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About a month ago, my stepmom was locked up for trying to get a fraudulent prescription filled, and was getting lortabs from a friend, in addition to the ones she got by prescription.

My dad was forced out of his denial of her addiction, and she was begging me to help her with this problem.

Now, a month later, I am ready to wring both their necks.

Dad took her to the dr. yesterday. When I got up, and was getting ready for work, I asked him what she got. He just said "the same stuff she always gets..pain pills". He had no clue as to how many, and snapped at me "how would I know? What difference would it make, when she's in pain all the time?"

She got out of bed, (this is at 3pm) and he asked her how many pills she got. She got 90 lortab 10 mg, to take one, 3 times a day. I said "so, in a week, you should be down 21 pills". She snaps "it doesn't MATTER how many I've taken in a week".

Dad tells me she's been doing better and that jail scared her and since she has a prescription, she knows if she runs out she can't get any more until it's been a month. I ask if she's had any pills since she was arrested, and can't get a straight answer. She's ALWAYS had a prescription, ran out, which is why she got them elsewhere.

Honestly, stepmom doesn't have a lot of options to get pills elsewhere, as dad has control of the finances, and she can't just leave the house without someone knowing.

My question is, am I overreacting? I see red flags everywhere, but they act like I'm the meanie, and trying to stir up trouble. I did tell dad, that if she got to where she was passing out again, or did anything stupid, he'd better not DARE to say "why didn't you tell me" again.

I'm trying my best to let this go. When I was leaving the house, I told her I wasn't trying to be mean, I was just concerned. She said "I know, I just don't want my nerves to get bad", which is another excuse for her to get numb. MY nerves were pretty frazzled, and I wanted to just escape, but I went to work.

I tried prayer, said "let go and let God" a zillion times, turned the radio up loud so I couldn't hear my own thoughts. Finally got distracted at work, when we had a lot of customers with adorable kids. It just irritates the crap out of me, that I let this stuff get to me.

I feel better now, but then I knew I would, as soon as I could get to my SR:)

Hugs and prayers!

Amy

Has anyone ever worked the steps without a sponsor?

With the Step Study guides here at SR, it seems like it might be possible, if one is capable of being 100% honest with oneself; but not sure if the real value of the steps would be acheived without some face to face feedback.

Just a question, please don't go all Fight Club on me.

Hi Friends:

I jumped in yesterday for the first time, and was grateful for the support and feedback I received. I've decided I will enter in-residence treatment for alcoho (DOC) and narcos (which I've been increasingly prescribed over the past 4 years--was taking a total of 140 mg. of oxycodone/daily).

As I stated yesterday, I'm wayyyy more fearful of the oxy withdrawal than the alcohol (even though the later would be more likely to kill me if I weren't in a hospital detox room). I have to work with my professional realities, which means that I will not be checking in until around December 14, but I'm going to do everything possible to arrange to do so even earlier. (At that time I will have at least 30 days to devote.)

I have started (today) to wean myself back on my oxy intake. My feeling is that it could only make detox that much better (so to speak). I am confident that I should be able to cut my usage (if I remain serious, focused, and continue to read these threads and gather all the information I can from what to expect) in half before I check in (roughtly 70-80 mg./day. I'm hoping to do the same with alcohol.

Based on information I've picked up from reading through a number of posts, I've also begun taking a daily regimen of: a multi-vitamin, super B-complex, zinc, and magnesium.

Since I have two and a half weeks until I check-in, I'm wondering what advice you could share with me about other things I should be doing.

BTW: I never heard of suboxone until yesterday. I'm wondering if they use it in detox. Also, I recall at one point my pain doctor having mentioned putting me on methadone. From what I've read in posts the past 24 hours about getting off that, I'm very grateful I never went on it.

Thanks in advance.

Hi All!

This is the 1st time I have posted on this forum. I usually hang out in the "newcomer" one. Anyways, I am reading/working the text and workbook of "A Woman's Way through the 12 Steps (Covington), as well as "A Woman's Addiction Workbook (Najavits). I am getting a HUGE amount from both of them. Anyone with any feedback or comments about these would be greatly appreciated!

friends,
my son called last night and he got a job. there is a condition. this is a job in sales and he needs a car. it is my understanding that this is a commission job. therefore you will have an outlay of cash in the form of gas, insurance, new car tag etc. he has a car here that is titled to his wife (soon to be ex-wife). I am presuming he has her okay.

