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A little victory and a little defeat… oh what a Friday night it was.
So, I've posted on other threads that I've had problems saying no to this guy who seems to have this weird spell over me. Last night I went to a party with him. It was a good party, not too many people and I knew most of them so it wasn't too uncomfortable for me. Well, I ended up having a couple of drinks and that means today I'm back on day 1, but I don't feel half as crappy as I did on the last day 1. I'm a bit disappointed in myself, but also a a bit more determined to stay sober.
The victory was nice though. He wanted to buy some coke, and clearly expected me to pay for it. I didn't have my credit card anyway, so no hope of getting any cash for it. He told me to go home and get it. I told him if I left I wasn't coming back. He backed off for a while then on the drive home he started again, asking me to buy the drugs and he even called his source and started setting it up, but I made my "no" stick, I told him I wouldn't buy them and if he wanted to get drugs I would drop him at his place and he could figure it out himself. Well, that wouldn't work because his fiancee was at his apartment waiting for him and was under the impression he was at a meeting for a professional society we are in (as opposed to going to a party with me while she drove 120 miles to see him and babysat 3 little kids... honestly if the woman had any clue what was really going on, I like to think she'd dump his sorry butt.... but then I actually do know what's going on and seem unable or unwilling to keep him out of my life). I ignored his begging and took him home. I'm so proud of myself for saying no to him and for not doing drugs, as well. Because there's a little part of my brain that wanted the drugs.
The victory was nice though. He wanted to buy some coke, and clearly expected me to pay for it. I didn't have my credit card anyway, so no hope of getting any cash for it. He told me to go home and get it. I told him if I left I wasn't coming back. He backed off for a while then on the drive home he started again, asking me to buy the drugs and he even called his source and started setting it up, but I made my "no" stick, I told him I wouldn't buy them and if he wanted to get drugs I would drop him at his place and he could figure it out himself. Well, that wouldn't work because his fiancee was at his apartment waiting for him and was under the impression he was at a meeting for a professional society we are in (as opposed to going to a party with me while she drove 120 miles to see him and babysat 3 little kids... honestly if the woman had any clue what was really going on, I like to think she'd dump his sorry butt.... but then I actually do know what's going on and seem unable or unwilling to keep him out of my life). I ignored his begging and took him home. I'm so proud of myself for saying no to him and for not doing drugs, as well. Because there's a little part of my brain that wanted the drugs.
So many people enjoying sucess…
...How long does it take?
I know, it varies from individual to individual...
...but, as many times as I've Fked! up, is there hope for me?
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I know, it varies from individual to individual...
...but, as many times as I've Fked! up, is there hope for me?
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Am I in trouble??
Hello everyone, new user here.
Just filled out two questionaires on different websites to find out if I am likely to have a drink problem after googling alcohol/depression of which I suffer the latter after the former on a regular basis. Results are 17 and 14 yes's out of 20, which I gather is not good.
The thing is I don't drink everyday, more likely every other and probably get drunk to the point of memory loss once or twice a week. I understand that I need to cut down but am unsure whether I have a problem or am just over reacting and need to have a bit more willpower.
I appreciate many people are in far worse situations than myself and don't want to clog up the boards simply because I can't get my sh*t together.
Please advice, thanks in advance
EB
Just filled out two questionaires on different websites to find out if I am likely to have a drink problem after googling alcohol/depression of which I suffer the latter after the former on a regular basis. Results are 17 and 14 yes's out of 20, which I gather is not good.
The thing is I don't drink everyday, more likely every other and probably get drunk to the point of memory loss once or twice a week. I understand that I need to cut down but am unsure whether I have a problem or am just over reacting and need to have a bit more willpower.
I appreciate many people are in far worse situations than myself and don't want to clog up the boards simply because I can't get my sh*t together.
Please advice, thanks in advance
EB
Going to take care of me
Hey everyone...
Well, day four and still no word from the AH. However, I had a friend who saw him in Ft Lauderdale (about 30 mins from my house), coming out of a liquor store. My friend proceeded to tell me how terrible he looked and how he lost weight and looked dirty and tired. I went into a big guilty tither because I knew that this would happen. I felt like I was going to have a breakdown...
