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He still thinks there is hope for us
Even after a rough day (AH visited the children).
He still keeps on saying..."Maybe one day we can be together again"
He has agreed to giving me full custody of the kids.
He is still taking the methdone. He's going to ask the DR. to fax me the results of his drug testing. He has agreed to drug testing every week to see the kids forever.
(how expensive is that going to be? (canada)!!!!!!!!!!!!is that even possible?)
He's started looking for a job, even asked if I could pack another suitcase for him with his 'work clothes'.
I will not get back together. But should I REALLY SCREAM that it is over.
I say it is and he moved out and i'm going to the lawyers etc...
He says He KNOWS it's over but he wants/needs to hope that maybe one day....
Do I take away his hope? THis soon?
Should I just let it fade and maybe he'll be ok with it? If he looses hope will he give up the fight?
He still keeps on saying..."Maybe one day we can be together again"
He has agreed to giving me full custody of the kids.
He is still taking the methdone. He's going to ask the DR. to fax me the results of his drug testing. He has agreed to drug testing every week to see the kids forever.
(how expensive is that going to be? (canada)!!!!!!!!!!!!is that even possible?)
He's started looking for a job, even asked if I could pack another suitcase for him with his 'work clothes'.
I will not get back together. But should I REALLY SCREAM that it is over.
I say it is and he moved out and i'm going to the lawyers etc...
He says He KNOWS it's over but he wants/needs to hope that maybe one day....
Do I take away his hope? THis soon?
Should I just let it fade and maybe he'll be ok with it? If he looses hope will he give up the fight?
*UPDATE* on “I THINK my boyfriend…”
...is using drugs.
In the "Relationships and Parenting" forum, I posted my belief that my ex-boyfriend, and father of my child, was on drugs. I received a few responses - many of which pretty much told me to focus my time and attention on myself, and figure out why I've put up with such a situation for so long. It's hard letting go of something that I've come to love and hold dear to my heart. Especially now that we've made the choice to start a family together.
As for the update, I'm not quite sure why, but he talked to me last night. And when I say "talked", I mean opened up about more than usual. What I didn't say in my other post, was this...
Because of his "street business", unsurprisingly he's created a number of legal issues with himself. The most recent and past time, he was released on the probational agreement that 1)he would obtain employment or present valid proof that he's been looking for a job 2) stay out of legal trouble 3) complete 90 days of an 'Outpatient Treatment Program'. I've done my research on this, and yes, you can be admitted into such a program for smoking marijuana. My only issue is, he was never caught with marijuana, so...
Yesterday he was sick, claiming that his stomach was really bothering him. Because he was feeling vulnerable and sickly, I suppose it gave him the opportunity to be still and talk. He told me that he had to find a new program. Before going into details he told me that he wanted and needed to stop smoking. The conversation went on, and he told me that when he went, he was tested. What for, I'm not too sure. If someone needs and wants help, its given to them - I didn't know individuals were tested for their drug of choice first. :wtf2 Anyway, in addition to weed, he told me that the test came back positive for coke. He immediately went on to say that it got into his system by holding it, and then made a point to say that he hadn't even really 'put anything together' as of late. I sat on the phone a bit bewildered. Is this even possible?
I honestly feel as though I'm unraveling here. There are so many other things to think about, but this is a hard pill to swallow. I'm so frightened of what I may or may not have to one day tell my son.
In the "Relationships and Parenting" forum, I posted my belief that my ex-boyfriend, and father of my child, was on drugs. I received a few responses - many of which pretty much told me to focus my time and attention on myself, and figure out why I've put up with such a situation for so long. It's hard letting go of something that I've come to love and hold dear to my heart. Especially now that we've made the choice to start a family together.
As for the update, I'm not quite sure why, but he talked to me last night. And when I say "talked", I mean opened up about more than usual. What I didn't say in my other post, was this...
Because of his "street business", unsurprisingly he's created a number of legal issues with himself. The most recent and past time, he was released on the probational agreement that 1)he would obtain employment or present valid proof that he's been looking for a job 2) stay out of legal trouble 3) complete 90 days of an 'Outpatient Treatment Program'. I've done my research on this, and yes, you can be admitted into such a program for smoking marijuana. My only issue is, he was never caught with marijuana, so...
Yesterday he was sick, claiming that his stomach was really bothering him. Because he was feeling vulnerable and sickly, I suppose it gave him the opportunity to be still and talk. He told me that he had to find a new program. Before going into details he told me that he wanted and needed to stop smoking. The conversation went on, and he told me that when he went, he was tested. What for, I'm not too sure. If someone needs and wants help, its given to them - I didn't know individuals were tested for their drug of choice first. :wtf2 Anyway, in addition to weed, he told me that the test came back positive for coke. He immediately went on to say that it got into his system by holding it, and then made a point to say that he hadn't even really 'put anything together' as of late. I sat on the phone a bit bewildered. Is this even possible?
I honestly feel as though I'm unraveling here. There are so many other things to think about, but this is a hard pill to swallow. I'm so frightened of what I may or may not have to one day tell my son.
Obsessed Friend
I've been in recovery for 3 years. One of the things I have let go of is perfection and doing first things first. I was laid off a couple months ago and have been looking for a job. During this time I have picked up my friend's daughter from school, which is right around the corner from me. I picked her daughter up one day and had been doing laundry at home. There was a basket of folded laundry in my living room. The next day I was applying for jobs online and picked up her daughter again. She came to my house to get her daughter and saw the basket of laundry sitting there and used a shaming voice about my laundry still sitting there. One day her daughter asked to spend the night with my daughter when she came to pick her up. She started telling her daughter no because mommy would be lonely. I felt sick to my stomach. Her daughter was having problems with friends and now it was making sense whey her daughter was acting out. Things have gotten worse since then, so I have backed off from picking her daughter up from school and contacting her. She and her husband are separated and she would talk about him terribly. I thought it was him until she started this stuff with me. Now I can see why he doesn't want to be with her. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to be her friend anymore because her behavior is so intrusive and controlling. If she doesn't get her way with someone, she blows her stack. Does anyone have experience with this? I am starting to think it's best to sever the friendship.
So mad I could spit…..
Last Saturday I gave ABF $60 to get through the week: it lasted him until Wednesday. To my knowledge he only bought beer on 2 occasions, the rest went to food, gas and cigarettes. I have him another $20 on Thursday.
Yesterday I gave him $40 to buy FOOD at the grocery store. He spent 20% of that on beer.
I told him a week ago that we had $500 until my next pay day (which is in 2 weeks...) (ABF is currently unemployed).
How is it that I can spend NO money? I didn't spend a dime last week????? I didn't eat out because I know the money situation. My commute to work is 5 miles, so I hardly used any gas.
Yesterday he told me he found $60 of emergency cash that he had stashed. He asked me if we could take his son fishing, if we could afford the $4 to buy shrimp. I curtly told him that since he found $60, and since he chose to spend $8 on beer instead of food at the store, that he could most certainly afford to buy his son shrimp. :skillet
A good majority of his time last week, when he should be out looking for a job was spent laying in bed?
And apparently someone "gifted" him a bag of pot. Which means that he certainly won't be able to pass a drug test.
I am 32 weeks pregnant......I am tired of being taken advantage of.
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Yesterday I gave him $40 to buy FOOD at the grocery store. He spent 20% of that on beer.
I told him a week ago that we had $500 until my next pay day (which is in 2 weeks...) (ABF is currently unemployed).
How is it that I can spend NO money? I didn't spend a dime last week????? I didn't eat out because I know the money situation. My commute to work is 5 miles, so I hardly used any gas.
Yesterday he told me he found $60 of emergency cash that he had stashed. He asked me if we could take his son fishing, if we could afford the $4 to buy shrimp. I curtly told him that since he found $60, and since he chose to spend $8 on beer instead of food at the store, that he could most certainly afford to buy his son shrimp. :skillet
A good majority of his time last week, when he should be out looking for a job was spent laying in bed?
And apparently someone "gifted" him a bag of pot. Which means that he certainly won't be able to pass a drug test.
I am 32 weeks pregnant......I am tired of being taken advantage of.
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Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm so frickin' DONE!!!!!!! There I go, bold, underlined and italicized. I have done all my "stuff" that I need to this week and I'm sooooooooooooooooo done!!!!!! Meetings, job searching, interviews, getting dressed and ready, I need a break. Looking for a job IS a job, I can't wait to finally be employed again.
Monday morning I'll be up to be at another interview at 9AM, ready and spiffy, and back home again. ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GOD!!!! Grant me the serenity to calm the %*%&$ down so I don't shoot myself, the courage to get the $&^%(#% up and keep doing it and STRENGTH to keep &#&#$^ going!!!!!!!!
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Monday morning I'll be up to be at another interview at 9AM, ready and spiffy, and back home again. ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GOD!!!! Grant me the serenity to calm the %*%&$ down so I don't shoot myself, the courage to get the $&^%(#% up and keep doing it and STRENGTH to keep &#&#$^ going!!!!!!!!
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DUI please.. some insight
Well, I got a DUI 3 months ago, and i feel like it's already ruining my life. I never thought i had a drinking problem, but now I see I did. I didn't drink too often, but when i did, i did it irresponsibly. I have decided to never drink again. I don't need it, and it just brought problems into my life.
The thing i'm worried about is jobs and having a criminal history. I am looking for a job, but i am terrified. I am in the healthcare field working as a caregiver for the last 5 years.. I have called many places already and they all require me to have a clean background. It just seems like no one other than walmart will give me a chance again. I want to pursue a career in nursing.. wanting to go to LVN school, but i'm just so disappointed.
I would love to hear some stories if anyone has any, about the impact a dui has on looking for a job. I am so depressed over this.
The thing i'm worried about is jobs and having a criminal history. I am looking for a job, but i am terrified. I am in the healthcare field working as a caregiver for the last 5 years.. I have called many places already and they all require me to have a clean background. It just seems like no one other than walmart will give me a chance again. I want to pursue a career in nursing.. wanting to go to LVN school, but i'm just so disappointed.
I would love to hear some stories if anyone has any, about the impact a dui has on looking for a job. I am so depressed over this.
