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letting go hurts like hell
Hello friends, first time on but looking for others in the same situation. I myself am in recovery and have 2 children still active. I finally let go of my daughter and she ended up overdosing with her children with her. Of course the children are now in DSS custody and I am in so much pain. There father overdosed 2 years ago and we lost him, I just get so angry at this disease.
Putting one foot in front of the other…
Led my first alanon meeting tonight!
What I realized as I sat listening to others share about the topic I picked, was that I am making progress!!! Now, people have told me I was, and I kind of knew it, but tonight I really could see it.
Not sure how, but the extreme anger I felt for a long time is not there. It feels good to not be mad or resentful so much.
I am getting better at letting go -- which feels great -- you know, not trying to do everything and fix everything -- that controlling I am so adept at.
AND, most importantly, I am beginning to really forgive myself and accept me for who I am.
All this is not to say I don't still have things to work on, but sharing something positive for a change feels good. I also heard so much of "me" when other people shared....further proof we are not alone in this thing.
None of it would have happened without SR (it started here) -- Thank you all so much!
What I realized as I sat listening to others share about the topic I picked, was that I am making progress!!! Now, people have told me I was, and I kind of knew it, but tonight I really could see it.
Not sure how, but the extreme anger I felt for a long time is not there. It feels good to not be mad or resentful so much.
I am getting better at letting go -- which feels great -- you know, not trying to do everything and fix everything -- that controlling I am so adept at.
AND, most importantly, I am beginning to really forgive myself and accept me for who I am.
All this is not to say I don't still have things to work on, but sharing something positive for a change feels good. I also heard so much of "me" when other people shared....further proof we are not alone in this thing.
None of it would have happened without SR (it started here) -- Thank you all so much!
No More Letting Go???
Has anybody read the book "No More Letting Go" by Debra Jay. I was reading an excerpt from the book talking about how new studies have shown that addicts recover quicker with the help of their families and they should not necessarily hit bottom to start their recovery process. You ca read the excerpts for yourself at www dot nomorelettinggo dot com.
What do you all think about this new somewhat revolutionary idea stated in Debra Jay's book? It seems like it goes totally against what most of us here have learnt through personal experience, i.e. that the alcoholic has to hit bottom and take action himself/herself.
Anyhow, I tend to keep an open mind and do believe in research so I am interested in reading the book just out of curiosity and want to find out more about this different approach. Could it be that all of us are missing the boat? Things like this bring back the codie in me and make me doubt my decision to kick my AF out.
I would love to hear what others think about the above and I am so glad I have SR in times like this where I can share my thoughts and get needed reassurance.
Hellma
What do you all think about this new somewhat revolutionary idea stated in Debra Jay's book? It seems like it goes totally against what most of us here have learnt through personal experience, i.e. that the alcoholic has to hit bottom and take action himself/herself.
Anyhow, I tend to keep an open mind and do believe in research so I am interested in reading the book just out of curiosity and want to find out more about this different approach. Could it be that all of us are missing the boat? Things like this bring back the codie in me and make me doubt my decision to kick my AF out.
I would love to hear what others think about the above and I am so glad I have SR in times like this where I can share my thoughts and get needed reassurance.
Hellma
What about YOU ???????
When I read threads/posts on here about our A's.... or I am typing posts about my guy or my worries.... cries for help........ I want to also read and share what we are doing for ourselves. It's so easy to lose site of ourselves and our dreams and our goals and our visions.
What goals/dreams/visions do YOU have for yourself?
What have you done today or have planned for today or this week/weekend? What makes YOU happy?
What is YOUR (good) constant that you can always rely on?
Right now, I'm in day by day and at times, hour by hour motion...... baby steps...... but my goal/dream/vision - is to be able to master the art of MYOB!!!!!! (Mind your own business!) LOL
Today - I completed paperwork on a new job AND then I am going to make a yummy dinner after I return from taking my son to Sylvan! :) I also started a new vitamin regimen to assist in getting me out of this funk/depression.
What makes me happy is having massages, organized closet, new hair cut, chocolate, getting/giving love from my boys, chatting on the phone, having my bills current, dancing, music, making love.....
My constant....... the sun always rises and sets. Oh... and of course death/taxes. But with baby steps.... principle before personality .... letting go.... tells me that the more I work it .... that I will become "okay" with change being forever constant!
What goals/dreams/visions do YOU have for yourself?
What have you done today or have planned for today or this week/weekend? What makes YOU happy?
What is YOUR (good) constant that you can always rely on?
Right now, I'm in day by day and at times, hour by hour motion...... baby steps...... but my goal/dream/vision - is to be able to master the art of MYOB!!!!!! (Mind your own business!) LOL
Today - I completed paperwork on a new job AND then I am going to make a yummy dinner after I return from taking my son to Sylvan! :) I also started a new vitamin regimen to assist in getting me out of this funk/depression.
What makes me happy is having massages, organized closet, new hair cut, chocolate, getting/giving love from my boys, chatting on the phone, having my bills current, dancing, music, making love.....
My constant....... the sun always rises and sets. Oh... and of course death/taxes. But with baby steps.... principle before personality .... letting go.... tells me that the more I work it .... that I will become "okay" with change being forever constant!
