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I recently celebrated 3 yrs sober, and it felt good, but I am still unhappy that I suffer from certain character defects. I easily get a negative outlook on life and just wish for the instant feeling of good I got from booze/drugs. I have had a lot of extremes in life, more than other people in recovery I know. I did a lot of narcotics, got a lot of money without working for it early in life, and sex was the same. I don't like journeys, I just like destinations. I have difficulty in life not seeing it in these terms (black and white, all or nothing, sex/booze/money/status), and I often live my life just wanting to escape or find a means to escape. This makes me more selfish than I would like. I notice most people in general are very selfish.... most people in aa are still selfish to some degree, and the people who I see as less selfish are only selfless IF they think it will benefit them. I am like that, but more extreme. I feel like it will take a lifetime to undue the damage I did to myself (if it is possible). Getting sober and getting a job is easy, overcoming this stuff feels almost impossible. All I can manage to do is pray about it, do my readings, and try not to commit the selfish acts that have ruined me and my attitude/approach to life (or at least ones that are obvious to me). I am only now starting to accept myself a little more for who I am, so I am only beginning to accept others a little more too and want to be a part of their lives.

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when i do become free of this demon and the anger ,guilt i want to 1)true ppl who stood by me
2)be that better person forget those who hurt me and my family and make up for along time those who helped me without judgements rules normal how ppl should be
3)watch my kids hold their heads up high
4)go bk to learning computers and getting a job.

I got my first DUI over the summer, although it was hardly the first time I'd driven drunk. I've struggled since then to stop drinking, and I know that I'm on the road to recovery. The problem, however, is that my license was suspended at the time of the arrest (for non-payment of fines) so it looks like I'm going to be found guilty and will be going to jail. I feel like such an idiot and a loser right now. Especially since I'm finishing up a master's degree and will be looking for new employment within the next 5-6 months. I had wanted to enroll in a teacher certification program, but I don't think I qualify with a DUI. I had no idea how many negative ramifications came with a DUI.

Does anyone have any experience getting a job after being arrested (and convicted) of DUI?

I've posted about this before, somewhat...but it's increasingly becoming a problem for me.

I'm currently on day 24 of sobriety. As some people may remember from a few previous posts, I've been living with my best friend for the past 6 years. We were college roommates first, then decided to move FAR away from home and buy a house together after we graduated college.

During my first few attempts at sobriety, my roommate wasn't very supportive. It wasn't until I had a serious breakdown during a 3 day long binge that she seemed to change. (I'm still not convinced my mom didn't call her about it...)

Anyway, we'd always drink together. I believe that she may be on her way to developing a drinking problem, but she's never been quite as bad as I was. Since I've stopped drinking she hasn't been drinking much at home at all. There's always beer in the fridge, which doesn't bother me all that much...However, lately she's decided that going to the bar almost every day after work for "a drink" is what she wants to do instead. (oh, and xanax mixed in here and there.)

We have three dogs, and since she's been absent I've taken to walking all three of them. I didn't mind much at first, but it's becoming a hassle. More than anything though, it's her coming home tipsy and annoying me...or coming home late during the work week and being disruptive that's really starting to get to me.

I really don't mind at all that we aren't spending as much time together... It's just that it's becoming increasingly difficult for me to CO-EXIST with her. Hearing her come in late at night, spending weekends hungover... it's just not something I care to be around right now.

I've been thinking about telling her not to take it the wrong way, but that I'm finding it difficult to live with her and think it would be best if we went our separate ways. I've been looking into getting a job and moving back home to be closer to my family for some time. It's just that we have this house together...and I don't want to feel like I'm being indecent and inconsiderate in leaving. Whenever I bring up moving home, I can tell she panics and asks if I'm going to "leave her here." I know I need to do what is best for me, but I can't help but feel guilty...:guilty:

That I still need to work on that dang impulse thing.

Jeez!!! I walked out of my job today. My boss is on vacation and one of the girls told me she talked to him and told me not to come in until Tuesday which is the day he'll be back in the office. Hmmmmm........my guess??? Can you say "job hunting skills?"

Getting a job isn't my concern so much as how long before I get the next one.

I have to say, NOT THE BRIGHTEST VEGI!!!!!!! :e136:

Progress not perfection, progress not perfection, progress not perfection...........ok!!

So I don't plan on letting it ruin my weekend. If anything, I've got all those new job postings to go through on Sunday, already posted my resume' up there on one site (YOU GO GIRL) and while I'm NOT doing much on Monday I can be picking my but up and out looking for a job.

So what's the moral of this story? Ummmmmmm..........give me a minute, I'm thinking :e088: