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I turn my will and my life…..
At some point and time I set a boundary that I felt confident was the right thing to do.
On a Tuesday I had suspicion that the boundary was broken.
By Wednesday I was sure that it was. On the way to work I prayed and I gave up....I felt a need to turn my life over to my HP....I knew I could no longer handle things the way I had been. I needed help -- a hard thing to admit for someone as stubborn as I am.
By Thursday I was angry at myself for failing to follow through with my promise to myself.
On Friday I had the phone thrown at me because I wouldn't drive him to get more pills. He missed. Having already experienced the insanity of an abusive relationship, I knew right then and there that something had to change. As I drove towards the freeway I had the choice to turn left or right --left meant waiting until he passed out and I could go home and right meaning I had to ask for help and spend the night on a couch -- I turned right.
My mom hugged me let me cry on her shoulder and sleep on her couch. Later, my dad did not lecture like I was afraid he would. Instead, he offered understanding and a place to stay as long as I need it. I even admitted some things to coworkers. They took me out dancing.
This all happened in November. AH is back in the house and I know I need to remain strong. Rehab and meetings are good for him, but for me, I need more.
Things are harder this year than ever before; the future is uncertain. I am pretty much broke, behind on everything, and without xmas tree and presents.
Yet.........I feel good. I feel that I am on my way towards a better future -- whatever that may mean. I don't know where I am going....but I know that I am on my way.
What can I say, I've always been a slow learner.
So, tonight, I am thankful for friends on SR (and alanon) who have helped by listening, sharing ES&H, and providing support.
Merry Christmas............Love, Rica
:Xmasmca
On a Tuesday I had suspicion that the boundary was broken.
By Wednesday I was sure that it was. On the way to work I prayed and I gave up....I felt a need to turn my life over to my HP....I knew I could no longer handle things the way I had been. I needed help -- a hard thing to admit for someone as stubborn as I am.
By Thursday I was angry at myself for failing to follow through with my promise to myself.
On Friday I had the phone thrown at me because I wouldn't drive him to get more pills. He missed. Having already experienced the insanity of an abusive relationship, I knew right then and there that something had to change. As I drove towards the freeway I had the choice to turn left or right --left meant waiting until he passed out and I could go home and right meaning I had to ask for help and spend the night on a couch -- I turned right.
My mom hugged me let me cry on her shoulder and sleep on her couch. Later, my dad did not lecture like I was afraid he would. Instead, he offered understanding and a place to stay as long as I need it. I even admitted some things to coworkers. They took me out dancing.
This all happened in November. AH is back in the house and I know I need to remain strong. Rehab and meetings are good for him, but for me, I need more.
Things are harder this year than ever before; the future is uncertain. I am pretty much broke, behind on everything, and without xmas tree and presents.
Yet.........I feel good. I feel that I am on my way towards a better future -- whatever that may mean. I don't know where I am going....but I know that I am on my way.
What can I say, I've always been a slow learner.
So, tonight, I am thankful for friends on SR (and alanon) who have helped by listening, sharing ES&H, and providing support.
Merry Christmas............Love, Rica
:Xmasmca
JFT December 13
December 13
Membership
?There is only one requirement for membership, the desire to stop using.?
Basic Text, p. 9
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We all know people who could benefit from Narcotics Anonymous. Many people we encounter from all walks of life?our family members, old friends, and coworkers?could really use a program of recovery in their lives. Sadly, those who need us don?t always find their way to our rooms.
NA is a program of attraction, not promotion. We are only members when we say we are. We can bring our friends and loved ones to a meeting if they are willing, but we cannot force them to embrace the way of life that has given us freedom from active addiction.
Membership in Narcotics Anonymous is a highly personal decision. The choice to become a member is made in the heart of each individual addict. In the long run, coerced meeting attendance doesn?t keep too many addicts in our rooms. Only addicts who are still suffering, if given the opportunity, can decide if they are powerless over their addiction. We can carry the message, but we can?t carry the addict.
