Archive for the ‘Flip Side’ tag
A touchy subject…. Don’t read if you don’t want to.
Sharing stories and offering encouragement and motivation is a great thing between a former or current Substance abuser. However what about the flip side of the coin?
I've noticed in some discussions that people that are seeking validation or excuses for there own acts are getting rewarded. Id like to point out that no one forces me or anyone to drink alcohol or abuse any substance. Without taking responsibility for our own actions we will never achieve any of our goals.
People encouraging abuse, triggers, stress, health issues, financial problems, social issues... are problems i hear all the time.These things are terrible and i am sorry to hear it. But it does not give validation or make it any less our fault for abusing.
My point is that at times people want to hear the sympathy to validate there own false perception that its others peoples fault. Or exp: because of such n such problems I have proper motive to lie and abuse.
I am not accusing anyone of false doings on this board or am i saying this is not a great community. But sometimes people should be receiving respectfully reality checks instead of further validation to excuses and motives for there recent screw up.
I know if I was trying to make excuses i would want someone to tell me. Exp someone who has been there before.
I've noticed in some discussions that people that are seeking validation or excuses for there own acts are getting rewarded. Id like to point out that no one forces me or anyone to drink alcohol or abuse any substance. Without taking responsibility for our own actions we will never achieve any of our goals.
People encouraging abuse, triggers, stress, health issues, financial problems, social issues... are problems i hear all the time.These things are terrible and i am sorry to hear it. But it does not give validation or make it any less our fault for abusing.
My point is that at times people want to hear the sympathy to validate there own false perception that its others peoples fault. Or exp: because of such n such problems I have proper motive to lie and abuse.
I am not accusing anyone of false doings on this board or am i saying this is not a great community. But sometimes people should be receiving respectfully reality checks instead of further validation to excuses and motives for there recent screw up.
I know if I was trying to make excuses i would want someone to tell me. Exp someone who has been there before.
Any drunks/addicts out there????
Hey all you all....
I am battling manic-depressive emotions daily. I'm not actually M/D, but with new sobriety and "feeling" the feelings - it's been a heck of a roller-coaster ride!!!
Yesterday was a seemingly bottomless pit. Today, great. I know I can't predict tomorrow cuz I'm not there yet but I'm expecting this same up and down, unpredictable -- overwhelming emotional crap that I just can't put a lid on or somehow control. When it's good, it's really good. When it's shhhi... it's bad!
Trying to just roll with it and know "this too shall pass". Easy to say to others, however, not so easy with myself!
I'm thanking God for the great day I had today and am grateful I wasn't on the flip side like the day before.
Hope YOU had a great Thanksgiving, and if not, there's always tomorrow!
:wtf2
I am battling manic-depressive emotions daily. I'm not actually M/D, but with new sobriety and "feeling" the feelings - it's been a heck of a roller-coaster ride!!!
Yesterday was a seemingly bottomless pit. Today, great. I know I can't predict tomorrow cuz I'm not there yet but I'm expecting this same up and down, unpredictable -- overwhelming emotional crap that I just can't put a lid on or somehow control. When it's good, it's really good. When it's shhhi... it's bad!
Trying to just roll with it and know "this too shall pass". Easy to say to others, however, not so easy with myself!
I'm thanking God for the great day I had today and am grateful I wasn't on the flip side like the day before.
Hope YOU had a great Thanksgiving, and if not, there's always tomorrow!
:wtf2
