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Day 6…Now I really want a beer…Help!
Hi there everyone,
It has been since New Year's Eve that I have had my last drink of alcohol and it marked New Year's Day as my 1 day of sobriety. I have been doing fine since then, until today. My hubby just got home from the lawyer's office, as we are forced to file Chapter 7, due to losing our jobs a little over 2 month's ago. We are expected to lose a few items....in which I've learned to come to terms with and that's ok, they can be replaced down the road.
Well, on the way home, I came so close to pulling into the parking lot of the corner market to buy some beer. I'm in between sadness, stress and some relief that soon this will all come to an end and the creditors will finally quit harrassing us. I know that it's not our fault that we lost our jobs, but in a way I feel very guilty that I can no longer afford to pay back the loans. It's like I want to say I'm sorry but there is nothing I can do about it. So we are turning the items over to the creditors once we go to court...I only want to save my house and our other car.
Anyway, let me tell you what was going through my mind, because if I don't get to the point I will just keep on rambling about my problems....lol! Sorry, I'm bad at doing that.
Well, I kept thinking...Pull over and get some beer, my hubby even offered to give me the money that he had on hand in order for to buy some. Then the other part of me kept thinking...maybe it's not a good idea, think about how bad you will feel tomorrow and the guilt you will carry. Is it really worth it?
Then I thought about everyone on here...what would the people on SB do? Before I knew it, I was in my driveway...went into the house, turned on the computer and started writing this post to you and taking a drink of pepsi with wild cherry flavor. Not exactly what I wanted, because I really like diet pop...but I guess this will have to do. As I write this I'm really trying to calm my craving for a beer or 2, 3, 4....etc. Instead of stopping at the corner market, I thought of SB and decided I needed to hurry up and get home and share what is on my mind. I hope that I just don't say...oh well, go get it...you deserve it. I need to be strong. Trying so hard...I feel like I'm in a battle....even though I know that I'm in the right place.
Right here with you.
I hope this makes sense and if there are any typo's I apologize...I just need to hurry up and post this before I change my mind. By the way, I'm not proof reading this...just type and send.
Thank you all so much for listening and being here with me.
XOXO
:Val004:
It has been since New Year's Eve that I have had my last drink of alcohol and it marked New Year's Day as my 1 day of sobriety. I have been doing fine since then, until today. My hubby just got home from the lawyer's office, as we are forced to file Chapter 7, due to losing our jobs a little over 2 month's ago. We are expected to lose a few items....in which I've learned to come to terms with and that's ok, they can be replaced down the road.
Well, on the way home, I came so close to pulling into the parking lot of the corner market to buy some beer. I'm in between sadness, stress and some relief that soon this will all come to an end and the creditors will finally quit harrassing us. I know that it's not our fault that we lost our jobs, but in a way I feel very guilty that I can no longer afford to pay back the loans. It's like I want to say I'm sorry but there is nothing I can do about it. So we are turning the items over to the creditors once we go to court...I only want to save my house and our other car.
Anyway, let me tell you what was going through my mind, because if I don't get to the point I will just keep on rambling about my problems....lol! Sorry, I'm bad at doing that.
Well, I kept thinking...Pull over and get some beer, my hubby even offered to give me the money that he had on hand in order for to buy some. Then the other part of me kept thinking...maybe it's not a good idea, think about how bad you will feel tomorrow and the guilt you will carry. Is it really worth it?
Then I thought about everyone on here...what would the people on SB do? Before I knew it, I was in my driveway...went into the house, turned on the computer and started writing this post to you and taking a drink of pepsi with wild cherry flavor. Not exactly what I wanted, because I really like diet pop...but I guess this will have to do. As I write this I'm really trying to calm my craving for a beer or 2, 3, 4....etc. Instead of stopping at the corner market, I thought of SB and decided I needed to hurry up and get home and share what is on my mind. I hope that I just don't say...oh well, go get it...you deserve it. I need to be strong. Trying so hard...I feel like I'm in a battle....even though I know that I'm in the right place.
Right here with you.
I hope this makes sense and if there are any typo's I apologize...I just need to hurry up and post this before I change my mind. By the way, I'm not proof reading this...just type and send.
Thank you all so much for listening and being here with me.
XOXO
:Val004:
In Awe…
So Grateful...