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Just for today: I am grateful for my decision to become a member of Narcotics Anonymous.
Membership
?There is only one requirement for membership, the desire to stop using.?
Basic Text, p. 9
????=????
We all know people who could benefit from Narcotics Anonymous. Many people we encounter from all walks of life?our family members, old friends, and coworkers?could really use a program of recovery in their lives. Sadly, those who need us don?t always find their way to our rooms.
NA is a program of attraction, not promotion. We are only members when we say we are. We can bring our friends and loved ones to a meeting if they are willing, but we cannot force them to embrace the way of life that has given us freedom from active addiction.
Membership in Narcotics Anonymous is a highly personal decision. The choice to become a member is made in the heart of each individual addict. In the long run, coerced meeting attendance doesn?t keep too many addicts in our rooms. Only addicts who are still suffering, if given the opportunity, can decide if they are powerless over their addiction. We can carry the message, but we can?t carry the addict.
????=????
Just for today: I am grateful for my decision to become a member of Narcotics Anonymous.
i hate it when people say youre going to meet someone else.
thats a lie. i havent met one person since the first time i fell in love with my AXBF when i as 15 or so.
I have however, met:
guys that have used me
guys that have flirted with me like they were-then later revealed they were not interested
guys that lived in other cities who MAYBE couldve liked me, but just ended up using me as well.
coworkers, who also didnt really want to date me.
a guy who dated me a few weeks until he finally told me he was seeing someone else
g
i am so bitter tonight.
i am one drink myself and a text from trying to see if theres anyay we could try to make it work.
my alcoholic xbf maybe did use me, for a place to stay, but he never took advantage of me sexually or use me for sex. he always respected my boundaries which is one of the first things i really liked about him.
and, despite all "his" problems, he made it very clear in his own words and even actions that he cared about me and loved me.
its HARD for me to think we shoudnt be together when i feel like there were a lot of cons but there were more PROS. ive never been so sad or depressed the entire time we were together.
i am so miserable tonight. i know it is SO petty when i am blessed to be thinking of how my life sucks because i have only met one guy, who is an addict and ancoholic (and a heartbreaker among other things) who has actually taken the time to get to know me and like me. and then the other part thinks maybe HE didnt even like me, and it WAS just his alkie behavior that needed someone stable and caring in his life.
now i feel like even if he were sober he wouldnt try to date me, as i was mean and bitter and depressed in our relationship.
regardless, im bitter. i am codependent and what i mean is that when i dont feel other people see me as beautiful or fun i just have no fun and feel like ****. i feel unattractive since i can never attract a normal guy- physically or otherwise.
i finally met someone i thought was interested. he talks to me all the time, messages and texts. he has a normal job, plays in bands i really love (as i do), runs a small business aside from his job, has similar interests but also plays sports, eats well, treats his friends and family REALLY REALLY well.
anyway, i thought he was interested EVEN THOUGH he lives in ANOTHER city. all the attention and some of the flirtations, AND because im just not used to that or a nice guy, i guess i just didnt know he was just that. NICE. not interested, and CERTAINLY not interested to move here. what i think he likes is that i show him attention, respect, and adoration (i watched this oprah on how guys want that, and i wanted to make sure i never dont do those things as i did not for AXBF). anyway, tonight i realized that there would never be anything more than friendship, if even that.
BUMMER. finally a guy i did think might be interested who i have good chemistry with, who is a GREAT catch, that i like too. NO SUCH LUCK.
