As R and I talked she started asking me questions about my niece then asked me who did Bella (niece) have in her life that was a stable male figure.
I got profoundly disturbed, and realized I had started taking distance from my niece about two years ago when I realized that she was my sister's "dream tool" for manipulating me and others, as a matter of fact, that was "the hook" they used to get me to come run the family business, "If you don't come save us, the baby will starve" and my sister used her frequently and even joked about it, during one fight I told my sister she was a "***** without the benefits" because quite frankly that's what she is and how she treats others.
I really like her, she's funny, fun to be around, smart, but she is so geared like a junkie and "what can I get from this situation and this person" is so much a part of who she is I decided I couldn't be around her.
So right now, I am very very deeply disturbed, and I actually had to ask to hang up the phone with R because I was getting so "stirred up" by what had just taken place with my sister, I was beginning to get very angry and feel manipulated by my sister, then when R asked me who was my nieces "father figure" my bile rose up and I started saying "that's my job that's my job that's my job" and getting deeply and profoundly disturbed and upset.
Anyhow, I am going to hit "submit new thread" and reread all of this, I have until 1:30 to make a decision about the generator, and need to do some very thorough "work" around my "family of origin" issues that I had been putting off until my deep and festering resentment had a chance to die down.
If you made it this far, thank you for "listening" and if you just skipped to the end, thank you as well I don't blame you a bit.
I need to "journal" this all out, that phone call and the subsequent phone call "stirred my pot" hugely, I am hoping that I will get some clarity by "journaling with feedback"
As many of you know, I had moved up to "rescue" my family 3 years ago Thanksgiving, and I left maybe 5 months ago, maybe four, not really sure.
The reason I had to "rescue" my family is my sister had an infant and refused to work, leaving my mother to work 100 hour work weeks. long story, blah blah blah much of it is documented here.
My sister is an ex junkie and now a practicing addict on opoids (Dr. prescribed thank you very much med system). She views everyone in the world as how they can add to her life and what she can get from them. She does it so unconsciously as to be nearly unnoticeable. It's just a given "what can I get from this person" is hard wired into who she is.
When I left my "family" and "run away from home" I swore to her that I never wanted to talk to her or any of them ever again, she broke down and sobbing begged me not to "disappear" so I have maintained contact with my sister, but no one else.
I had left some tools there (forgot them) and have been asking her to pick them up and take them to work so I could pick them up for the last few months so I could avoid going to the family property, she has "forgotten" for two months, I eventually did the job I needed those tools for and don't really need them any more, although they are mine, and I "need to get them".
I wasn't really that attached to her picking them up, but under no circumstances was I going to set foot on the family property.
I have called her a number of times in the last few months, twice to ask her about the tools, the other times to see how she was doing and ask about my niece (4 years old), I recently noticed that she never called me, I was the only one that ever called.
I called her from Boston the other day, she sounded great, we had a great conversation, she sounds like she is doing well, she has her eye on a new job, Mom just bought her a new car, my niece is doing great, in the conversation she brought up my tools, and I said yeah, if she could grab them I'd pick them up.
So this morning she knows I am driving up the coast, she calls me, talks for awhile, asks me how I am doing, mentions she is going to pick up my tools so she will have them today, and will I want them today...I am surprised that she called and pleasantly surprised she is concerned for me and doing something for me.
She then asks me about my House generator, we didn't have electricity on the property, everything was solar powered or by "house generators", then she asks me if she could have mine as hers is smoking and about to die.
First I tell her I don't have access to it because it is stored at a friends house, then I relent and say if she drives to meet me (changes a five hour drive into a 3.5 hour drive for me one way) I will pick up my generator and give it to her.
I have no use for it right now, it will be handy during power outages but is by no means a daily necessity for me as it is for her.
After I hung up the phone I was talking to "R" and started to realize I was getting angry, I began to feel manipulated and I realized she had called me for the first time in years and it was the same old story, she needed something, that when I needed my tools 2 months ago she couldn't drive 2 blocks to pick them up, but now she needs something she is suddenly making an effort to not only grab my tools, but to make contact with me.
There is also "other stuff" going on here, my sister is a single mother, the father is in Mexico, and my nickname is "Uncledaddy" for my niece, my "job" was to be the stable male father figure for my niece. As R and I talked she started asking me questions about my niece then asked me who did Bella (niece) have in her life that was a stable male figure.