Today has been one of the most amazing days of my recovery thus far. I had to go to court today about my children and it went better than I could have ever imagined!! I have only been clean for 2 months, and I got my children taken away during my active addiction in May 2008. The court granted me an improvement period that was only to last for 6 months (ended 12/29/08), but I screwed around and couldn't pass drug tests , just wasn't doing the things that I needed to do until November. I finally got myself together, went to detox, then to a long term facility, which everybody thought was in my best interest because I was addicted to heroin. I stayed in the program for about 3 weeks, but I couldn't take it there anymore, so I left. Well, the 'powers that be' weren't too pleased with that, so they petitioned the judge and he signed an order stating that I had to be in long term facility the week before Christmas. Needless to say I couldn't find an inpatient program with a bed available between then and now, so I was in contempt of court. I have been staying clean, passing drug screens, going to meetings, and doing outpatient therapy during this time though. I was a bundle of nerves when I went into court today- my lawyer informed me that they were moving to set the case for disposition and terminate my parental rights. Not what I wanted to hear. So we went in, my lawyer presented everything that had been going on in my life and that I was doing well and working a program, everybody else put their two-cents in about how bad I was, and then the judge spoke...
The first thing he said was that he was very suprised to see me infront of him sober and with clean drug screens under my belt. Then he spoke to those that pointed out my failures- he said that I was apparently doing something right and just because I did not follow the path that the MDT wanted me to and of the order he had signed I had obviously chosen a good path that worked for me and was sticking to it. He went on to say that he was not going to make me go into an inpatient program or terminate my rights, but he was going to schedule another hearing in 30 days to see if I was actually going to be able to remain clean and sober. :c029:
This was definitely a God-thing and that's all I can attribute it to. I know that I must continue doing the things I have been in order to maintain my cleanliness, and I believe that with my HP's (whom I chose to call God) help I can definitely be successful. I am so grateful for the divine favor that was bestowed upon me today and I don't think that I have the capacity to fully express this. I believe that the only thing that I can do is keep on truckin' and show through my actions that I have truely become new.
Thanks for letting me share!
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*That's just my opinion, but I could be wrong.*
Today has been one of the most amazing days of my recovery thus far. I had to go to court today about my children and it went better than I could have ever imagined!! I have only been clean for 2 months, and I got my children taken away during my active addiction in May 2008. The court granted me an improvement period that was only to last for 6 months (ended 12/29/08), but I screwed around and couldn't pass drug tests , just wasn't doing the things that I needed to do until November. I finally got myself together, went to detox, then to a long term facility, which everybody thought was in my best interest because I was addicted to heroin. I stayed in the program for about 3 weeks, but I couldn't take it there anymore, so I left. Well, the 'powers that be' weren't too pleased with that, so they petitioned the judge and he signed an order stating that I had to be in long term facility the week before Christmas. Needless to say I couldn't find an inpatient program with a bed available between then and now, so I was in contempt of court. I have been staying clean, passing drug screens, going to meetings, and doing outpatient therapy during this time though. I was a bundle of nerves when I went into court today- my lawyer informed me that they were moving to set the case for disposition and terminate my parental rights. Not what I wanted to hear. So we went in, my lawyer presented everything that had been going on in my life and that I was doing well and working a program, everybody else put their two-cents in about how bad I was, and then the judge spoke...
The first thing he said was that he was very suprised to see me infront of him sober and with clean drug screens under my belt. Then he spoke to those that pointed out my failures- he said that I was apparently doing something right and just because I did not follow the path that the MDT wanted me to and of the order he had signed I had obviously chosen a good path that worked for me and was sticking to it. He went on to say that he was not going to make me go into an inpatient program or terminate my rights, but he was going to schedule another hearing in 30 days to see if I was actually going to be able to remain clean and sober. :c029:
This was definitely a God-thing and that's all I can attribute it to. I know that I must continue doing the things I have been in order to maintain my cleanliness, and I believe that with my HP's (whom I chose to call God) help I can definitely be successful. I am so grateful for the divine favor that was bestowed upon me today and I don't think that I have the capacity to fully express this. I believe that the only thing that I can do is keep on truckin' and show through my actions that I have truely become new.
Thanks for letting me share!
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*That's just my opinion, but I could be wrong.*
Hi to all!! Back with son’s addiction
Hi everybody! I've thought about you all often and it's good to know that this awesome forum is still going and offering help/advice/support to those that need it.
When I first came on here in 2004, it was my xabf and a year of turmoil there. But, through Al Anon and all of you, that relationship ended a long time ago.
It's my son who will be 30yrs old this year...that has the drinking addiction. He got two DUI's back-to-back in 2007 and needed a lawyer. The laws have gotten alot stricter here in CO, as they should be.
I retained a lawyer for him and my as (alcoholic son) just did in house arrest for the month of Dec. for the one DUI and now he's in jail today for a bit for the 2nd one.
