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My father and stepmother are trying to use me…vent
Hi gang,
Once again, I need to vent.
As you know it is going on three weeks since my husband moved out. I am suppose to see him tomorrow to bring some clothes and stuff. He had sounded good the last two times I spoke to him, and had called both my mother and sister asking them if he could use them for a reference for a job under the table. He moved in with a friend (also an A), who is trying to help him out. Today, he was weepy. He was in a lot of back pain today, and he cried to me about how he missed me and loved me. He again said he was hungry. I have been crying a bunch the last few days. I have been missing him too. It has been terrible. So already the day was off to a gloomy kind of start.
Then I get a message from my step mother. My father and step mother are (to put it lightly) underhanded people. I love my father, but he has always been very self centered and is ready to shark someone for a buck. In his business, he has lied, cheated, and stole. His wife (my mother's former friend) is just like him, and he cheated on my mother when I was 13 and left her for my step mother. My step mother has one child, who is now 25. My step sister uses...what, I don't know, but I suspect coke, ex, and a variety of other things. My step mother has enabled her to the hilt. She has never balanced her checkbook, paid her own way, or done anything on her own. My step mother bought her a condo, which my stepsister promptly destroyed between the parties, the friends crashing, and the neglect. Eventually, they decided that she had to get out of there, and she moved to Brooklyn with a boyfriend who is now in prison for strong arm robbery. My dad and SM were paying the mortgage on the condo to prevent it from going into foreclosure.
My AH and I moved in there because it was benefical for all...the financial burden off them and off of us since it was considerably cheaper and bigger than what we were in. AH and I signed a lease to ward off the possibility of the step sis coming and trying to weasel back in. A few months ago, the step sis moved back down from NY (couldn't hack it up there on her own...couldn't find a job---hello...NYC and couldn't find a job?). My father has announced several times how much he can't stand her. She has been living with them now...suddenly, they are singing her praises...she got a job and she is doing so great (yeah right)....
well today, the other shoe dropped, and my step mother left a message on my work phone to ask that since the step sis is working so close to my place that I should rent her the other bedroom... I called my father and we argued about it for a while...I told him that if they are going to try to force this on me, I will stop paying rent, and they can formally evict me. Of course, my father as manipulative as he is tries to twist my words to make it appear like I am being emotional and irrational. We ended up hanging up on one another. I left a message on my step mother's phone that under no condition will I allow her to live with me.
I just got one addict out of the house! They didn't even wait until my damn sheets have cooled and they are ready to pounce. I am so hurt and sad. They are intentionally trying to take advantage of me. They know I am going through a divorce and that this is painful...they are going to try to pawn this person off on me and tell me that they are looking out for my welfare...you don't have 25 years worth of problem, 10 years of addiction, and no responsibility, and are magically fixed in two months....no AA no NA no recovery whatsoever....
On top of that, it just makes me miss my husband all the more. I feel so alone in all this. It makes the ache all more painful....
Thanks for letting me vent. Sorry so long.
Once again, I need to vent.
As you know it is going on three weeks since my husband moved out. I am suppose to see him tomorrow to bring some clothes and stuff. He had sounded good the last two times I spoke to him, and had called both my mother and sister asking them if he could use them for a reference for a job under the table. He moved in with a friend (also an A), who is trying to help him out. Today, he was weepy. He was in a lot of back pain today, and he cried to me about how he missed me and loved me. He again said he was hungry. I have been crying a bunch the last few days. I have been missing him too. It has been terrible. So already the day was off to a gloomy kind of start.
Then I get a message from my step mother. My father and step mother are (to put it lightly) underhanded people. I love my father, but he has always been very self centered and is ready to shark someone for a buck. In his business, he has lied, cheated, and stole. His wife (my mother's former friend) is just like him, and he cheated on my mother when I was 13 and left her for my step mother. My step mother has one child, who is now 25. My step sister uses...what, I don't know, but I suspect coke, ex, and a variety of other things. My step mother has enabled her to the hilt. She has never balanced her checkbook, paid her own way, or done anything on her own. My step mother bought her a condo, which my stepsister promptly destroyed between the parties, the friends crashing, and the neglect. Eventually, they decided that she had to get out of there, and she moved to Brooklyn with a boyfriend who is now in prison for strong arm robbery. My dad and SM were paying the mortgage on the condo to prevent it from going into foreclosure.
