Archive for the ‘House Arrest’ tag
Hi to all!! Back with son’s addiction
Hi everybody! I've thought about you all often and it's good to know that this awesome forum is still going and offering help/advice/support to those that need it.
When I first came on here in 2004, it was my xabf and a year of turmoil there. But, through Al Anon and all of you, that relationship ended a long time ago.
It's my son who will be 30yrs old this year...that has the drinking addiction. He got two DUI's back-to-back in 2007 and needed a lawyer. The laws have gotten alot stricter here in CO, as they should be.
I retained a lawyer for him and my as (alcoholic son) just did in house arrest for the month of Dec. for the one DUI and now he's in jail today for a bit for the 2nd one.
The whole time he was on house arrest, he was still drinking. I'd go visit him and see him on the holidays and he was still using. So, house arrest didn't do much for him because he was still "running' while on it.
In jail, he'll have to be sober and also his PO will be taking random breathilizers and putting a device on his vehicle to blow into before driving.
He has HUNDREDS of community service, fines and classes. He has no job, he's gotten fired from each one. He's homeless because everywhere he lived, he didn't pay rent.
On house arrest, he stayed with his Dad and during that time stold his Dad's credit cards and booked flights for his gf's and other things...ran up thousands of $ on his dad's cards. It just seems like his addiction is getting worse and worse, he lies constantly. He's very sensitive to talk to...if one thing is said that he doesn't like...he jumps on you verbally.
He's just filled with pain...his uncle/best friend, died of a cocaine accidental overdose on Christmas 2005 and my son knew his uncle did some drugs, but not to the extent that he was. My AS was the last person with his uncle the night before he died and so my AS has been feeling guilty ever since. He constantly runs and needs people's acceptance.
My fear is for when he gets out of jail....where will he go? What will he do? Will he finally see after years and years of drinking that it's JUST NOT WORTH IT?
I'm scared for him because of the fact that he continues to keep the cycle going.
I ask for your prayers for him...this is gonna take alot to get him to FINALLY hit that bottom and want back up.
Thank you and I hope all of your holidays were blessed!:praying
When I first came on here in 2004, it was my xabf and a year of turmoil there. But, through Al Anon and all of you, that relationship ended a long time ago.
It's my son who will be 30yrs old this year...that has the drinking addiction. He got two DUI's back-to-back in 2007 and needed a lawyer. The laws have gotten alot stricter here in CO, as they should be.
I retained a lawyer for him and my as (alcoholic son) just did in house arrest for the month of Dec. for the one DUI and now he's in jail today for a bit for the 2nd one.
The whole time he was on house arrest, he was still drinking. I'd go visit him and see him on the holidays and he was still using. So, house arrest didn't do much for him because he was still "running' while on it.
In jail, he'll have to be sober and also his PO will be taking random breathilizers and putting a device on his vehicle to blow into before driving.
He has HUNDREDS of community service, fines and classes. He has no job, he's gotten fired from each one. He's homeless because everywhere he lived, he didn't pay rent.
On house arrest, he stayed with his Dad and during that time stold his Dad's credit cards and booked flights for his gf's and other things...ran up thousands of $ on his dad's cards. It just seems like his addiction is getting worse and worse, he lies constantly. He's very sensitive to talk to...if one thing is said that he doesn't like...he jumps on you verbally.
He's just filled with pain...his uncle/best friend, died of a cocaine accidental overdose on Christmas 2005 and my son knew his uncle did some drugs, but not to the extent that he was. My AS was the last person with his uncle the night before he died and so my AS has been feeling guilty ever since. He constantly runs and needs people's acceptance.
My fear is for when he gets out of jail....where will he go? What will he do? Will he finally see after years and years of drinking that it's JUST NOT WORTH IT?
I'm scared for him because of the fact that he continues to keep the cycle going.
I ask for your prayers for him...this is gonna take alot to get him to FINALLY hit that bottom and want back up.
