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Hi there everyone,
It has been since New Year's Eve that I have had my last drink of alcohol and it marked New Year's Day as my 1 day of sobriety. I have been doing fine since then, until today. My hubby just got home from the lawyer's office, as we are forced to file Chapter 7, due to losing our jobs a little over 2 month's ago. We are expected to lose a few items....in which I've learned to come to terms with and that's ok, they can be replaced down the road.
Well, on the way home, I came so close to pulling into the parking lot of the corner market to buy some beer. I'm in between sadness, stress and some relief that soon this will all come to an end and the creditors will finally quit harrassing us. I know that it's not our fault that we lost our jobs, but in a way I feel very guilty that I can no longer afford to pay back the loans. It's like I want to say I'm sorry but there is nothing I can do about it. So we are turning the items over to the creditors once we go to court...I only want to save my house and our other car.
Anyway, let me tell you what was going through my mind, because if I don't get to the point I will just keep on rambling about my problems....lol! Sorry, I'm bad at doing that.
Well, I kept thinking...Pull over and get some beer, my hubby even offered to give me the money that he had on hand in order for to buy some. Then the other part of me kept thinking...maybe it's not a good idea, think about how bad you will feel tomorrow and the guilt you will carry. Is it really worth it?
Then I thought about everyone on here...what would the people on SB do? Before I knew it, I was in my driveway...went into the house, turned on the computer and started writing this post to you and taking a drink of pepsi with wild cherry flavor. Not exactly what I wanted, because I really like diet pop...but I guess this will have to do. As I write this I'm really trying to calm my craving for a beer or 2, 3, 4....etc. Instead of stopping at the corner market, I thought of SB and decided I needed to hurry up and get home and share what is on my mind. I hope that I just don't say...oh well, go get it...you deserve it. I need to be strong. Trying so hard...I feel like I'm in a battle....even though I know that I'm in the right place.
Right here with you.
I hope this makes sense and if there are any typo's I apologize...I just need to hurry up and post this before I change my mind. By the way, I'm not proof reading this...just type and send.
Thank you all so much for listening and being here with me.
XOXO
:Val004:

Here it is day, 3...I would be drinking by now, because this would be the "other" day of my "every other" day drinking binge. This has became a routine of mine since my hubby and I lost our jobs a little over 2 months ago. We just got back from the store and I'm getting ready to make some taco salads...yummy. Still hanging in there and taking it "A Day At A Time". I'm so happy that my hubby is supportive of me and he doesn't like drinking that much anymore. He used to enjoy drinking about a year and a half ago and just did it mostly out of boredom. Me on the other hand did it out of boredom, for fun, when I was stressed and mostly for the buzz...I enjoyed doing it no matter what. It sure made everything more fun...like cleaning house, dishes, doing crafts and just plain hanging out at home. But I would have such terrible guilt the next day, even if everything went just fine the night before. I just wanted to check in and let you know how I was doing and that I haven't had a drink since New Years Eve. Right now I'm drinking a Diet Pepsi w/Wild Cherry flavoring...."Cheers, here's to another day and here's to today". :dance8::dance8:
Let's just see what tomorrow brings, because it is another day.
I would love to say no more for me please, never doing it again...but that is just to scary to think about. That is why I'd rather deal with it a day at a time. Besides, I think I would be pleased with myself if I did just cut back to once a month compared to the every other day routine.
Thanks for Listening and God Bless!!!
Take Care,
XOXO

I'm just coming in to say hello....I'm on day 2 and just taking it one day at a time. I am getting to the point that I really need to cut back. I could drink about 12 beers every other day, this has become more and more like this since my husband and I lost our jobs a little over 2 months ago. We both were working for the same company and they went out of business, we had there 18+ years with them. I'm learning to deal with it a little better these days, now I just need to learn to deal with not drinking so much.
I wanted to introduce myself and thank everyone that is coming to this wonderful place. Your support is a blessing, Take care!
XOXO
:Val004:

Hi so im pretty new to all of this and I really needed help on how to help my alcoholic husband. He lost his father in January of this year, to alcoholism, and since than has been in a tail spin. Hes been fired from two jobs in the past six months, for not showing up for his shifts. He drinks every day to 'relax' as he says. All he does all day is play on his video game, while drinking. Were 21 and 22. Our friends enjoy going out to the bar and clubs but his drinking has become such a problem people have stopped inviting us out. He has alienated his friends after they all made a conscious effort to do none drinking activities. His drinking has made it almost impossible for him and I to go out with my friends because he gets so nasty when he drinks. He refuses to see he has a problem. And gets really angry when the subject is even brought up. I dont know what else to do. I see where we are heading and I dont know how or what to do to stop this. I love him I dont want to see him like this but Im at a loss. Any advice anyone has for me would be greatly appreciated.

My prayers are with you all!

Hello all my dear friends! I am so sorry for being MIA for so long; however, there has been so much going on I haven't had a moment's rest.

I've been caring for my dear sweet uncle who just passed away a couple of weeks ago. He was my favorite uncle and he lived a long life. He was 92 years old and always so healthy until the past two years.

I do have an update on my son.

As you all know he was released on October 27,2008. He got a job immediately making $20.00 an hour; however, that job is now done as they were doing stone work at a new casino here.

Work is now going to be very difficult because of the rain and no more jobs around. Thankfully, he has put away a few bucks for this rainy day and only hope he continues doing well.

We have a couple of scary moments too! I did let him use my cellphone but warned him not to go over the minutes. Well, he was very close to going over and I warned him of the fact. Next thing I know is he was way over. In fact, 50.00 over. I took the phone away and had him reinburse me the 50.00.

Don't know how he liked that but too bad. He is staying with us until he gets a place, but now that work is not steady who knows.

He gets annoyed with me 'cause I do the mother thing and Mr. Dev stays "stop it, he's 46"!

He is being tested a couple of times a month so hopefully he stays clean.

One night he stayed out until the wee hours of the morning. I told him that was unacceptable and if he wants to stay out he should at least call and let me know. He hasn't done that since.

It seems he is always testing the waters!! He never stops.

I don't worry as much anymore because I know his fate is in his hands, not mine. Best I can do is hope and pray he gets his life together this time.

The good news here is we all got together to meet my grandaughter and her baby who is now 17 months old. She is still in the rehab and doing really well. The baby is there with her. She is determined to change her life and I'm so happy for her.

Hope you're all doing well. I promise I will drop in more often and keep you updated.

Have a wonderful Xmas and I pray that next year will be the best year ever for all.

Love you and miss taking with you.

Hugs, Devastated

p.s. can you belive the boy complained about not only the 1500 mattress, but the thread count as well! LOL

Hi all,

I just discovered this forum about 1 hour ago while I was looking for advice on my situation. I must say this forum looks great, many posters with lots of experience, so I figured I'd post my situation here:

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and are in our mid-twenties. We both have jobs and have gone through "College life" where drinking is a daily activity... We are both, today, "normal" or casual drinkers, we don't need to drink everyday (and we don't), we have some wine with dinner from time to time, and go out sometimes on weekends. Ever since I met her (a year ago), I noticed that she has a drinking problem, which I will explain shortly. We have had many, many discussions about it and even she admits she has a drinking problem (vs being an alcoholic, which we researched online, that she doesnt NEED a drink daily) but that she could easily control it and it's no big deal (first red flag for me).

So, here's the situation: When she's drinking alone with me i.e. share a bottle of wine with dinner on the weekend, everything is fine. We will finish off the bottle, usually after her 2nd glass she says she's had enough, after the wine we might have a glass of port, we're both a bit tipsy, life is great and the rest of the evening is perfect. On other occasion, she will not drink, or simply have 1 glass. This is what I consider "normal" drinking... no abuse, just for fun.