My AH and I moved in there because it was benefical for all...the financial burden off them and off of us since it was considerably cheaper and bigger than what we were in. AH and I signed a lease to ward off the possibility of the step sis coming and trying to weasel back in. A few months ago, the step sis moved back down from NY (couldn't hack it up there on her own...couldn't find a job---hello...NYC and couldn't find a job?). My father has announced several times how much he can't stand her. She has been living with them now...suddenly, they are singing her praises...she got a job and she is doing so great (yeah right)....
well today, the other shoe dropped, and my step mother left a message on my work phone to ask that since the step sis is working so close to my place that I should rent her the other bedroom... I called my father and we argued about it for a while...I told him that if they are going to try to force this on me, I will stop paying rent, and they can formally evict me. Of course, my father as manipulative as he is tries to twist my words to make it appear like I am being emotional and irrational. We ended up hanging up on one another. I left a message on my step mother's phone that under no condition will I allow her to live with me.
I just got one addict out of the house! They didn't even wait until my damn sheets have cooled and they are ready to pounce. I am so hurt and sad. They are intentionally trying to take advantage of me. They know I am going through a divorce and that this is painful...they are going to try to pawn this person off on me and tell me that they are looking out for my welfare...you don't have 25 years worth of problem, 10 years of addiction, and no responsibility, and are magically fixed in two months....no AA no NA no recovery whatsoever....
On top of that, it just makes me miss my husband all the more. I feel so alone in all this. It makes the ache all more painful....
Thanks for letting me vent. Sorry so long.
I am admitting I am addicted but I can’t get help
Hello. I am new to this but boy am I glad it is here. I would like to share my story like everyone else.
I began my addiction in 2002 after an accident that left me injured. Over the years it has become so much more than pain relief. I have done so many things I am not proud of at all and I am very embarassed and ashamed. This is the first time I have ever admitted to having a problem. I am taking 10-10mg of Lortab a day and have been for about 3 years. I have stole from my family to get them and go to numerous doctors to get the prescrition filled. I am a therapist so the doctors don't check alot out for the doctor shopping. I have tried many times to reduce my intake myself but it just never happens. I am losing my home to foreclosure and I have lost control of everything; including my two beautiful children. I don't understand how and why I allowed myself to do this to them. I am so scared and nervous; I need some major prayer because I know that God is the only one who can help me through all this and give me the strength that I do not have on my own. I have read others' posts and to be honest with withdrawl stories scare me even more. Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated; and lots of prayer please.
I did call some detox programs this evening but they all want so much money and I just do not have it to pay. Does anyone have any advice.
I began my addiction in 2002 after an accident that left me injured. Over the years it has become so much more than pain relief. I have done so many things I am not proud of at all and I am very embarassed and ashamed. This is the first time I have ever admitted to having a problem. I am taking 10-10mg of Lortab a day and have been for about 3 years. I have stole from my family to get them and go to numerous doctors to get the prescrition filled. I am a therapist so the doctors don't check alot out for the doctor shopping. I have tried many times to reduce my intake myself but it just never happens. I am losing my home to foreclosure and I have lost control of everything; including my two beautiful children. I don't understand how and why I allowed myself to do this to them. I am so scared and nervous; I need some major prayer because I know that God is the only one who can help me through all this and give me the strength that I do not have on my own. I have read others' posts and to be honest with withdrawl stories scare me even more. Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated; and lots of prayer please.
I did call some detox programs this evening but they all want so much money and I just do not have it to pay. Does anyone have any advice.
another chapter TURN THE PAGE
Well Mon 8/18/08 the divorce was final.
She ran my custom built home, that I built with my own 2 hands into
foreclosure, ran us into bankruptcy, and literaly stold my Harley.
she signed off on my pension, $200.00 more a month in my pocket.
For the life in me I don't know why any man should ever get married,
unless their are kids involved. I am now going to sing from the roof tops
against marriage, it's a cruel joke created by some priest some where.
women don't want a man, they want a trained pony. all I wanted was to make her happy, and the marriage to last. NEVER EVER AGAIN.
IF MARRIAGE LISENCE COST AS MUCH, AS A DIVORCE. THERE WOULD BE NONE. Sorry gals but one of your sisters, has created another bitter man.
TURN THE PAGE.:birthday
She ran my custom built home, that I built with my own 2 hands into
foreclosure, ran us into bankruptcy, and literaly stold my Harley.
she signed off on my pension, $200.00 more a month in my pocket.
For the life in me I don't know why any man should ever get married,
unless their are kids involved. I am now going to sing from the roof tops
against marriage, it's a cruel joke created by some priest some where.
women don't want a man, they want a trained pony. all I wanted was to make her happy, and the marriage to last. NEVER EVER AGAIN.
IF MARRIAGE LISENCE COST AS MUCH, AS A DIVORCE. THERE WOULD BE NONE. Sorry gals but one of your sisters, has created another bitter man.
TURN THE PAGE.:birthday
