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I finally told my folks about my addiction.
I was told in the chat rooms that I should share this little tidbit. I just got done telling my parents that I was an addict. I told all the close members of my family.
I took my last pain pill on Saturday at 4pm.. I went through withdrawals and tried to hide it from my parents. I told them I was sick with the flu. It was a lie the entire time and I felt terrible about it. Lies build on more lies. I figured I could just detox myself and then hide the fact that I was seeking help and eventually going to meetings. What was I gonna tell them? I'm going bowling?
So just a few minutes ago my entire family was together discussing whatever is going on in our lives right now..and I came clean with them. 5 days ago I came to this site with no knowledge of my addiction. But as I was detoxing I was getting information from people and reading the Big Book online and getting informed and educated about my disease.
My mother looked to me and said.. "You're not an addict"... "What are you talking about?" Then I laid out the facts to her which made this whole thing a lot easier. They didn't look at me like I was some kind of loser.. When i was
bombarding them with fact after fact. And then suddenly.. they accepted it. And it felt so good because it was the first time I was being honest with them.. The first time I was being true.. and it felt great because I had the facts to back them up.
I told them I was about to start actively seeking help and going to meetings.. going to get a sponsor and take the 12 steps. And I saw for the first time in my life some actual appreciation, love and noticed that I was taking control of my life. They knew I had issues.. but didn't know what was the bottom line that was causing the problems.. My social anxiety.. My depression.. and my seclusion. I would spend hours and hours in my room playing WOW (World of Warcraft) and never spent time with my family. I believe now that all my previous problems were cause by me being an addict.
If any of you have any doubts that you should share this with your family.. YOU MUST. You must come clean with them. You will feel a whole lot better about it and it will give you strength to take the next step. Trust me.
I hope this helps.
:ghug
I took my last pain pill on Saturday at 4pm.. I went through withdrawals and tried to hide it from my parents. I told them I was sick with the flu. It was a lie the entire time and I felt terrible about it. Lies build on more lies. I figured I could just detox myself and then hide the fact that I was seeking help and eventually going to meetings. What was I gonna tell them? I'm going bowling?
So just a few minutes ago my entire family was together discussing whatever is going on in our lives right now..and I came clean with them. 5 days ago I came to this site with no knowledge of my addiction. But as I was detoxing I was getting information from people and reading the Big Book online and getting informed and educated about my disease.
My mother looked to me and said.. "You're not an addict"... "What are you talking about?" Then I laid out the facts to her which made this whole thing a lot easier. They didn't look at me like I was some kind of loser.. When i was
bombarding them with fact after fact. And then suddenly.. they accepted it. And it felt so good because it was the first time I was being honest with them.. The first time I was being true.. and it felt great because I had the facts to back them up.
I told them I was about to start actively seeking help and going to meetings.. going to get a sponsor and take the 12 steps. And I saw for the first time in my life some actual appreciation, love and noticed that I was taking control of my life. They knew I had issues.. but didn't know what was the bottom line that was causing the problems.. My social anxiety.. My depression.. and my seclusion. I would spend hours and hours in my room playing WOW (World of Warcraft) and never spent time with my family. I believe now that all my previous problems were cause by me being an addict.
If any of you have any doubts that you should share this with your family.. YOU MUST. You must come clean with them. You will feel a whole lot better about it and it will give you strength to take the next step. Trust me.
I hope this helps.
:ghug
For members with less tahn 2 weeks sober…Part 7
Here is the link to the last part...
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post2035261
Hi Everyone...:Xmasbstar
Welcome to our fresh page of Daily Support
Post often...ask questions...vent...
someone will be along to share with you.
:yup:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post2035261
Hi Everyone...:Xmasbstar
Welcome to our fresh page of Daily Support
Post often...ask questions...vent...
someone will be along to share with you.
:yup:
What are you going to do to keep you safe over christmas????
well the season of merriness has landed well an truly!!!!
this is a time of year that is not merry for all though
theres sadness, loss, poverty an families broken that suffer at the hands of this commercialised season.
for us addicts there is the fear of relapse an probable relapse.
the sadness of loss to fellow members that relapse or even die at the hands of this disease
her in adelaide in the rooms this time of year is generally reffered to as
"the suicide season"
in mindfullness of this
i hope we all keep in the forfront of our minds ways to keep ourselves safe!!!
SO WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO TO KEEP YOU SAFE OVER CHRISTMAS????
help with just for today please
would any members whom own a copy of just for today please please post the daily readings from today on for me??
im unable to attain a copy at the present time an would be extremly gratefull...
i go a little crazy without my daily reading.
hope sum1 helps.
thanx
im unable to attain a copy at the present time an would be extremly gratefull...
i go a little crazy without my daily reading.
hope sum1 helps.
thanx
How many of you have relapsed?
Just curious. It seems that I, and other new members, are on here trying to do their first withdrawl with help for the the first time. But how many members on here have been through it already and come out the other side....only then to hit the bottle again?
Reason I'm asking is that I'm finding it really tough right now to get to grips with this particular withdrawal, which is supposed to be the be the all and end of of my heavy drinking. Yet I have failed before when fighting it on my own, so I'm always thinking in the back of my mind that I may fail this time around. I don't know, but maybe its a gradual fight? Oh, and I'm not posting this to find an excuse to go to the pub. I'm just wondering if I'm a fruad having tried before and not succeeded.