I got profoundly disturbed, and realized I had started taking distance from my niece about two years ago when I realized that she was my sister's "dream tool" for manipulating me and others, as a matter of fact, that was "the hook" they used to get me to come run the family business, "If you don't come save us, the baby will starve" and my sister used her frequently and even joked about it, during one fight I told my sister she was a "***** without the benefits" because quite frankly that's what she is and how she treats others.
I really like her, she's funny, fun to be around, smart, but she is so geared like a junkie and "what can I get from this situation and this person" is so much a part of who she is I decided I couldn't be around her.
So right now, I am very very deeply disturbed, and I actually had to ask to hang up the phone with R because I was getting so "stirred up" by what had just taken place with my sister, I was beginning to get very angry and feel manipulated by my sister, then when R asked me who was my nieces "father figure" my bile rose up and I started saying "that's my job that's my job that's my job" and getting deeply and profoundly disturbed and upset.
Anyhow, I am going to hit "submit new thread" and reread all of this, I have until 1:30 to make a decision about the generator, and need to do some very thorough "work" around my "family of origin" issues that I had been putting off until my deep and festering resentment had a chance to die down.
If you made it this far, thank you for "listening" and if you just skipped to the end, thank you as well I don't blame you a bit.
Insanely Insufficient
"In some circumstances we have gone out deliberately to get drunk, feeling ourselves justified by nervousness, anger, worry, depression, jealousy or the like. But even in this type of beginning we are obliged to admit that our justification for a spree was insanely insufficient in the light of what always happened. We now see that when we began to drink deliberately, instead of casually, there was little serious or effective thought during the period of premeditation, of what the terrific consequences might be."
Meltdown …
Today I had a meltdown like no other. I couldn't even believe how negative and mean my thoughts have become. I screamed that I hated everyone (which I don't) and blamed everyone for the circumstances I am in. I did this in front of the A, since he's been doing it to me for years and somehow I needed to release the hate that I've come to feel, back at him. I yelled mean and hateful things about the people who have come to take advantage of me over the years, in my weakened and unhealthy state.
Since I met him 13 years ago, my life has gone completely downhill. I lost all boundaries. I have nothing to measure good and bad with. I feel as though I have nothing to lose anymore (which isn't true) but that feeling is really like hitting a bottom of sorts. I fall and hurt myself all the time, but I'm always in pain so nothing really hurts more than the usual. Can anyone relate to that feeling that it doesn't really matter if you hurt yourself?
I believe that I must join Al-Anon and cannot put it off any longer. Does it REALLY help everyone? I'm just so low that I don't know if it's worth scraping myself off the floor to go. I want to believe in something, but at this point I don't even care about Christmas and I NEVER thought I'd feel that bad.
I still can't believe that someone else's alcoholism has destroyed me that much. I just feel so sick and drained ...
Since I met him 13 years ago, my life has gone completely downhill. I lost all boundaries. I have nothing to measure good and bad with. I feel as though I have nothing to lose anymore (which isn't true) but that feeling is really like hitting a bottom of sorts. I fall and hurt myself all the time, but I'm always in pain so nothing really hurts more than the usual. Can anyone relate to that feeling that it doesn't really matter if you hurt yourself?
I believe that I must join Al-Anon and cannot put it off any longer. Does it REALLY help everyone? I'm just so low that I don't know if it's worth scraping myself off the floor to go. I want to believe in something, but at this point I don't even care about Christmas and I NEVER thought I'd feel that bad.
I still can't believe that someone else's alcoholism has destroyed me that much. I just feel so sick and drained ...
To Drink or Not to Drink….
Hi, All,
I'm new here, and am so glad to have found you all.
I wasn't sure whether to post in Al-Anon, or Women in Sobriety (I am a woman, but not in sobriety.) or Bikers (I ride) and then I found this link, and it looks right... I could use your help...
I am in love with a man I met a year ago. He is everything kind and good, loving and smart. (he is 42) My past relationships have not always had these qualities, and I'm learning to let this Man into my life. Crazy as it is, it was difficult to let the "good" one in.
Anyway... His ex-fiancé died of complications of alcoholism. After his fiancé died, he took to drinking pretty heavily. He stopped on his own accord. He hasn't had anything to drink in 4 years, until earlier this year, when he had a beer with his brother-in-law, who didn't know of the circumstances of the death of BF's fiancé, either.