Thank you and I hope all of your holidays were blessed!:praying
Update & Continued Prayer Request…
I want to thank everyone on this board for your prayers & support. My ABF (who I split up with a several months ago) has been through ALOT the past couple of months. We had split up twice before this, but this time I prayed really hard that if God wanted him in my life, to bring him back a 3rd & final time, but realizing he has an A problem. Well, he DID come back, and seems different....says he "hit bottom".....well....in my opinion, he is still drinking so he isn;t "quite there" yet.....but I feel God WORKING on SOMETHING :praying!!! It is just incredible. SLOW....God's time, not mine.....lol..ugh (I'm SO impatient!!) but WORKING.
Just today I was having a bad time, a job came to him that I at first thought would hurt our relationship ( the devil was working overtime on me, my imagination was going crazy).......and out of the blue a Christian ladyfriend of mine phoned & asked if everything was okay. She said she could not get me out of her mind today. SO....long story short, that phone call really helped put my mind back in prospective, and was clearly from GOD!!!!
Things are working out slowly......but so far my ABF isn't ready to deal with a DUI warrant from 2004........he just doesn't want to discuss it, and it scares me. He's afraid of the jail time (probably only 3-5 months, some possibly house arrest), and also says he doesn;t have $$ for the fines, so it's no use dealing with it.....:skillet
It does seem like there is no way out of his situation, yet I KNOW with God NOTHING is impossible!!
As for my life, I really need a life partner so badly. I long to be married again, and I do love this man.
So I'm asking all of you to continue to pray for my BF to realize he has to face this DUI from 2004. (If it is God's will). And more importantly, that he realizes he needs to FIND GOD in his life. We are living in such critical times!! His childhood was horrendous, so it's extremely difficult for him. But I DO believe God is working on him.
There is power in numbers, so please continue to pray for his & our situation. Thank you all for listening!!
Just today I was having a bad time, a job came to him that I at first thought would hurt our relationship ( the devil was working overtime on me, my imagination was going crazy).......and out of the blue a Christian ladyfriend of mine phoned & asked if everything was okay. She said she could not get me out of her mind today. SO....long story short, that phone call really helped put my mind back in prospective, and was clearly from GOD!!!!
Things are working out slowly......but so far my ABF isn't ready to deal with a DUI warrant from 2004........he just doesn't want to discuss it, and it scares me. He's afraid of the jail time (probably only 3-5 months, some possibly house arrest), and also says he doesn;t have $$ for the fines, so it's no use dealing with it.....:skillet
It does seem like there is no way out of his situation, yet I KNOW with God NOTHING is impossible!!
As for my life, I really need a life partner so badly. I long to be married again, and I do love this man.
So I'm asking all of you to continue to pray for my BF to realize he has to face this DUI from 2004. (If it is God's will). And more importantly, that he realizes he needs to FIND GOD in his life. We are living in such critical times!! His childhood was horrendous, so it's extremely difficult for him. But I DO believe God is working on him.
There is power in numbers, so please continue to pray for his & our situation. Thank you all for listening!!
Struggling with my decision
Hi...I am new here...I recently broke it off with my bf of 2 1/2 years. He is 39 years old, an alcoholic, unemployed, and a constant womanizer. He has had 7 D.U.I, which now he is a convicted felon and on probabtion for the next 4 years. He has already had one probation violation. I wont' lie I love this man, and him moving out has been horrendous on me. I caught him in 20 indescrestions alone, all of which he says, I made up or I am a jealous B. Everything was always a miscommunication on someone else's part, he was joking, or I assumed the worst. He now says our biggest issue was me not believing in him. I have solid proof on some of these incidences. Anytime I wanted clarification on anything, he got angry and said he has already explained himself, and would leave me frustrated. He always shut down. He was home every night, he cooked, he cleaned, and always told me how much he loved me and couldn't live without me, which has made it hard to accept what I know. He could be supportive at times, and even loving. It's like he has 2 lives, one when I am around and one when I wasn't. He spent a month in jail of which I just read those letters of him promising to quit drinking. He spent 6 months on house arrest and about 2 months after that he was drunk, and I started finding whiskey bottles hidden around the house. He lied about drinking, he lied about losing jobs, he lied about women. To this day he says my "feeble" mind made it all up. I am struggling hard. Comprehending all this has been devastating. I want to touch him, hold him, and tell him I love him, but his drinking and other activities have made it almost impossible to have a loving relationship with him. Any advice?