The whole time he was on house arrest, he was still drinking. I'd go visit him and see him on the holidays and he was still using. So, house arrest didn't do much for him because he was still "running' while on it.
In jail, he'll have to be sober and also his PO will be taking random breathilizers and putting a device on his vehicle to blow into before driving.
He has HUNDREDS of community service, fines and classes. He has no job, he's gotten fired from each one. He's homeless because everywhere he lived, he didn't pay rent.
On house arrest, he stayed with his Dad and during that time stold his Dad's credit cards and booked flights for his gf's and other things...ran up thousands of $ on his dad's cards. It just seems like his addiction is getting worse and worse, he lies constantly. He's very sensitive to talk to...if one thing is said that he doesn't like...he jumps on you verbally.
He's just filled with pain...his uncle/best friend, died of a cocaine accidental overdose on Christmas 2005 and my son knew his uncle did some drugs, but not to the extent that he was. My AS was the last person with his uncle the night before he died and so my AS has been feeling guilty ever since. He constantly runs and needs people's acceptance.
My fear is for when he gets out of jail....where will he go? What will he do? Will he finally see after years and years of drinking that it's JUST NOT WORTH IT?
I'm scared for him because of the fact that he continues to keep the cycle going.
I ask for your prayers for him...this is gonna take alot to get him to FINALLY hit that bottom and want back up.
Thank you and I hope all of your holidays were blessed!:praying
When I first came on here in 2004, it was my xabf and a year of turmoil there. But, through Al Anon and all of you, that relationship ended a long time ago.
It's my son who will be 30yrs old this year...that has the drinking addiction. He got two DUI's back-to-back in 2007 and needed a lawyer. The laws have gotten alot stricter here in CO, as they should be.
I retained a lawyer for him and my as (alcoholic son) just did in house arrest for the month of Dec. for the one DUI and now he's in jail today for a bit for the 2nd one.
The whole time he was on house arrest, he was still drinking. I'd go visit him and see him on the holidays and he was still using. So, house arrest didn't do much for him because he was still "running' while on it.
In jail, he'll have to be sober and also his PO will be taking random breathilizers and putting a device on his vehicle to blow into before driving.
He has HUNDREDS of community service, fines and classes. He has no job, he's gotten fired from each one. He's homeless because everywhere he lived, he didn't pay rent.
On house arrest, he stayed with his Dad and during that time stold his Dad's credit cards and booked flights for his gf's and other things...ran up thousands of $ on his dad's cards. It just seems like his addiction is getting worse and worse, he lies constantly. He's very sensitive to talk to...if one thing is said that he doesn't like...he jumps on you verbally.
He's just filled with pain...his uncle/best friend, died of a cocaine accidental overdose on Christmas 2005 and my son knew his uncle did some drugs, but not to the extent that he was. My AS was the last person with his uncle the night before he died and so my AS has been feeling guilty ever since. He constantly runs and needs people's acceptance.
My fear is for when he gets out of jail....where will he go? What will he do? Will he finally see after years and years of drinking that it's JUST NOT WORTH IT?
I'm scared for him because of the fact that he continues to keep the cycle going.
I ask for your prayers for him...this is gonna take alot to get him to FINALLY hit that bottom and want back up.
Thank you and I hope all of your holidays were blessed!:praying
His family wants nothing to do with the kids
The story now is his mom.
Doesn't want to talk to me. They will pay and support AD.
and I can find a good shelter.
OMG
what is going on?
Dont they care about the grandchildren.
His mom was so cold. SHE HATES ME.
SHE said 'get a good lawyer'
OMG
Doesn't want to talk to me. They will pay and support AD.
and I can find a good shelter.
OMG
what is going on?
Dont they care about the grandchildren.
His mom was so cold. SHE HATES ME.
SHE said 'get a good lawyer'
OMG
AH wants “to talk” about saving our marriage
There is no way I'm staying with this man while he's drinking. I have a lawyer and am gathering evidence against my AH. He is in total denial about his problem. I know when he turns away from the bottle, it has to be his decision.
So when (on the rare occasion) he asks "what can I do? tell me what to do" I don't know what to say. I feel like if I mention the drinking I'll be leading him to a sobriety for me and not for himself and it will not stick. Suggestions?
So when (on the rare occasion) he asks "what can I do? tell me what to do" I don't know what to say. I feel like if I mention the drinking I'll be leading him to a sobriety for me and not for himself and it will not stick. Suggestions?
