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legal aid
i remember some of you on here are in florida so i was wondering if you could tell me how legal aid works and how to get started, as ive decided to go ahead and file for divorce and i would like to get it started at soon as possible but ive never dealt with legal aid so i have no clue as to where to get started???
I am the definition of insanity….
AH and I tried reconciling again. Yesterday, alcohol took precedence over anyone's feelings yet again. Oh.....after the verbal abuse at the GROCERY STORE. I asked him to stop and when he didn't, I walked out.
I keep going back. Banging my head on a brick wall would be more effective I believe.
I'm fine for 4-5 weeks without AH these days. And then I feel like I'm going to lose my mind if I don't see him.
This time, and I'm documenting here, I am NOT going back.
I DON'T NEED HIM.
MY KIDS DON'T NEED HIM.
Certainly not as he is...
I'm setting some short-term goals for myself....
1) I meet with my case manager at the DV center on Monday. I am turning in the paperwork for legal aid to assist with my divorce. Because there has been domestic violence, the income limit is higher and I qualify. I don't know how long it will take from that point, but it's Step 1.
2) I am going to be the best mom I can be to my two kiddos. My D12 already hates me for allowing her father in and out of my life. I don't know how much I can do to salvage a relationship with her but I can try. My S8 is very much a momma's boy yet.
3) I'm going to walk 4 times per week, attempt to start eating healthier and lose 10 lbs by New Year's.
4) When I get to the point where I miss my AH, I'm going to clean house. My kids' friends come over often these days and I want to be proud of our home. If cleaning doesn't help, I'm going to try to pretend he's dead. He's not, but he may as well be to me at this point. If that doesn't work, I am going to have a friend and my sister ready to come and pick me and the kids up and supervise me if need be. Left to my own devices, well....we see what's happened.
5) If I can't get to an Alanon meeting, I am, at the very least, going to read literature daily.
I don't care what it takes, I have to let this be the end. NOTHING has changed. NOTHING. My AH still thinks he can say and do whatever the hell he wants to me and I will NOT accept it. I won't. I am an amazing woman and he's a dang fool.
I am getting off the roller coaster....once and for all. I DO have a choice. It's okay for me to hurt next month....and I know it will come and I will deal with it differently. While I may not have a crystal ball, I can pretty much tell ya what's gonna happen if I go back.
This little corner of the internet is full of such amazing people and I'm learning...slowly but surely.
I keep going back. Banging my head on a brick wall would be more effective I believe.
I'm fine for 4-5 weeks without AH these days. And then I feel like I'm going to lose my mind if I don't see him.
This time, and I'm documenting here, I am NOT going back.
I DON'T NEED HIM.
MY KIDS DON'T NEED HIM.
Certainly not as he is...
I'm setting some short-term goals for myself....
1) I meet with my case manager at the DV center on Monday. I am turning in the paperwork for legal aid to assist with my divorce. Because there has been domestic violence, the income limit is higher and I qualify. I don't know how long it will take from that point, but it's Step 1.
2) I am going to be the best mom I can be to my two kiddos. My D12 already hates me for allowing her father in and out of my life. I don't know how much I can do to salvage a relationship with her but I can try. My S8 is very much a momma's boy yet.
3) I'm going to walk 4 times per week, attempt to start eating healthier and lose 10 lbs by New Year's.
4) When I get to the point where I miss my AH, I'm going to clean house. My kids' friends come over often these days and I want to be proud of our home. If cleaning doesn't help, I'm going to try to pretend he's dead. He's not, but he may as well be to me at this point. If that doesn't work, I am going to have a friend and my sister ready to come and pick me and the kids up and supervise me if need be. Left to my own devices, well....we see what's happened.
5) If I can't get to an Alanon meeting, I am, at the very least, going to read literature daily.
I don't care what it takes, I have to let this be the end. NOTHING has changed. NOTHING. My AH still thinks he can say and do whatever the hell he wants to me and I will NOT accept it. I won't. I am an amazing woman and he's a dang fool.
I am getting off the roller coaster....once and for all. I DO have a choice. It's okay for me to hurt next month....and I know it will come and I will deal with it differently. While I may not have a crystal ball, I can pretty much tell ya what's gonna happen if I go back.
This little corner of the internet is full of such amazing people and I'm learning...slowly but surely.