The problem is whenever she drinks with friends, either at someone's house or in a club, she can't stop drinking. She will drink as long as there is alcohol, and some of her friends are also really not the best of influences on her. Not only does she get completely wasted, when she gets that drunk she becomes extremely abusive towards me (not physically but verbally) and always tries to pick a fight. If I ignore her, she continues, but if I reply then we argue. Also, if she's drunk and I say "Babe you've had too much to drink, let's go to bed and discuss this tomorrow" she gets extremely angry at me and is even more abusive. These evenings usually end with her passing out on my couch or in bed. Lately she's also been having black outs the next day. The rock bottom was when she was so drunk she got kicked out of a bar... Not only does she drink when other people drink, but I've been in situations where we would be 5 or 6 people casually drinking at a friend's house on a Friday night, and by 10 pm everyone had had 2-3 drinks and was fine, except for her, she was already wasted. She can't seem to "pace" her drinking...

In the year we've been together, I honestly can't recall one time where we had a big argument and she was sober. If she's sober, our relationship is incredible. But every time she gets really drunk, it's a disaster. I have tried filming her, once we're back home and she's abusive, and then showing it to her the next day. She's always embarrassed after a night like that (especially the time I filmed her, or if some of her friends tell her how bad she was), apologizes for hurting and insulting me, says things like "you know I don't mean the things I say when I'm drunk" etc. Fortunately, this doesn't happen every day, although there was a period during the summer where it was once a week, sometimes twice. Normally, it happens once or twice a month (which is still WAY too often...).

Now I know this is not a relationship advice forum, and my question is really more on her drinking. Do you think it can really be just a phase? after all, we're still young. Also, how can you explain that her drinking habits change if she's with me vs with her friends (and I would not consider it peer pressure because no one forces her to drink). Finally, how do you explain the extreme change in personality after too many drinks? Can this change with time, or is she doomed?? Also, I have seen her, although very few times, go out with friends, we have several drinks, nothing in excess, we get back home and everything is fine. I have seen her do it, I know she can do it, which for me adds up to the mystery of why sometimes she has no control...

I know I'm seeking a lot of information, but I've been seriously thinking of ending this relationship. It would be a very easy decision if overall, I wasn't happy with her. But as I previously mentioned, when she's sober (which is most of the time), our relationship is really perfect.

Please let me know what you guys (and girls!) think, it is much appreciated!

Hi everyone,
I'm new to the forum, but not new to the idea of wanting/needing to quit drinking...I have been drinking for many years and longest I went without beer was 3 months. I have been to AA meetings a couple of years ago and I think I only went about 8 times total.
I feel like I "sort of" hit rock bottom last night...I did drink and I drank alot. Well, I got to the point of sadness I almost wanted to die....literally wanted to not to be here anymore. It really scares me that I was near the point of thinking about it.
Just a month and a half ago both my husband lost our jobs, since then I have been drinking every other day. I feel so empty inside, he can't collect unemployment for another 5 weeks and no one has been calling him for a job interview. Next week, we are going to see a lawyer because we know that we are going to lose most of the things that we worked so hard for the past 18 years...so we have to file chapter 7.
The bill collectors are ringing our phone off the hook, I can't believe that we are in this situation. I used to get happy when I would put the little check marks next to the bills that were paid for the week.
We also have a motorcycle/scooter and we totally love riding together....plus we just bought a boat and only took it out twice and we are going to lose that as well. This month's bills are starting to roll in again and I still need $1000 to pay the lawyer to start our bankruptcy. I feel like I'm burning my candle at both ends.
I'm sorry that I sound like I'm having a pity party but I just need to talk about it. My poor hubby puts up with my up and down mood swings and he barely even drinks, so he really has no escape. He used to drink but not so much anymore, I'm so proud of him, I wish that I had control like that.
He just came in and asked me who I was writing and I told him a message board because I'm too embarrased to be truthful with him right at this minute because this scene seems all to familiar to him.
I'm not embarrassed to be here with all you wonderful people infact I feel very thankful that I found you guys tonight. I don't know what the future has in store for me, I just wanted to come in here and share little piece of myself and ask for help.
Thanks for taking the time to read this and God Bless You!