I have however, met:
guys that have used me
guys that have flirted with me like they were-then later revealed they were not interested
guys that lived in other cities who MAYBE couldve liked me, but just ended up using me as well.
coworkers, who also didnt really want to date me.
a guy who dated me a few weeks until he finally told me he was seeing someone else
g
i am so bitter tonight.
i am one drink myself and a text from trying to see if theres anyay we could try to make it work.
my alcoholic xbf maybe did use me, for a place to stay, but he never took advantage of me sexually or use me for sex. he always respected my boundaries which is one of the first things i really liked about him.
and, despite all "his" problems, he made it very clear in his own words and even actions that he cared about me and loved me.
its HARD for me to think we shoudnt be together when i feel like there were a lot of cons but there were more PROS. ive never been so sad or depressed the entire time we were together.
i am so miserable tonight. i know it is SO petty when i am blessed to be thinking of how my life sucks because i have only met one guy, who is an addict and ancoholic (and a heartbreaker among other things) who has actually taken the time to get to know me and like me. and then the other part thinks maybe HE didnt even like me, and it WAS just his alkie behavior that needed someone stable and caring in his life.
now i feel like even if he were sober he wouldnt try to date me, as i was mean and bitter and depressed in our relationship.
regardless, im bitter. i am codependent and what i mean is that when i dont feel other people see me as beautiful or fun i just have no fun and feel like ****. i feel unattractive since i can never attract a normal guy- physically or otherwise.
i finally met someone i thought was interested. he talks to me all the time, messages and texts. he has a normal job, plays in bands i really love (as i do), runs a small business aside from his job, has similar interests but also plays sports, eats well, treats his friends and family REALLY REALLY well.
anyway, i thought he was interested EVEN THOUGH he lives in ANOTHER city. all the attention and some of the flirtations, AND because im just not used to that or a nice guy, i guess i just didnt know he was just that. NICE. not interested, and CERTAINLY not interested to move here. what i think he likes is that i show him attention, respect, and adoration (i watched this oprah on how guys want that, and i wanted to make sure i never dont do those things as i did not for AXBF). anyway, tonight i realized that there would never be anything more than friendship, if even that.
BUMMER. finally a guy i did think might be interested who i have good chemistry with, who is a GREAT catch, that i like too. NO SUCH LUCK.
My most embarrassing moment
And now for a little levity. Thought it might be a stress reliever and fun to have a "most embarrassing moment" thread. I'll start:
Years ago, I worked as a secretary for a large engineering firm. It was my first day on the job, so I was all gussied up in an attempt to look ultra professional and ultra chic. I so wanted to make a great first impression. And I did just that--it was quite unforgettable apparently, as my coworkers chided me about it for years.
My boss had asked me to make some copies for him. In those days, instead of having several copiers available on each floor, there was a large copy center where all the copiers were located and folks had to stand in line and wait their turn to make copies.
The copy center was located several floors above where I worked, so I pushed the elevator button and waited for the doors to open. When they did, one of my heels got caught in the space between the elevator and the floor without my knowledge and when I took a step forward, I fell down hard on my hands and knees right into the elevator.
I've always been a large woman, but back in those days I was REALLY big, so when I fell, there was a loud thud and the elevator jumped a few inches. Then much to my horror, there were what I can only describe as a series of after shocks after a great quake: boom, boooom, boooooooommmmmm. I has horrified. Never mind the fact that I'd hurt the heck out of my right knee. All I wanted to do was recover as quickly and gracefully as possible.
When I got myself together, I looked up, and the elevator was PACKED! Everyone stopped talking and looked at me. One man helped me to my feet and asked me if I was OK. I made light of my clumsiness and told him I was fine.
Now, prior to my fall the elevator had been moving in a upward motion. But as the after shocks subsided and the doors closed, the elevator started to descend. At which point a gentleman way in the back of the elevator (and whom I later learned worked in the mail room) exclaimed:
DAMN, GIRL, YOU DONE BROKE THE ELEVATOR!
When I finally reached my destination, I remember thinking thank God I was wearing pants. Imagine if, on top of breaking the elevator, someone had gotten a peak at my ultra big girls panties!!!
I would have never lived that one down. Oh, and it took weeks for my knee to heal.
Anyone want to join in on the fun?
Years ago, I worked as a secretary for a large engineering firm. It was my first day on the job, so I was all gussied up in an attempt to look ultra professional and ultra chic. I so wanted to make a great first impression. And I did just that--it was quite unforgettable apparently, as my coworkers chided me about it for years.