Need advice on how to leave my AH
I dont' know how to do it! I have decided that I want to get out of this marriage. I have seen a lawyer, she and I discussed how to go about it...but how do I get the nerve to tell him? Should I just sit him down and say I'm going to stay with my mother?
I have two little children. Where should they be when I tell him? He should be able to kiss them goodbye when I leave, right?
Most important, how am I going to handle his outrage and anger and pleading for me to stay. I know he won't want this, and in the past he's told me he'll do anything it takes. But he never stuck to that "anything" and we're right back to where we were. I just don't know how I'll get the nerve to leave.
I have two little children. Where should they be when I tell him? He should be able to kiss them goodbye when I leave, right?
Most important, how am I going to handle his outrage and anger and pleading for me to stay. I know he won't want this, and in the past he's told me he'll do anything it takes. But he never stuck to that "anything" and we're right back to where we were. I just don't know how I'll get the nerve to leave.
Ot need advice-posted in wrong forum
Hi,
Cool new look for the site!
If any of you don't remember me I have posted a few times about my situation with being on disability and medicaid. I posted that i was recently told my the Practice Manager at the pain clinic I go to that because Medicaid "pays for nothing" I will not be getting the proper treatment that I need to be well.
This to me is unacceptable and unethical. This has really been bothering me and I feel I need to step up and do something. I had to stay home today due to pain so I thought I would do some research. First of all I began working at my part time job in 2002. I immediately lost my SSI which I figured was fair since I would be working. I have however recently printed out the 2008 red book from Social Security for disabled working people and there are cases when people work and have SSD and SSI. I want to find out if I was dropped unfairly. I'm sure I need a lawyer but can't afford one So I am trying to do as much on my own as I can.
I am also trying to obtain as many of my medical records as I can for as far back as I can. I would like to prove that I have attempted to find help for my pain and depression for almost 20 years. It is true that our health care system is in a shambles but I do not think this should allow doctors and other professionals to neglect and outright ignore patient health issues. My records would show that I have been passed off from doctor to doctor.
In short this is the deal: I am on disability (which is not enough to get by) I have to work and can only work part time. My disability is getting worse due to lack of proper treatment. I can barely work anymore.
I asking everyone on here to chime in and give me you thoughts, ideas, etc as to where I should start.
I have also posted this on a fibromyalgia forum I belong to. just trying to get as many ideas as I can.
Thanks
Cool new look for the site!
If any of you don't remember me I have posted a few times about my situation with being on disability and medicaid. I posted that i was recently told my the Practice Manager at the pain clinic I go to that because Medicaid "pays for nothing" I will not be getting the proper treatment that I need to be well.
This to me is unacceptable and unethical. This has really been bothering me and I feel I need to step up and do something. I had to stay home today due to pain so I thought I would do some research. First of all I began working at my part time job in 2002. I immediately lost my SSI which I figured was fair since I would be working. I have however recently printed out the 2008 red book from Social Security for disabled working people and there are cases when people work and have SSD and SSI. I want to find out if I was dropped unfairly. I'm sure I need a lawyer but can't afford one So I am trying to do as much on my own as I can.
I am also trying to obtain as many of my medical records as I can for as far back as I can. I would like to prove that I have attempted to find help for my pain and depression for almost 20 years. It is true that our health care system is in a shambles but I do not think this should allow doctors and other professionals to neglect and outright ignore patient health issues. My records would show that I have been passed off from doctor to doctor.
In short this is the deal: I am on disability (which is not enough to get by) I have to work and can only work part time. My disability is getting worse due to lack of proper treatment. I can barely work anymore.
I asking everyone on here to chime in and give me you thoughts, ideas, etc as to where I should start.
I have also posted this on a fibromyalgia forum I belong to. just trying to get as many ideas as I can.
Thanks
Very OT need your advice
Hi,
Cool new look for the site!
If any of you don't remember me I have posted a few times about my situation with being on disability and medicaid. I posted that i was recently told my the Practice Manager at the pain clinic I go to that because Medicaid "pays for nothing" I will not be getting the proper treatment that I need to be well.
This to me is unacceptable and unethical. This has really been bothering me and I feel I need to step up and do something. I had to stay home today due to pain so I thought I would do some research. First of all I began working at my part time job in 2002. I immediately lost my SSI which I figured was fair since I would be working. I have however recently printed out the 2008 red book from Social Security for disabled working people and there are cases when people work and have SSD and SSI. I want to find out if I was dropped unfairly. I'm sure I need a lawyer but can't afford one So I am trying to do as much on my own as I can.