A year ago, I came here, to this forum and poured my heart out to you. I spoke about my son, my beautiful then 19 year old boy, an alcoholic and cocaine addict. And oh yes - let's not forget the marijuana and all the other mind-altering substances. I spoke about the rampant stealing, lying and all the horrific behavior that ruined all of our lives for the previous six years. I had no hope. I was at the point that I had completely given up and believe me, that wasn't easy. Then one day, he was evicted from his apartment for non-payment of rent and we weren't there to bail him out. He wanted to come home and we said no. He begged us and we said, "We're sorry, son, you can't stay here anymore." This was the hardest thing my husband and I ever did in our lives. In the dead of winter, my son lived in his car, with no gas, no money and no food. His next phone call was to a rehab center.

Our son has now been sober for 10 months. He attends AA meetings faithfully, holds down 2 jobs and is one of the best people I have ever met in my life. I write this to let you know that if it can happen for us, it can happen for you. There's hope.

Hi all, I'm new here. I just found out last week that my boyfriend of 18 years and father of my children, has been taking cocaine for over a year. I asked him to leave over a month ago as his behaviour was becoming intolerable, not knowing that he had this addiction. Things have been strained between us for some time as I had to return to work 3 years ago when he couldn't (or wouldn't) find work. I have been becoming increasingly fed up at doing a days work and then coming home to pick the kids up from school, cook dinner, wash clothes, clean etc... He couldn't seem to understand why I was so fed up and why I didn't want to be intimate with him as much as he wanted. He has done some private work which I needed to pay the mortgage as the tenant in our other flat was not paying the rent. He kept telling me that he hadn't been paid for these jobs and made a big show of making phone calls (which I now know were all an act) to ask for the money. Over the last few months he has also been draining money out of our bank account, including using money set aside for my boys' birthday presents. We are now in the position that I am so far behind on the mortgage that we may lose both of our apartments. I'm trying to sell the one we don't live in but it's very difficult at the moment.

I'm finding it very hard to deal with all the lies that he has told me and that he could be so irresponsible to let it get to a point that our children could be made homeless. He is now trying to make me feel that this is all my fault. He has told me today that it's my fault that he started taking cocaine (he has always smoked marijuana-something that I also did in my youth but stopped 14 years ago). I feel so cheated and betrayed right now and feel like I am slipping into a deep pit of depression, I feel that the last 18 years have been nothing but lies and don't know how to separate lies from truth. I want to try to be supportive but, I can't bear to even look at him at the moment. He's not the person that I thought he was and I feel cheated of a partner and friend as well as a father for my children. I don't know how to deal with all of this. I have some good friends around me but I have no family here and I don't think they would be very understanding anyway. Everything I've worked for seems to be crumbling away through no fault of my own and yet, he's trying to burden me with the guilt. Is this usual for an addict to blame someone else for their own weakness or do I need to shoulder some of the blame? My friends tell me that I have nothing to feel bad about but, are they just saying that because they are my friends?

Thanks for listening.

Trichotillomania is the name for an anxiety and OCD related disorder that causes one to pull out their hair. I have had this affliction since I was thirteen. It is painful to live with and enormously diminishes my sense of femininity. It has prohibited me from applying for better jobs when I had bald spots, going places and doing simple things- like walking on a windy day, laying down or moving my head in a certain position if I knew my hair would move and expose a bald spot and swimming- which I used to love. Windy days and rainy days were a nightmare and wearing a hood or hat on cold days was also a huge hassle. I used to spend alot of time readjusting to cover bare spots and lots of hairspray was employed. Now my hair pulling is coming back- I have not had a full head of hair since I was 19 or so. Now I'm 34 and I have a ton of premature grey which everyone delights in pointing out and it makes me feel like ugly an awful because I know it's a result of pulling it out. Anyone else deal with this? Medications put me in a horrible depression.