My boss had asked me to make some copies for him. In those days, instead of having several copiers available on each floor, there was a large copy center where all the copiers were located and folks had to stand in line and wait their turn to make copies.
The copy center was located several floors above where I worked, so I pushed the elevator button and waited for the doors to open. When they did, one of my heels got caught in the space between the elevator and the floor without my knowledge and when I took a step forward, I fell down hard on my hands and knees right into the elevator.
I've always been a large woman, but back in those days I was REALLY big, so when I fell, there was a loud thud and the elevator jumped a few inches. Then much to my horror, there were what I can only describe as a series of after shocks after a great quake: boom, boooom, boooooooommmmmm. I has horrified. Never mind the fact that I'd hurt the heck out of my right knee. All I wanted to do was recover as quickly and gracefully as possible.
When I got myself together, I looked up, and the elevator was PACKED! Everyone stopped talking and looked at me. One man helped me to my feet and asked me if I was OK. I made light of my clumsiness and told him I was fine.
Now, prior to my fall the elevator had been moving in a upward motion. But as the after shocks subsided and the doors closed, the elevator started to descend. At which point a gentleman way in the back of the elevator (and whom I later learned worked in the mail room) exclaimed:
DAMN, GIRL, YOU DONE BROKE THE ELEVATOR!
When I finally reached my destination, I remember thinking thank God I was wearing pants. Imagine if, on top of breaking the elevator, someone had gotten a peak at my ultra big girls panties!!!
I would have never lived that one down. Oh, and it took weeks for my knee to heal.
Anyone want to join in on the fun?
He hid money from me
...and he doesn't think I have a valid reason to be upset?
He says that its not his and its going to his work (he works in a lounge and he was the last guy there for tip out so they gave him his coworkers part too)and he choose not to tell me about it because it has nothing to do with me and I have no right to question him about it because it's none of my business. He has been clean almost 3 months and claims that I have no right to know about this.
So now he is pissed and on the defensive cause I refuse to back down. Not that I don't believe him, because that can easily be resolved if I have any questions, but the reasoning behind it. Seriously, he hid it on top of the kitchen cabinets where he knew for sure I would never look (I am 5'2, he is 6'3..the only reason I looked is I saw something else up there that looked weird). Am I in the wrong?
He says that its not his and its going to his work (he works in a lounge and he was the last guy there for tip out so they gave him his coworkers part too)and he choose not to tell me about it because it has nothing to do with me and I have no right to question him about it because it's none of my business. He has been clean almost 3 months and claims that I have no right to know about this.
So now he is pissed and on the defensive cause I refuse to back down. Not that I don't believe him, because that can easily be resolved if I have any questions, but the reasoning behind it. Seriously, he hid it on top of the kitchen cabinets where he knew for sure I would never look (I am 5'2, he is 6'3..the only reason I looked is I saw something else up there that looked weird). Am I in the wrong?
OT - delayed reaction?
After getting my hours at work CUT, so that 2 teenagers can come back to work after a month's vacation, I hit bottom with my job. I've been unable to get hold of my boss...he was out for several days.
I've asked 2 managers to get me the workman's comp dr. info that is hanging up in our breakroom, but have heard nothing from them. I am going to work tonight, just to make a little money and get the info my dam self.
I'm having headaches, can't concentrate, anxiety, either can't sleep or want to sleep all the time. I'm going to see a workman's comp dr. as soon as I can get an appt. and hope that I can get some time off.
Today I am dealing with anger. The night the robbery happened, I was FURIOUS with my store manager and his boss. Two weeks before our robbery, a sister store was robbed, 4 miles down the road. I asked, time and time again, if we could lock the doors when it got "dead' in the restaurant, in the middle of the night, and was told "NO".
We had been locking the doors, anyway, but the night of the robbery, since it was early morning they were unlocked. I went to lock them, then realized my store manager or his boss have a tendency to sneak in around that time and did not want to lose my job.
