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He drank again, need advice
My husband is an alcoholic. He went into rehab in January for 4 weeks and has been fighting (sometimes unsuccessfully) to stay sober since. He has recently been sober for a little over 90 days and I came home tonight and he was very drunk, he drank a pint and a half pint of vodka in 4 hours.
My question is how do I handle this tomorrow? Do I confront him and treat him how I feel (angry), do I ignore it and just let him feel like he got off the hook, do I try to talk to him?
I'm not surprised that this happened, because he's an alcoholic and I just can't get my hopes up anymore. But I really felt that this time might be different because his whole attitude about being sober seemed different this time. He just seemed almost like a different person this time and I thought maybe this time is it. I know most alcoholics relapse at times, but geez, while 90 days is a long time for an alcoholic, it's not really a long time. I guess we'll see how it plays out for now, but I just need advice on how to make him take the responsibility and not try to blame me or someone else come tomorrow.
Thanks for any advice.
My question is how do I handle this tomorrow? Do I confront him and treat him how I feel (angry), do I ignore it and just let him feel like he got off the hook, do I try to talk to him?
I'm not surprised that this happened, because he's an alcoholic and I just can't get my hopes up anymore. But I really felt that this time might be different because his whole attitude about being sober seemed different this time. He just seemed almost like a different person this time and I thought maybe this time is it. I know most alcoholics relapse at times, but geez, while 90 days is a long time for an alcoholic, it's not really a long time. I guess we'll see how it plays out for now, but I just need advice on how to make him take the responsibility and not try to blame me or someone else come tomorrow.
Thanks for any advice.
Prayer Request, Please…
I'm pleading with everyone to pray for my AXBF who is a severe alcoholic. I threw him out 6 weeks ago, had no choice, it was a nightmare & I realized that the only one that could help him is God. I was just enabling & stopping him from ever finding recovery. But now I am in torment over that dicision....did I REALLY do the right thing???
He is in pretty deep with his alcoholism, and is in extreme denial. He has a DUI warrant from 2004 that he has been running from. I recently got a copy of that police report, and his blood level alcohol was .77 (NOT a typo!!). Technically he SHOULD be DEAD at this level, but his body has built up this high of a torerance to alcohol.
I got him into a free health screening, which showed that his sugar is REALLY high, his colesteral is REALLY high, he has an enlarged prostate......probably all caused from his DRINKING. He sometimes pee's BLOOD, has kidney stones often, claims he even vomits BLOOD. None of this has seemed to make make him SEE. (He would try to adjust his DIET for the sugar problem, yet pound down 15 or more beers a day...:a043:
At present, he is phoning me occasionally and acting very depressed. He was forced to get a job, but he hates it. He got an apt, but tells me that his $9 hr job doesn't make ends meet. I'm not sure what to make of his phone calls. I know I can't enable him any longer, but I DO want to keep the lines of communication open with him, just in case. Other than his children (which he would never admit any problem to), I am the closest person to him. He is extremely angry with his mother, blames her for splitting us up (in actuallity, she was trying to make him recognize his alcoholism).
I am attending Alon-On myself, and have read a million books on A, Codependancy, etc. I know I need to "Live & Let God" but geez that is HARD when I am watching the man I hoped to marry DIE from this crazy desease!!!!!!! I know with BAC's as high as his, and the additional health problems, if he does not find his bottom SOON this desease is gonna kill him. And I feel SO helpless!!!!!!!!!
i'm a fervent believer that God DOES miraculously answer our prayers, and have even been given "signs" that God IS working on this situation. I truely belive that with God ALL things are possible!!! And I believe Joel Osteen has the right idea, that we should NEVER give up on people, our hopes, our dreams. I REFUSE to give up on this man. I put him on every prayer list I can find.
And I truly believe there is power in numbers.....so I am BEGGING every one of you reading this.......PLEASE take a moment to pray for this poor guy's recovery!!! I know you all don't even know him, but yet we are all in the same place......suffering from either alcoholism or other substance abuse. So we are all technically "a family". You have all felt either what HE is feeling now, or what I am feeling now.
I refuse to give up on this man......pLEASE each one of you, just say a simple prayer in his behalf. He has a mother who cries her eyes out for him, and a fiance who would give up everything she has for him. Yet HE doesn't even have a CLUE.
Thank you all for listening, and praying!!
He is in pretty deep with his alcoholism, and is in extreme denial. He has a DUI warrant from 2004 that he has been running from. I recently got a copy of that police report, and his blood level alcohol was .77 (NOT a typo!!). Technically he SHOULD be DEAD at this level, but his body has built up this high of a torerance to alcohol.
I got him into a free health screening, which showed that his sugar is REALLY high, his colesteral is REALLY high, he has an enlarged prostate......probably all caused from his DRINKING. He sometimes pee's BLOOD, has kidney stones often, claims he even vomits BLOOD. None of this has seemed to make make him SEE. (He would try to adjust his DIET for the sugar problem, yet pound down 15 or more beers a day...:a043:
At present, he is phoning me occasionally and acting very depressed. He was forced to get a job, but he hates it. He got an apt, but tells me that his $9 hr job doesn't make ends meet. I'm not sure what to make of his phone calls. I know I can't enable him any longer, but I DO want to keep the lines of communication open with him, just in case. Other than his children (which he would never admit any problem to), I am the closest person to him. He is extremely angry with his mother, blames her for splitting us up (in actuallity, she was trying to make him recognize his alcoholism).
I am attending Alon-On myself, and have read a million books on A, Codependancy, etc. I know I need to "Live & Let God" but geez that is HARD when I am watching the man I hoped to marry DIE from this crazy desease!!!!!!! I know with BAC's as high as his, and the additional health problems, if he does not find his bottom SOON this desease is gonna kill him. And I feel SO helpless!!!!!!!!!
i'm a fervent believer that God DOES miraculously answer our prayers, and have even been given "signs" that God IS working on this situation. I truely belive that with God ALL things are possible!!! And I believe Joel Osteen has the right idea, that we should NEVER give up on people, our hopes, our dreams. I REFUSE to give up on this man. I put him on every prayer list I can find.
And I truly believe there is power in numbers.....so I am BEGGING every one of you reading this.......PLEASE take a moment to pray for this poor guy's recovery!!! I know you all don't even know him, but yet we are all in the same place......suffering from either alcoholism or other substance abuse. So we are all technically "a family". You have all felt either what HE is feeling now, or what I am feeling now.
I refuse to give up on this man......pLEASE each one of you, just say a simple prayer in his behalf. He has a mother who cries her eyes out for him, and a fiance who would give up everything she has for him. Yet HE doesn't even have a CLUE.
Thank you all for listening, and praying!!