Before I knew the details of his fiances’ death, we were out with his sister/brother-in-law as part of a cooking event at a winery (!). He mentioned that he wanted to try a glass of wine, so I poured one for him. His Sister about hit the clouds. She told me more about his past then he had mentioned.
I am no saint. I have had my time drinking too much. But I am older (50) and hopefully wiser, and don't do that anymore. I do still enjoy a drink every now and then. I don't want to do this with my boyfriend. After I learned of the dynamics of his past relationship, I told him that I don't want drinking to be part of who we are.
Now's the tricky part. I think he doesn't see his past drinking as a problem. I don't know if he has a problem or not. I know his past involved a lot of drinking, but he stopped. I've had my day in the drinking zone, but I'm not there now.
Is it right of me to have a beer when we are out with friends, when he isn't drinking? Before I knew any of this history, we'd go to family cookouts, and I'd have wine and he'd have tea. No mention no problem. Didn't have a clue.
I wonder a few things, too. Having been married to a drinker, I know the part I played in the continuation of that process. My ex-husband is now 22 years sober!! I'm proud of him. Learning that my Boyfriend's fiance was an alcoholic, and that they used to drink together scares me. I don't want to repeat history, his or mine!!! I think I'm answering my own questions and concerns as I type this. Drinking can't be part of who we are. It can't be part of whom I am when I am with him. I don't want to lose the man I love to a drink.
Your thoughts are appreciated.... ....
I'm new here, and am so glad to have found you all.
I wasn't sure whether to post in Al-Anon, or Women in Sobriety (I am a woman, but not in sobriety.) or Bikers (I ride) and then I found this link, and it looks right... I could use your help...
I am in love with a man I met a year ago. He is everything kind and good, loving and smart. (he is 42) My past relationships have not always had these qualities, and I'm learning to let this Man into my life. Crazy as it is, it was difficult to let the "good" one in.
Anyway... His ex-fiancé died of complications of alcoholism. After his fiancé died, he took to drinking pretty heavily. He stopped on his own accord. He hasn't had anything to drink in 4 years, until earlier this year, when he had a beer with his brother-in-law, who didn't know of the circumstances of the death of BF's fiancé, either.
Before I knew the details of his fiances’ death, we were out with his sister/brother-in-law as part of a cooking event at a winery (!). He mentioned that he wanted to try a glass of wine, so I poured one for him. His Sister about hit the clouds. She told me more about his past then he had mentioned.
I am no saint. I have had my time drinking too much. But I am older (50) and hopefully wiser, and don't do that anymore. I do still enjoy a drink every now and then. I don't want to do this with my boyfriend. After I learned of the dynamics of his past relationship, I told him that I don't want drinking to be part of who we are.
Now's the tricky part. I think he doesn't see his past drinking as a problem. I don't know if he has a problem or not. I know his past involved a lot of drinking, but he stopped. I've had my day in the drinking zone, but I'm not there now.
Is it right of me to have a beer when we are out with friends, when he isn't drinking? Before I knew any of this history, we'd go to family cookouts, and I'd have wine and he'd have tea. No mention no problem. Didn't have a clue.
I wonder a few things, too. Having been married to a drinker, I know the part I played in the continuation of that process. My ex-husband is now 22 years sober!! I'm proud of him. Learning that my Boyfriend's fiance was an alcoholic, and that they used to drink together scares me. I don't want to repeat history, his or mine!!! I think I'm answering my own questions and concerns as I type this. Drinking can't be part of who we are. It can't be part of whom I am when I am with him. I don't want to lose the man I love to a drink.
Your thoughts are appreciated.... ....
Hope.
I am now just barely over two months sober. It's nothing compared to the time I drank. I have no desire to drink at all- if I even see a beer ad, I cringe. I am frightened of the abuse I dealt myself, and never, ever want to go near another drink. I have been anxious, but I've always been- and depressed, due to other circumstances- although this too has been an issue in the past. I try to hope for myself. I hope you try to hope for yourself. I will hope for all of us.
SOS - Suggested Guidelines For Sobriety
Suggested Guidelines for Sobriety
To break the cycle of denial and achieve sobriety, we first acknowledge that we are alcoholics or addicts.
We reaffirm this truth daily and accept without reservation the fact that, as clean and sober individuals, we cannot and do not drink or use, no matter what.