I put MY life and the lives of my 2 coworkers at risk because of THIS stupid job?!?!?!
I am applying for other jobs, and doing what I can to get out of there. Unfortunately, it may take a while to get another job.
I know I'm doing what I can, right now, so guess this is just a vent.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
I've asked 2 managers to get me the workman's comp dr. info that is hanging up in our breakroom, but have heard nothing from them. I am going to work tonight, just to make a little money and get the info my dam self.
I'm having headaches, can't concentrate, anxiety, either can't sleep or want to sleep all the time. I'm going to see a workman's comp dr. as soon as I can get an appt. and hope that I can get some time off.
Today I am dealing with anger. The night the robbery happened, I was FURIOUS with my store manager and his boss. Two weeks before our robbery, a sister store was robbed, 4 miles down the road. I asked, time and time again, if we could lock the doors when it got "dead' in the restaurant, in the middle of the night, and was told "NO".
We had been locking the doors, anyway, but the night of the robbery, since it was early morning they were unlocked. I went to lock them, then realized my store manager or his boss have a tendency to sneak in around that time and did not want to lose my job.
I put MY life and the lives of my 2 coworkers at risk because of THIS stupid job?!?!?!
I am applying for other jobs, and doing what I can to get out of there. Unfortunately, it may take a while to get another job.
I know I'm doing what I can, right now, so guess this is just a vent.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
Man of Sorrows
You are reading the daily devotional from NotReligion.
October 15, 2008
Key Passage: Matthew 27:32-44
Topic: Pain/Suffering; God's Love; Jesus
So also the chief priests, with the scribes and elders, mocked him, saying "He saved others; he cannot save himself. He is the King of Israel; let him come down now from the cross, and we will believe in him. He trusts in God; let God deliver him now, if he desires him. For he said, 'I am the Son of God.'" (Matthew 27:41-43, ESV)
This morning I prayed with some coworkers. One request was for someone's mother who was having heart problems and other difficulties. About a half hour later, I learned that she died yesterday. One request was for a family who had just given birth to a son...who died an hour later. These were Christian people faithfully serving the Lord.
I confess, I don't understand the purpose of pain like this. I don't understand how God glorifies Himself through circumstances like this. I'm sorry if you're looking for answers, I don't have those.
What I do have is Truth.
True: God is in control. He has all these situations well in hand. Nothing happens that He doesn't allow and nothing happens without a purpose.
True: God loves you. He doesn't put you through pain and suffering just to watch you squirm. He doesn't allow hardships because He doesn't notice or care. Just because we can't see the purpose or the greater good in a situation, doesn't mean that it's not there. Consider for a moment that God has a better handle on things than you do.
True: God is with you. He understands your situations and your pain.
As He was crucified, Jesus endured incredible physical pain. The crowds around Him made fun of Him, challenging who He was and saying that God didn't care about Him. He also endured emotional pain: betrayal, grief, loss, humiliation.
As Jesus took your sin upon Himself, He experienced the spiritual pain of being separated from God the Father for the first time in all of eternity.
He had the power to end this, but He didn't. He endured the pain and humiliation because His love for you is greater than the pain. And Jesus understands your pain better than you do. In fact, Isaiah describes Him as "a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief" (Isaiah 53:3, ESV).
Give Him your life. Give Him your pain. He loves you, understands you and will care for you better than you ever could. Does that mean that you won't experience pain anymore? No. But it does mean that you won't go through it alone.
© 2008 NotReligion |
October 15, 2008
Key Passage: Matthew 27:32-44
Topic: Pain/Suffering; God's Love; Jesus
So also the chief priests, with the scribes and elders, mocked him, saying "He saved others; he cannot save himself. He is the King of Israel; let him come down now from the cross, and we will believe in him. He trusts in God; let God deliver him now, if he desires him. For he said, 'I am the Son of God.'" (Matthew 27:41-43, ESV)
This morning I prayed with some coworkers. One request was for someone's mother who was having heart problems and other difficulties. About a half hour later, I learned that she died yesterday. One request was for a family who had just given birth to a son...who died an hour later. These were Christian people faithfully serving the Lord.