What have I learned from this??? Oops!!!!
That I still need to work on that dang impulse thing.
Jeez!!! I walked out of my job today. My boss is on vacation and one of the girls told me she talked to him and told me not to come in until Tuesday which is the day he'll be back in the office. Hmmmmm........my guess??? Can you say "job hunting skills?"
Getting a job isn't my concern so much as how long before I get the next one.
I have to say, NOT THE BRIGHTEST VEGI!!!!!!! :e136:
Progress not perfection, progress not perfection, progress not perfection...........ok!!
So I don't plan on letting it ruin my weekend. If anything, I've got all those new job postings to go through on Sunday, already posted my resume' up there on one site (YOU GO GIRL) and while I'm NOT doing much on Monday I can be picking my but up and out looking for a job.
So what's the moral of this story? Ummmmmmm..........give me a minute, I'm thinking :e088:
Jeez!!! I walked out of my job today. My boss is on vacation and one of the girls told me she talked to him and told me not to come in until Tuesday which is the day he'll be back in the office. Hmmmmm........my guess??? Can you say "job hunting skills?"
Getting a job isn't my concern so much as how long before I get the next one.
I have to say, NOT THE BRIGHTEST VEGI!!!!!!! :e136:
Progress not perfection, progress not perfection, progress not perfection...........ok!!
So I don't plan on letting it ruin my weekend. If anything, I've got all those new job postings to go through on Sunday, already posted my resume' up there on one site (YOU GO GIRL) and while I'm NOT doing much on Monday I can be picking my but up and out looking for a job.
So what's the moral of this story? Ummmmmmm..........give me a minute, I'm thinking :e088:
Compass check
Sometimes, I think the brainwashing takes over, so I just want to check my compass with you guys. My emotions say he's changing, but my mind is saying it's just sneakier. What do you think?
Here are the facts... (I wasn't home this weekend)
#1, there's a half gone whisky bottle in the liquor cabinet, for which BIL claims responsibility.
#2, AH's bottle seems untouched, though I know he has poured at least one drink.
#3, AH posted a photo online showing a drink he made this weekend with a different bottle in the background.
#4, BIL refuses to tell me how much AH drank this weekend.
I assume that if AH didn't drink much this weekend, BIL would be willing to tell me how well AH did. I also assume the mystery bottle has either been hidden or consumed, neither of which is a good thing. So either AH binged this weekend or this is some sort of plot trying to get me to show how much I know and where I found it... again not good.
So, even though I am having these doubts (wondering if perhaps AH is finally possibly changing - because that's what it looks like on the
surface) the facts don't support it. The facts say he's just being sneakier. That's all.
He's still not looking for a job. He's still not participating in conversations, much less initiating them. We're still not ready to work on our marriage. So I should NOT get my hopes up because the facts say I'm just going to be disappointed... yet again.
Am I right on this?
Here are the facts... (I wasn't home this weekend)
#1, there's a half gone whisky bottle in the liquor cabinet, for which BIL claims responsibility.
#2, AH's bottle seems untouched, though I know he has poured at least one drink.
#3, AH posted a photo online showing a drink he made this weekend with a different bottle in the background.
#4, BIL refuses to tell me how much AH drank this weekend.
I assume that if AH didn't drink much this weekend, BIL would be willing to tell me how well AH did. I also assume the mystery bottle has either been hidden or consumed, neither of which is a good thing. So either AH binged this weekend or this is some sort of plot trying to get me to show how much I know and where I found it... again not good.
So, even though I am having these doubts (wondering if perhaps AH is finally possibly changing - because that's what it looks like on the
surface) the facts don't support it. The facts say he's just being sneakier. That's all.
He's still not looking for a job. He's still not participating in conversations, much less initiating them. We're still not ready to work on our marriage. So I should NOT get my hopes up because the facts say I'm just going to be disappointed... yet again.
Am I right on this?
Looking for a job…
Hello everyone who reads this. I wasn't really sure where I could post this, but I was wondering something...
...I'm in the process of looking for a new job. Involved in that search is the filling out of various applications...ALL of which ask for a Social Security Number. This is probably a stupid question, but if one opted to not fill that part out and left an explaination as to why (worried about Identity Theft--besides, they don't really need to do background checks UNTIL they hire you), would that person be less likely to be hired? I don't want to hand out my SSN like it's candy. I'm a little paranoid about that...I already know someone close to me who's identity was probably stolen (it's a long story). I don't want that to happen to me. I already have enough problems as it is. I'm looking for any and all advice. What do I do? Thanks, people.
...I'm in the process of looking for a new job. Involved in that search is the filling out of various applications...ALL of which ask for a Social Security Number. This is probably a stupid question, but if one opted to not fill that part out and left an explaination as to why (worried about Identity Theft--besides, they don't really need to do background checks UNTIL they hire you), would that person be less likely to be hired? I don't want to hand out my SSN like it's candy. I'm a little paranoid about that...I already know someone close to me who's identity was probably stolen (it's a long story). I don't want that to happen to me. I already have enough problems as it is. I'm looking for any and all advice. What do I do? Thanks, people.