Then I made a decision...I needed to get my little butt in gear towards my recovery. I sent everyone- all family and friends- an email telling them that I was canceling all plans for the weekend. I am not going to answer my emails, my phone, or my messages. I decided I am going to get my house in order, pack up the rest of his things, and take me time. I am listening to too many people, and allowing too much activity in my life. I am avoiding myself. I also told my friend that although I appreciate her sharing the information about the AH sighting that I didn't need such a horrible dramatic description. I told her that it hurt me, especially since she knew I was agonizing over this potential reality coming to fruitation.
So this is a Silverberry weekend. I even took tomorrow off from work. I am going to make this the beginning of my new life. I am fully ready to commit to my recovery. I am moving ahead :atv
Well, day four and still no word from the AH. However, I had a friend who saw him in Ft Lauderdale (about 30 mins from my house), coming out of a liquor store. My friend proceeded to tell me how terrible he looked and how he lost weight and looked dirty and tired. I went into a big guilty tither because I knew that this would happen. I felt like I was going to have a breakdown...
Then I made a decision...I needed to get my little butt in gear towards my recovery. I sent everyone- all family and friends- an email telling them that I was canceling all plans for the weekend. I am not going to answer my emails, my phone, or my messages. I decided I am going to get my house in order, pack up the rest of his things, and take me time. I am listening to too many people, and allowing too much activity in my life. I am avoiding myself. I also told my friend that although I appreciate her sharing the information about the AH sighting that I didn't need such a horrible dramatic description. I told her that it hurt me, especially since she knew I was agonizing over this potential reality coming to fruitation.
So this is a Silverberry weekend. I even took tomorrow off from work. I am going to make this the beginning of my new life. I am fully ready to commit to my recovery. I am moving ahead :atv
What has sobriety taught you is important in leading a healthy, happy, peaceful life
Lately a recurring thought has been running through my head regarding what I have learned in recovery about how to live life in peace and serenity. I would love to get your opinion and thoughts on the subject I am posting on or share about what you have learned is important in leading a healthy, happy, peaceful life.
I have come to realize that many people in today's world do not understand the concept of a person helping someone out with no thought or expectation of something in return. Just helping out to help out. The biggest thing that set me off on these thoughts is I recently helped a friends get their house ready to sell. I put in quite a bit of work and she did approach me with hiring me to do this work. I did not mind doing it and got paid quite well. I do realize though that these people are not rich and don't have money to just throw away. The man has a bad back, worse than mine, and she has had a broken neck which still gives her a lot of pain even though it was several years ago. The doctors did not know if she would even walk again.
To get to the moral of the story here. They are now working on getting his mothers house ready to move into, they are selling the house they live in now, as his mother died and left him her house. It needs a lot of work. There is a bunch of inside and outside work to be done. They are trying to save as much money as they can by doing a lot of the work themselves. My g/f and I have offered several times to help them do the work without charge. I think they will have us help but I can tell they are not used to people helping without expecting something in return.
My thoughts have run toward the belief that the reason many people today are suspicious of people offering to help without expecting something in return is because our society has become so greed driven. The need to have more and bigger than the next guy. Being caught up in this many people have gotten to where they think they can not do any work without getting paid for it, making a profit so they can buy more. We no longer live in a society where neighbors would get together and help someone build a barn when their barn burned down and do it for nothing more than a picnic lunch the women made while the men raised the barn. We have gotten to the point in many cases that often we don't even really know our neighbors in any way except to possibly wave when we see them. We are so busy going and doing to try and keep up with the Jones' that we feel we are too worn out to help anyone else.