I confess, I don't understand the purpose of pain like this. I don't understand how God glorifies Himself through circumstances like this. I'm sorry if you're looking for answers, I don't have those.
What I do have is Truth.
True: God is in control. He has all these situations well in hand. Nothing happens that He doesn't allow and nothing happens without a purpose.
True: God loves you. He doesn't put you through pain and suffering just to watch you squirm. He doesn't allow hardships because He doesn't notice or care. Just because we can't see the purpose or the greater good in a situation, doesn't mean that it's not there. Consider for a moment that God has a better handle on things than you do.
True: God is with you. He understands your situations and your pain.
As He was crucified, Jesus endured incredible physical pain. The crowds around Him made fun of Him, challenging who He was and saying that God didn't care about Him. He also endured emotional pain: betrayal, grief, loss, humiliation.
As Jesus took your sin upon Himself, He experienced the spiritual pain of being separated from God the Father for the first time in all of eternity.
He had the power to end this, but He didn't. He endured the pain and humiliation because His love for you is greater than the pain. And Jesus understands your pain better than you do. In fact, Isaiah describes Him as "a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief" (Isaiah 53:3, ESV).
Give Him your life. Give Him your pain. He loves you, understands you and will care for you better than you ever could. Does that mean that you won't experience pain anymore? No. But it does mean that you won't go through it alone.
© 2008 NotReligion |
So many of me
There's the normal person that goes to work every day.
There's the person that sometime has "a night" on a weeknight but still goes to work the next day. But recently that person has missed a couple of days of work. And sent emails to coworkers while intoxicated.
This person appears to be normal/stable. But has a secret.
The weekend comes. This person sometimes doesn't see the sunlight between Friday and Sunday. Will always resume normal life on Monday (always with shaky hands)
This HAS TO STOP.
Why?
I'm out of my drink, cigarettes (which I quit for many years until drinking began), and food. I can call a taxi and get to a liquor store and Dominos pizza easily. That is if I actually wash up and get dressed. I'm not going to drive. I could but at least I have the common sense not to.
I might have to go out. I went overboard last night. I just woke up. I need enough to wean myself off before Monday when I go back to work. I have this whole weekend schedule that always works but this time I messed it up.
If I planned it better it would be ok.
Do I see what I'm saying? THIS HAS TO STOP.
My time as a successful functioning alcoholic is running out.
I do need to get some cigarettes. That's harder to quit than anything.
Sorry for this message, this place is supposed to be about recovery. I'm trying to get out and meet new people but everyone wants to go to bars! I need to avoid that.
I'm a mess and sorry for this message.
I really want to die right now.
There's the person that sometime has "a night" on a weeknight but still goes to work the next day. But recently that person has missed a couple of days of work. And sent emails to coworkers while intoxicated.
This person appears to be normal/stable. But has a secret.
The weekend comes. This person sometimes doesn't see the sunlight between Friday and Sunday. Will always resume normal life on Monday (always with shaky hands)
This HAS TO STOP.
Why?
I'm out of my drink, cigarettes (which I quit for many years until drinking began), and food. I can call a taxi and get to a liquor store and Dominos pizza easily. That is if I actually wash up and get dressed. I'm not going to drive. I could but at least I have the common sense not to.
I might have to go out. I went overboard last night. I just woke up. I need enough to wean myself off before Monday when I go back to work. I have this whole weekend schedule that always works but this time I messed it up.
If I planned it better it would be ok.
Do I see what I'm saying? THIS HAS TO STOP.
My time as a successful functioning alcoholic is running out.
I do need to get some cigarettes. That's harder to quit than anything.
Sorry for this message, this place is supposed to be about recovery. I'm trying to get out and meet new people but everyone wants to go to bars! I need to avoid that.