Of course he wants us to assist him in the gas, ins., tag etc. until he can begin making sales. I told him I felt that was a lot of outlay for a job that might not pan out (example..no sales) for now I told him my dh and I would get the counselors(at his rehab) opinion and see what kind of company this is and if he thinks it is a good idea.

So once again I am in the doghouse for not being "gung-ho" on a job he found. However, if he expects us to help him make this possible don't we have a right to express our doubts? I personally feel like he should get a paying job that includes a regular week to week paycheck. But is that controlling on my part? Or just the expression of an opinion?

I think he should save his money while working at another job and if the sales job is available AFTER he saves his $$$ then go for it. Of course you all know how well that idea is going to go over. Seems to me I can never win. Now my son thinks I am the stumbling block in a great job for him.

I feel pretty low right now but we have only last week set him up in rehab and now this. Am I wrong thinking this sales job is a bad idea? Also my dh and I would have to miss a days work to get the car to him plus make the arrangements for a tag and insurance since he is in a different state. Really it isn't a cut and dried issue but I'd appreciate any thoughts. dixied

I really NEED feedback. My husband and I lived on our son's property, who is an only child in his 30's. He acknowledges he had a good childhood and his father was a good dad. However, now that they are both men, my son has decided that his father needed to quit drinking in 30 days or he had to move off his property, My son was specific that I didn't need to move. He couldn't understand why I would be leaving with my husband. I wasn't taking on the challenge of "changing" my husbands behavior, since he was trying, I felt a more compassionate approach was appropriate. I was working 100 hrs/week and felt it was not the time that I chose to address this issue and felt that the roof over my head was also being removed-I felt it wasn't his decision to make for me to stay there if my husband left. I did find a wonderful place to live and my husband and I feel far less stress. My son has decided that since I chose to leave with him and didn't have enough respect for myself, he didn't respect me enough to talk to me either. My son is very strong willed and conversations usually end up in a debate-where you feel like you simply have to back down just to get him to leave you alone, debate is putting it lightly, if you don't agree he is down right confrontational. My husband used to drink 12-18 beers a day and was obviously intoxicated, would talk ridiculous and did many disloyal things while drunk. However, that has since changed years ago. I feel that is between my husband and myself. He is currently drinking 6 beers a day. He makes no demands on me and we have always been very close. Childhood sweethearts. I know the line "he is such a good man" is a cliche but I feel that my husband is trying quite hard and making great strides. I love my son very much and this really saddens me. My son suggested a family therapist for the 3 of us. My husband agreed to that but now my son doesn't want that. I am not sure if I am being manipulated, being codependent, or verbally abused by my son or is he trying to help? My family background is that my father was a very mean alcoholic and eventually died due to complications of all those years of drinking. How am I so mixed up??? This just doesn't even say it all....but ran out of letters.