Since drinking or using is not an option for us, we take whatever steps are necessary to continue our Sobriety Priority lifelong.
A quality of life -"the good life"- can be achieved. However, life is also filled with uncertainties. Therefore, we do not drink or use regardless of feelings, circumstances, or conflicts.
We share in confidence with each other our thoughts and feelings as sober, clean individuals.
Sobriety is our Priority, and we are each responsible for our lives and our sobriety.
From the SOS web page:
30days
To break the cycle of denial and achieve sobriety, we first acknowledge that we are alcoholics or addicts.
We reaffirm this truth daily and accept without reservation the fact that, as clean and sober individuals, we cannot and do not drink or use, no matter what.
Since drinking or using is not an option for us, we take whatever steps are necessary to continue our Sobriety Priority lifelong.
A quality of life -"the good life"- can be achieved. However, life is also filled with uncertainties. Therefore, we do not drink or use regardless of feelings, circumstances, or conflicts.
We share in confidence with each other our thoughts and feelings as sober, clean individuals.
Sobriety is our Priority, and we are each responsible for our lives and our sobriety.
From the SOS web page:
30days
new to the forum
I am a recovering addict from SLC, UT. I have joined to connect with others and to reach out for help with my alcoholic sister. I have found peace and stability in my life and now wish to help her connect with the people and resources that have helped me. As in any situation there are a lot of complicated circumstances and it hurts so bad to watch her go downhill as I did and not be able to do everything to help. I know she wants help but there is only so much I can do without getting sucked into being her caretaker. Anyone with any suggestions on what I can do to help push her into a healthier situation without risking my sanity would be of great help and much appreciated. Thanks in advance to everyone.
new to the forum
I am a recovering addict from SLC, UT. I have joined to connect with others and to reach out for help with my alcoholic sister. I have found peace and stability in my life and now wish to help her connect with the people and resources that have helped me. As in any situation there are a lot of complicated circumstances and it hurts so bad to watch her go downhill as I did and not be able to do everything to help. I know she wants help but there is only so much I can do without getting sucked into being her caretaker. Anyone with any suggestions on what I can do to help push her into a healthier situation without risking my sanity would be of great help and much appreciated. Thanks in advance to everyone.
emotional set points- reactions such as insecurity an anger CAN BE CHANGED!
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Your Emotional Set-Points
by Jerry and Esther Hicks
abraham-hicks. com
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Your Emotional Set-Points Are Within Your control - Most people do not believe they have control over what they believe. They observe things happening around them and evaluate them, but they usually feel that they have no control whatsoever about the belief that is formulating within them. They spend their lives sorting events into categories of good or bad, wanted or unwanted, right or wrong ? but rarely do they understand that they have the ability to control their personal relationship with these events.
Since many people approve of some of the conditions that others have created but disapprove of others, they set out on the impossible mission of trying to control conditions. Through personal force or strength or gathering together in groups to gain the feeling of more power or control, they seek to preserve their own Well-Being by attempting to take control of any circumstances that they believe could threaten it. But, in this attraction-based Universe where there is no such thing as exclusion, the harder they push against unwanted things, the more they achieve vibrational alignment with unwanted things-and in doing so, the more they invite unwanted things into their own experience. And as more unwanted things now manifest in their experience, they shore up their own belief (they ?prove it? to themselves) that they were right all along about how bad and invasive that unwanted thing was to begin with. In other words, the more you defend your own beliefs, the more the Law of Attraction helps you live them out.
?But Whose ?Truth? Is the True Truth??
With enough attention to anything, the essence of what you have been giving thought to will eventually become a physical manifestation. And then as others observe your physical manifestation, through their attention to it, they help it to expand. And then, in time, this manifestation, whether it is one that is wanted or not, is called ?Truth.
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We want you to remember that you have absolute choices about the ?Truths? that you create in your own experience. Once you understand that the only reason anyone ever experiences anything is because of their attention to the subject, then it is easy to see that ?Truth? only exists because someone gave their attention to it. So when you say, ?I should give my attention to such and such, because it is true,? that is the same thing as saying, ?Another gave their attention to something that they did not want and by their attention to it they have invited it into their experience. And since they have attracted something unwanted into their experience, I should do it, also.