I am also trying to obtain as many of my medical records as I can for as far back as I can. I would like to prove that I have attempted to find help for my pain and depression for almost 20 years. It is true that our health care system is in a shambles but I do not think this should allow doctors and other professionals to neglect and outright ignore patient health issues. My records would show that I have been passed off from doctor to doctor.
In short this is the deal: I am on disability (which is not enough to get by) I have to work and can only work part time. My disability is getting worse due to lack of proper treatment. I can barely work anymore.
I asking everyone on here to chime in and give me you thoughts, ideas, etc as to where I should start.
I have also posted this on a fibromyalgia forum I belong to. just trying to get as many ideas as I can.
Thanks
Cool new look for the site!
If any of you don't remember me I have posted a few times about my situation with being on disability and medicaid. I posted that i was recently told my the Practice Manager at the pain clinic I go to that because Medicaid "pays for nothing" I will not be getting the proper treatment that I need to be well.
This to me is unacceptable and unethical. This has really been bothering me and I feel I need to step up and do something. I had to stay home today due to pain so I thought I would do some research. First of all I began working at my part time job in 2002. I immediately lost my SSI which I figured was fair since I would be working. I have however recently printed out the 2008 red book from Social Security for disabled working people and there are cases when people work and have SSD and SSI. I want to find out if I was dropped unfairly. I'm sure I need a lawyer but can't afford one So I am trying to do as much on my own as I can.
I am also trying to obtain as many of my medical records as I can for as far back as I can. I would like to prove that I have attempted to find help for my pain and depression for almost 20 years. It is true that our health care system is in a shambles but I do not think this should allow doctors and other professionals to neglect and outright ignore patient health issues. My records would show that I have been passed off from doctor to doctor.
In short this is the deal: I am on disability (which is not enough to get by) I have to work and can only work part time. My disability is getting worse due to lack of proper treatment. I can barely work anymore.
I asking everyone on here to chime in and give me you thoughts, ideas, etc as to where I should start.
I have also posted this on a fibromyalgia forum I belong to. just trying to get as many ideas as I can.
Thanks
Wow
I have finally come to a revelation...I have read Codependent No More and I really found myself in it...Wish me luck I am trying to not react, detach and exercise my right to live again! I am going to go speak to a lawyer about the landfill of bills, support and messed up credit my ab left behind but the outcome will only help support the fact that I am now in control of my own destiny...I know I know I'm not in control of it per say(codie reflex)...but i can make good decisions and that starts with not taking crap anymore...It will be hard especially at night but I will detach from him no more calls except for legal or child related issues and no more giving into the lies and promises...I can do this...I hope...please pray for me...and my lil one...I have a feeling he will get evil and vindictive just to hurt me so I pray that they will see Im a good mom and let us stay away from him.:c029:
Upset With Myself
Yesterday I started thinking about my decision to keep the car my ex bought from my son. I was going to either sell it and help my son when he got out with the money, or give the car back to my son. I feel my ex owes him plenty for abandoning him when he was 10 & never doing anything for him. Its such a confusing situation, but it was my anger talking. The car was originally bought with money my AS scammed out of my parents.
When he went bk to jail my dad put the car off the road on his property. Then my ex against my advice decided to help my son get a lawyer. Instead of just paying for a lawyer they came up with this idea to let my ex's cousin buy the car and use the money for a lawyer. That was done but then my ex & his cousin never came for the car. Now he wants my 88yr old dad to sell it and give him the money. I don't believe my dad should have to be involved or be bothered selling it. My ex should have come and picked it up.
My sister & my mom don't think I was right telling my son we were keeping the car. They feel my ex should come get it since my son is the one who decided to sell it for money for the lawyer. I felt he shouldn't even think about hiring a lawyer that he should just stay in jail until he maxes out. I was angry with my ex for not saying no to begin with.
What a mess it is now.
When he went bk to jail my dad put the car off the road on his property. Then my ex against my advice decided to help my son get a lawyer. Instead of just paying for a lawyer they came up with this idea to let my ex's cousin buy the car and use the money for a lawyer. That was done but then my ex & his cousin never came for the car. Now he wants my 88yr old dad to sell it and give him the money. I don't believe my dad should have to be involved or be bothered selling it. My ex should have come and picked it up.
My sister & my mom don't think I was right telling my son we were keeping the car. They feel my ex should come get it since my son is the one who decided to sell it for money for the lawyer. I felt he shouldn't even think about hiring a lawyer that he should just stay in jail until he maxes out. I was angry with my ex for not saying no to begin with.
What a mess it is now.