I'm a mess and sorry for this message.
I really want to die right now.
so here is my story of why i need help
I have gotten into the habit of binge drinking every weekend over so many months now I cant count them. I use to have alot of willpower and slow down or even stop my drinking when ever i wanted to but since i moved to japan i cant seem to do it anymore and honestly it scares me.
My other problem is every week I am asked by friends who also binge drink to go out to bars and drink. I am in a setting where it is very easy to do as bars are actually right below my apartment and on every street here in japan. also public drunkiness and drinking anywhere (on the street, the subway, I mean ANYWHERE) is completely acceptable.
Even tonight as I am fighting in my mind on how to get on track with staying sober I am being texted by coworkers and friends to go out drinking since it is a national holiday today.
Dont get me wrong I love my friends but ALL of my friends here are heavy drinkers. Also finding a support group or going for counseling is impossible as I dont speak the langauge well enough to communicate my struggles.
The weird thing is after a heavy weekend of drinking I of course feel guilty and so the next day during the work week I wont drink. Ill even eat healthy and exercise. I try to tell myself I need to stick to my exercise in place of drinking because thats how i use to stop for long peroids of time if i felt i was drinking too much. but when the weekend rolls around again I lose my will.
I am really alone in my battle as there is pretty much no one to talk to about this here. so I know i could definitely use any support i can find.
thanks for listening and any advice is welcome..
My other problem is every week I am asked by friends who also binge drink to go out to bars and drink. I am in a setting where it is very easy to do as bars are actually right below my apartment and on every street here in japan. also public drunkiness and drinking anywhere (on the street, the subway, I mean ANYWHERE) is completely acceptable.
Even tonight as I am fighting in my mind on how to get on track with staying sober I am being texted by coworkers and friends to go out drinking since it is a national holiday today.
Dont get me wrong I love my friends but ALL of my friends here are heavy drinkers. Also finding a support group or going for counseling is impossible as I dont speak the langauge well enough to communicate my struggles.
The weird thing is after a heavy weekend of drinking I of course feel guilty and so the next day during the work week I wont drink. Ill even eat healthy and exercise. I try to tell myself I need to stick to my exercise in place of drinking because thats how i use to stop for long peroids of time if i felt i was drinking too much. but when the weekend rolls around again I lose my will.
I am really alone in my battle as there is pretty much no one to talk to about this here. so I know i could definitely use any support i can find.
thanks for listening and any advice is welcome..
Top three excuses for not drinking???
Sounds & looks weird reading it but if you are quitting you are going to face that question.
Im more concerned about coworkers at the many work functions than friends but either way its a tough question. Ok.. maybe its an easy one but it sure does seem tough now.
So what are the top three reasons for not drinking that you have given to coworkers & friends?
Coworkers:
1) I'm on medication....
2) I have a big day lined up tomorrow...
3) Ive decided to take it easy for a while
It took me over a minute to come up with the last lame one. Anyway, lets hear your top three excuses for not drinking (maybe 6 if you go with the friends/work thing)
A sober person may say:
1) I care about myself & family/friends
2) I am trying to take care of myself
3) You dont want to see me drunk :a043:
Looking forward to your top 3 reasons you have given others.
Thank you all for helping me stay sober :ghug
Im more concerned about coworkers at the many work functions than friends but either way its a tough question. Ok.. maybe its an easy one but it sure does seem tough now.
So what are the top three reasons for not drinking that you have given to coworkers & friends?
Coworkers:
1) I'm on medication....
2) I have a big day lined up tomorrow...
3) Ive decided to take it easy for a while
It took me over a minute to come up with the last lame one. Anyway, lets hear your top three excuses for not drinking (maybe 6 if you go with the friends/work thing)
A sober person may say:
1) I care about myself & family/friends
2) I am trying to take care of myself
3) You dont want to see me drunk :a043:
Looking forward to your top 3 reasons you have given others.
Thank you all for helping me stay sober :ghug