One of the things that sobriety has taught me is giving without expectation. Giving simply to help someone else. Giving simply because I can. This is something I had been doing in sobriety without even thinking about it up until now. I don't have a lot of money so I give what I can which many times is something like mowing the yard of an elderly lady down the street so she doesn't have to try and pay someone to do it while living on a fixed income and doing it when she is not home so she will not know who did it. Picking up an extra gallon of milk at the grocery store and giving it to the neighbor across the street with 3 young children to raise. Putting up a fence for a friend who lives with her elderly mother and is unable to do the physical labor herself and could not afford to pay someone to do it. Giving an encouraging word to the newcomer who is struggling. These are the types of things that sobriety has taught me are important in life.
So what are some of the things sobriety has taught you about life?
I have come to realize that many people in today's world do not understand the concept of a person helping someone out with no thought or expectation of something in return. Just helping out to help out. The biggest thing that set me off on these thoughts is I recently helped a friends get their house ready to sell. I put in quite a bit of work and she did approach me with hiring me to do this work. I did not mind doing it and got paid quite well. I do realize though that these people are not rich and don't have money to just throw away. The man has a bad back, worse than mine, and she has had a broken neck which still gives her a lot of pain even though it was several years ago. The doctors did not know if she would even walk again.
To get to the moral of the story here. They are now working on getting his mothers house ready to move into, they are selling the house they live in now, as his mother died and left him her house. It needs a lot of work. There is a bunch of inside and outside work to be done. They are trying to save as much money as they can by doing a lot of the work themselves. My g/f and I have offered several times to help them do the work without charge. I think they will have us help but I can tell they are not used to people helping without expecting something in return.
My thoughts have run toward the belief that the reason many people today are suspicious of people offering to help without expecting something in return is because our society has become so greed driven. The need to have more and bigger than the next guy. Being caught up in this many people have gotten to where they think they can not do any work without getting paid for it, making a profit so they can buy more. We no longer live in a society where neighbors would get together and help someone build a barn when their barn burned down and do it for nothing more than a picnic lunch the women made while the men raised the barn. We have gotten to the point in many cases that often we don't even really know our neighbors in any way except to possibly wave when we see them. We are so busy going and doing to try and keep up with the Jones' that we feel we are too worn out to help anyone else.
One of the things that sobriety has taught me is giving without expectation. Giving simply to help someone else. Giving simply because I can. This is something I had been doing in sobriety without even thinking about it up until now. I don't have a lot of money so I give what I can which many times is something like mowing the yard of an elderly lady down the street so she doesn't have to try and pay someone to do it while living on a fixed income and doing it when she is not home so she will not know who did it. Picking up an extra gallon of milk at the grocery store and giving it to the neighbor across the street with 3 young children to raise. Putting up a fence for a friend who lives with her elderly mother and is unable to do the physical labor herself and could not afford to pay someone to do it. Giving an encouraging word to the newcomer who is struggling. These are the types of things that sobriety has taught me are important in life.
So what are some of the things sobriety has taught you about life?
Need help I don’t know how to go about this anymore!!
Okay well I am new on here and to give everyone a brief summary I am now 20 and my dad has been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember. He got really really bad in the last year and I was sick of it. My sister mainly just gave up and wanted him to die but he is my father and I still love him so I worked very hard to get a spot set up at a rehab and talked to many people to figure out how to get him into a center. Found out that all it took was a long talk with him about everything. He agreed and was there for 30 days I visited him as much as i could and went to group meetings he graduated and agreed not to drink and go to meetings and i lived with him it has now been about 6 months and he is very lonlely he is still doing the same things he used to just without the booze I mean he is really lazy doesnt leave the house. He also bought booze to keep at his house for his friends and he went on a date and he said that he had one beer. My sister is having a baby in one month and getting married next year and if he goes back to doing everything she will never speak to him again. I need some advice on how to talk to him about everything and how to say it as nice as possible without yelling. Because he has a temper and I don't think yelling helps at all but he needs to know that we both worked very hard and he can't just throw it all away. Some tips on what to say and maybe a good started conversation. Someone just help tell me what I can do or something please thank you sorry so long had to give a little info to know the situation a little bit
Sobriety And Abstinence: 2 Distinctly Different Terms In Drug And Alcohol Recovery
In discussing sobriety and abstinence, many people use the terms interchangeably...
