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Holidays are always a downer
This holiday has been a downer for our family since 2001. My FIL was killed the day after Christmas in a one car accident. His birthday was the 24th of December.
The past few years with him being on this earth was not good for him, so I am thankful that he's out of his miserable life of hurting all the time.
He was an alcoholic of the worst kind. My husband his family thought that this man hung the moon, but with his death, reality has set in that he wasn't the saint that they all thought he was.
We miss him each and everyday. This time of the year my husband tends to make more meetings (which makes me happy). He concentrates on himself and today rather than the past.
I see my husband going down the same road with the pain that his dad did. Although mine has been in recovery for 4 years, I know it's a day by day process.
We have created new traditions to compensate. My husband and his mother hasn't spoken in 3 1/2 years. She was money hungry, we did things the right way (according to the contract he and his dad had) in respect of getting the business. It's just a shame that one of her grandchildren our eldest is a senior this year, accomplishing great success with his music. Her grandaughter (our youngest) is in FFA showing pigs of all things.
It's just a shame!
The past few years with him being on this earth was not good for him, so I am thankful that he's out of his miserable life of hurting all the time.
He was an alcoholic of the worst kind. My husband his family thought that this man hung the moon, but with his death, reality has set in that he wasn't the saint that they all thought he was.
We miss him each and everyday. This time of the year my husband tends to make more meetings (which makes me happy). He concentrates on himself and today rather than the past.
I see my husband going down the same road with the pain that his dad did. Although mine has been in recovery for 4 years, I know it's a day by day process.
We have created new traditions to compensate. My husband and his mother hasn't spoken in 3 1/2 years. She was money hungry, we did things the right way (according to the contract he and his dad had) in respect of getting the business. It's just a shame that one of her grandchildren our eldest is a senior this year, accomplishing great success with his music. Her grandaughter (our youngest) is in FFA showing pigs of all things.
It's just a shame!
What is he up to?
My MIL and FIL are in town. I had discussed the impending seperation and reasons with my MIL about a week ago. She was VERY supportive, said her son needed a wake-up call, and that I should pack his bags.
So now my AH has not had a drink (that I can prove, nor that is apparent) since last weekend. I was gone most of the day with one of our kids and when I got home my MIL said my AH hadn't had a drop all day and that he said he couldn't even have a beer because he was taking our other son to his game.
I just don't know what to do with all of it. He's still angry and we aren't really speaking much (which is really interesting with his parents here). Now I think he's on a campaign to prove he's not an alcoholic and has "witnesses" that will back him up. I just have a feeling I'm going to come out of this one looking like the lying B****.
Then the completely co-dependent part of me thinks, what if he really has changed this time? This is the longest he has been without a drink in at least 2 years. UGGHH......does the self-doubt ever end?
So now my AH has not had a drink (that I can prove, nor that is apparent) since last weekend. I was gone most of the day with one of our kids and when I got home my MIL said my AH hadn't had a drop all day and that he said he couldn't even have a beer because he was taking our other son to his game.
I just don't know what to do with all of it. He's still angry and we aren't really speaking much (which is really interesting with his parents here). Now I think he's on a campaign to prove he's not an alcoholic and has "witnesses" that will back him up. I just have a feeling I'm going to come out of this one looking like the lying B****.
Then the completely co-dependent part of me thinks, what if he really has changed this time? This is the longest he has been without a drink in at least 2 years. UGGHH......does the self-doubt ever end?
