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Need Advice From Codies who’ve been there
So, now my addict son's druggie girlfriend has landed herself in jail, for probation violation after she ran into some guy and totaled her car, and the ofc arriving at the scene did a routine check and found a warrant out for her. Now, her parents won't bail her out, since they just footed the ticket for her last fiasco last month, her ex won't either, my son CAN'T, but now he wants me to foot the bill for her $500 bond. She has looked me in the face, lied to me, stolen from me and he wants me to bail her out? Says she's "changed". What? In the last two weeks? I don't trust either one of them yet. Trust has to be earned. I've been codie and bailed him out consistently for the last 10 to 15yrs at least, but I've warned him no more, and if he screws up again and gets busted for ANY reason, dirty UA, drug court violation, doesn't matter, he's out....(he lives in the house I own in my absense). I have been paying a lot of his bills, because he's applied for disability, but lately, I've been clamping down, and telling him he has to work out whatever I do or give to him.
On the girlfriend deal, am I wrong in refusing to bail her out? I don't think so, but now I seem to be the villian in the piece because I said no!
I need advice AND prayers for guidance to know God's will and for HIM to just take charge.
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My Doctor’s appointment was a fiasco!
First of all, my doctor was not there. They said they called me, but I checked my phone and there were no messages and no missed calls and I only drank 3 glasses of wine last night so I know I didn't "forget". They asked me if I wanted to see another doctor and I said yes, because its not like I have a relationship with the MIA doctor, plus, I knew I might not reschedule cuz I was really nervous.
The doctor came in and asked me what was going on. I told him my blood pressure has been really high, I can't sleep at night, I have high anxiety, etc. (and this is the tough part) I told him I think it is because I am drinking too much. I could see right away he was very uncomfortable. He asked me a few questions, like how much I drink, how long I have been doing it, do I feel suicidal? I answered his questions and he said I needed to get on some medication. So he prescribed Ativan for anxiety, but it is highly addictive, so only 30 days worth. And also Lexapro...an antidepressant, is this supposed to make me not want to drink? And lets give someone with an addictive personality an addictive drug after she just told you she' s worried about drinking too much. Oh yea, he also said, Don't drink alcohol with the Ativan....WHAT? When I said I am worried that I can't stop, and do I just slow down or just stop....he said just stop, you can do it! :wtf1:
I tried to talk about my drinking (very uncomfortable for me) and I was worried about damage to my internal organs, i.e.liver, etc. And all he said was it took years to develop liver problems and since I had my gallbladder out 1-1/2 years ago, (and must have had all kinds of blood tests) my liver was fine then.
I just feel like I got no answers and feel stupid because I was crying so hard I couldn't talk and I knew he was uncomfortable. I don't want to feel the prescriptions because I might be asking for trouble.
He did give me a name for a therapist and said to make an appointment. I just feel like a failure.
The doctor came in and asked me what was going on. I told him my blood pressure has been really high, I can't sleep at night, I have high anxiety, etc. (and this is the tough part) I told him I think it is because I am drinking too much. I could see right away he was very uncomfortable. He asked me a few questions, like how much I drink, how long I have been doing it, do I feel suicidal? I answered his questions and he said I needed to get on some medication. So he prescribed Ativan for anxiety, but it is highly addictive, so only 30 days worth. And also Lexapro...an antidepressant, is this supposed to make me not want to drink? And lets give someone with an addictive personality an addictive drug after she just told you she' s worried about drinking too much. Oh yea, he also said, Don't drink alcohol with the Ativan....WHAT? When I said I am worried that I can't stop, and do I just slow down or just stop....he said just stop, you can do it! :wtf1:
I tried to talk about my drinking (very uncomfortable for me) and I was worried about damage to my internal organs, i.e.liver, etc. And all he said was it took years to develop liver problems and since I had my gallbladder out 1-1/2 years ago, (and must have had all kinds of blood tests) my liver was fine then.
I just feel like I got no answers and feel stupid because I was crying so hard I couldn't talk and I knew he was uncomfortable. I don't want to feel the prescriptions because I might be asking for trouble.
He did give me a name for a therapist and said to make an appointment. I just feel like a failure.