Hello. I'm Mark. I take a quanity of ten 80mg of oxcys a day. I sometimes run out and go through the hellish threshhold of withdraw every month for about a long, long, week or so. I watch the clock slowly going by one minute at a time for about a week or longer. Always thinking about getting my next refill. I'm tired of going through the w/d's. It is always like this for me. I take more than what I'm perscribed to take and run short of my oxcys. I can never get enough to satisfy what it felt like when I first took only one of my oxcys that once put me in stoned land - feeling great - on top of the world. As the years go by, it takes me about fifteen time more of the amount to find that high. I now have a very high tolorence for my oxcys and that is why I go through w/d's at the third week of evey month because I've ran out of them again. I'm suposed to take only four 80mg a day. But, that does'nt work for me anymore. I can't ask my DR for more because it would seem like I'm drug seeking, which is exactly what I'm trying to do in the first place, (Drug Seeking). I' have come to the realization that I have a problem . . . I want to get high on the 80 mg oxcys, and stay that way for ever. My marriage is in hot water and I don't do anything like simple house hold chours anymore, and not showing my wife how much I love her enough. She ask's me, " Why do you do this to yourself every month". I don't have any defenative or afirmative akowledgement for that questiion directed at me. Devotion has it's decipating distance from my wife and I. There seems to be a detereating connection between us due to an inadverntly puedodecision of choosing oxcys over my good but enabling wife. When I run out of the oxcys, my wife reluctenly gives up her once a month of 90 vicodines to me to take the edge off of the w/d. I also take bensodiazepines to also take the edge off from w/d. It's never enough. The oxcys I get once a month are consuming me before my eyes and before I was consuming the oxcys. Now the oxcys are consuming me. I've been to NA/AA, counseling and othe places, including hospitalization for the mentally I'll. There, I was getting my oxcys from the mental facilities. I was hospitalized only for enough time until my next refill was coming around the corner again. I'm out of control with them and I can't manage my life anymore. All can think about is rationing my pain killers. I was injured in the first Gulf War, and lost my right leg above my knee, and knocked loose a couple of my lower back bones. They started me off with only the quanity of 240 of 5mg of morphine, and gradually climbed up to the quanity of 240 of 80mg of oxcys. I dont know what I would do without them. Are there things unusually disapearing from my life that I don't see? Are my eyes not open enough to see the damage that I might be creating? Am I becoming blind by the oxcys to the point where aspects in my life are indisputible? Am I missing out on a better life that which could be massively passing me by? Am I trying to kill myself cruelty in such a way that is slowly inconcievabley lowthing me? Am I not awake enough that I can't break through the inceasing inevitable losses that I am causing on a subconscious level? What if I'm not being as analitical about myself as I should be. I don't know. I just don't know how I could be so numb and stoicism, a school of Hellenistic philosophy by which I might add to this maddnes. May I please have some feedback? Anyone? Please?

I am putting this in this forum also in hopes that I get more feedback:



When I was still in active addiction, my husband always said he would do whatever it took to support me in getting clean. At first, maybe the first month, he was very supportive. Soon I could tell that he was tired of hearing about my recovery. When I would mention going to a meeting he would sigh, or roll his eyes.

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So I asked him what his problem was, he said "How long is this stuff going to be in my life?" I said "Well, hopefully forever, because if I stop being active in my recovery, I will go back out there".
I am making this long story short but basically he just thinks I should be "all better" and life should just be "normal". What a slap in the face! I suggested he go to Al-Anon...he laughed. This lack of support has progressed over the past 2 months. He was not very happy when I told him I am the secretary of my homegroup's Sunday meeting.
I know I can't change him, and I need to work on myself. Maybe that's just it - maybe he is afraid of me working on myself because I may "change"? I don't know. Any advice?

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Hi ya'll...What do I gotta do to stay clean?man,I been trying to get this thing for 20yrs.The only thing I've done right is keep coming back.I've really had battles with opiates.I thought crack was bad.Opiates have litterally drained the life out of me.I really want to put my life back together 'cause the one I got now,,,,,a monkey could do a better job than I'm doing running it.It's really a hopeless feeling to cringe at the thought of going thru a day without some kind of foreign aid to change the way I feel so I don't have to be me.It's become like the life of a vampire.They kill and ravish their victims for the nessicity of survival.They do what they do in order to live.Their key element is the blood.Day 1 wasn't too bad....day2 the sickness starts.....day 3 the sweats and flu like symptons,diahreea on myself...day 4 my ****** mind is coming apart...JUST ONE OC AND all this would go away.That;s my delima has any one else got any suggestions to get this monkey off my back?please don't tell me I'm right where I'm suppossed to be.I need to find feedback so I don't go get high.hopeless////////peace out
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My boyfriend is a RA for two years and was phenominal when I met him and has lately been pushing me away. I love him so much and so badly want our relationship to work!

Is this crazy? From reading these stories I am wondering if I am just setting myself up for disappointment? Can a RA have a good relationship if they stay in the program? Will it always be a struggle?

Any feedback is greatly appreaciated and big hugs to all of you... you are a very strong group!!!