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There are many wonderful things that you are making your Truths and there are many not-so-wonderful things that you are making your Truths ? Deliberate Creation is about deliberately choosing those experiences you make your Truths.
Your Point of Attraction Is Being Affected
When your activated thoughts are general and not very focused, those early vibrations are still very small and do not yet have much attraction power or pulling power, so to speak. And so, in these early stages, you would not likely see any manifested evidence of your attention to the subject. But even though you do not yet see the evidence, the attraction of other thoughts that are a vibrational match to these is occurring. In other words, the thought is becoming stronger; its pulling power is getting stronger and other similar thought vibrations are joining it. And, as the thought gains momentum, you now begin to get an emotional reading on how well this growing thought-vibration is matching the Energy of your Source. If it matches who you are, your good-feeling emotions indicate that. If it does not match who you are, your bad-feeling emotions indicate that.
For example, when you were little, your grandmother may have said to you, ?You are such a wonderful child. I love you so very much. You will have a fulfilling and happy life. You have so many talents and the world will benefit by your presence.? These words felt good because they were a vibrational match to what was at the very core of you. But when someone says to you, ?You are bad. You should be ashamed of yourself. You have displeased me. You are inappropriate,? these words feel awful because your attention to them has caused you to become vibrationally different from who you really are and what you really know.
The way you feel is a clear and accurate indication of your alignment or misalignment, with your Source Energy. In other words, your emotions let you know if you are allowing or if you are in a current state of resistance to, your connection with Source.
Moods As Indicators of Your Emotional Set-Points
When you continue to focus upon any thought, it becomes increasingly easy to continue to focus upon it because the Law of Attraction is making more thoughts like it available to you. And so, emotionally speaking, you are developing a mood or an attitude. Vibrationally speaking, you are achieving a habitual vibrational groove, so to speak ? or a set-point.
Your mood is showing you a good representation of what you are inviting into your experience. Your mood or your general feeling about something, is a clear indication of your practiced vibration. In other words, whenever any subject is activated within you through your exposure to your environment, your vibration jumps immediately to your most practiced vibrational place or set-point.
For example, let us say that when you were a child, your parents experienced severe financial difficulty. And so, the lack of money and the inability to purchase desired things was often discussed in your home, with the accompanying emotions of worry and fear. Often, in response to your request for something, you were told that ?money doesn?t grow on trees,? and that ?just because you want it doesn?t mean you?ll get it,? and that ?you, like everyone else in this family, should learn to do without. ? That is just the way that it is.? Because of years of exposure to these thoughts of ?lack,? your habit of thought around the subject of money ? your Emotional Set-Point ? became one of low expectation of financial success. And so, whenever you thought about money or abundance, your mood or attitude would immediately shift to disappointment, worry or anger.
Or, when you were a child, maybe your friend?s mother was killed in an automobile accident and then your close association with someone who was experiencing such severe childhood trauma made you fearful for the Well-Being of your own parents. Whenever they traveled somewhere by automobile, you would be gripped by fear until they returned. And so, bit by bit, you developed a habit of worry about the Well-Being of those you loved. Your Emotional Set-Point became that of insecurity.
Or, when you were a teenager, perhaps your grandmother suddenly died of a heart attack. And in the years that followed her death, you often heard your mother expressing her concern about the high probability of the same thing happening to her and her children (including you!). Nearly every time any conversation about your grandmother came up, her untimely heart attack became an emotional and fear-producing part of the conversation. Even though your body was strong and you continued to feel physically good, a concern about your own physical vulnerability rumbled under the surface. And so, over time, you achieved an Emotional Set Point of physical vulnerability.
Your Emotional Set-Points Can Re -Changed
In the same way that your Emotional Set-Points can change from feeling basically good or secure to feeling bad or insecure, your set points can change from not feeling good to feeling good, for your set-points are achieved simply by attention to a subject and through your practiced thought.
However, most people do not deliberately offer thought, but instead, they let their thoughts gravitate to whatever is happening around them. Something happens. They observe. They have an emotional feeling response to what they are observing. And since they usually feel powerless in controlling what they are observing, they conclude that they have no control over their emotional response to what they are observing.
We want you to understand that you do have absolute control over the set-points that you achieve. And we want you to understand the extreme value in deliberately achieving your own set-points. Because, once you expect something, it will come. The details of it may play out differently ? but the vibrational essence will always be an exact match.