Reason I'm asking is that I'm finding it really tough right now to get to grips with this particular withdrawal, which is supposed to be the be the all and end of of my heavy drinking. Yet I have failed before when fighting it on my own, so I'm always thinking in the back of my mind that I may fail this time around. I don't know, but maybe its a gradual fight? Oh, and I'm not posting this to find an excuse to go to the pub. I'm just wondering if I'm a fruad having tried before and not succeeded.
Need help out of codependency and with a plan to more forward
Hi all!!
I think I have posted something similar to this once before.
I wanted to give you all an impression of how my life is right now and see who can relate:
My ah hides his use pretty well. His DOC is cocaine. he was using once or twice a week, but this week it seems to be more because he cant fall asleep at night.
I take the kids to school everyday then i go sub if i have an assignment that day. My ah goes to work almost every day. I take care of the house, the kids, etc. He will pitch in maybe 10%-20% but mainly after work he is on the couch watching tv or on his laptop.
Weekends we dont do much. I clean, food shop, take kids where they need to go, the kids see friends....we may go out to each once in a while. My older daughter is at the age where she deosnt really want to do family things, but i like to get out and do stuff onthe weekend..ijust dont have the extra money to go places and otherwise, what else is there to do besides shop???
I get depressed on weekends, because like i said i like to get out. My family is not close by and i never see his except on holidays. the few friends ihave are usually busy with their families on weekends.
So here is how i feel: I feel like I have lost myself by putting up with drug use. I have compromised my morals, values and who i am and it makes me feel less than. I do not want to be in a marriage with someone who lies, does drugs, doesnt help out all the time and take responsiblity for things.
But, i feel trapped because of the economy, i cannot get a high paying job, my co-depnedency, etc....but i want to move forward..my codependency is sooo strong....i am going to meetings, reading, making phonecalls to members of my group, going to therapy. I try not to start in with my ah because it wont get me anywhere, and i want to have peace in the house but i have such feelings of resentment because of it.
I just want to be able to tell him that because i have lost myself and because i cannot accept his behavior anymore, that we need to seperate and perhaps get divorced. I know this is what i need to do in order to take care of myself. I know this is a toxic and unhealthy relationship, but becuase of my co-dependency, i cant do it.
Can anyone help me with a plan?? i want to go back to school to become a teacher..special ed...but where is the $$ going to come from for that...we have so much debt, i dont want to take out another loan. where am i going o get the strength to take care of myself?? what can be included in my plan so that i keep moving forward...i know that so many of you have gone through so much, and sometimes i almost wish something bad would happen so that i have no choice in the matter but to get out....
thanks for your help.....
I think I have posted something similar to this once before.
I wanted to give you all an impression of how my life is right now and see who can relate:
My ah hides his use pretty well. His DOC is cocaine. he was using once or twice a week, but this week it seems to be more because he cant fall asleep at night.
I take the kids to school everyday then i go sub if i have an assignment that day. My ah goes to work almost every day. I take care of the house, the kids, etc. He will pitch in maybe 10%-20% but mainly after work he is on the couch watching tv or on his laptop.
Weekends we dont do much. I clean, food shop, take kids where they need to go, the kids see friends....we may go out to each once in a while. My older daughter is at the age where she deosnt really want to do family things, but i like to get out and do stuff onthe weekend..ijust dont have the extra money to go places and otherwise, what else is there to do besides shop???
I get depressed on weekends, because like i said i like to get out. My family is not close by and i never see his except on holidays. the few friends ihave are usually busy with their families on weekends.
So here is how i feel: I feel like I have lost myself by putting up with drug use. I have compromised my morals, values and who i am and it makes me feel less than. I do not want to be in a marriage with someone who lies, does drugs, doesnt help out all the time and take responsiblity for things.
But, i feel trapped because of the economy, i cannot get a high paying job, my co-depnedency, etc....but i want to move forward..my codependency is sooo strong....i am going to meetings, reading, making phonecalls to members of my group, going to therapy. I try not to start in with my ah because it wont get me anywhere, and i want to have peace in the house but i have such feelings of resentment because of it.
I just want to be able to tell him that because i have lost myself and because i cannot accept his behavior anymore, that we need to seperate and perhaps get divorced. I know this is what i need to do in order to take care of myself. I know this is a toxic and unhealthy relationship, but becuase of my co-dependency, i cant do it.
Can anyone help me with a plan?? i want to go back to school to become a teacher..special ed...but where is the $$ going to come from for that...we have so much debt, i dont want to take out another loan. where am i going o get the strength to take care of myself?? what can be included in my plan so that i keep moving forward...i know that so many of you have gone through so much, and sometimes i almost wish something bad would happen so that i have no choice in the matter but to get out....
thanks for your help.....
A big Thank You to all the admins, forum leaders, and all who keep this site running!
I just want to thank the admins, forum leaders, and chat/blog/greeters!
You have a difficult job and you do it very well. You look out for the members' well being and I am grateful to all of you! Thanks for keeping SR safe and secure.
:ghug
You have a difficult job and you do it very well. You look out for the members' well being and I am grateful to all of you! Thanks for keeping SR safe and secure.
:ghug
Chat
If you have a problem with members in chat please let us know. We have daily chat transcripts and can read them if necessary to handle problem members. I banned one member that was disrupting chat and violating the forum rules. If you have any other problems send a PM to a moderator.
Thanks,
MG
Thanks,
MG
For members with less than 2 weeks sober…Part 4
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Please come share with us if you are having
problems in early sobriety.
It is difficult and you do not have to be alone.
Yes...you too can recover!
Here is the link to the last part...
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-3-a.html
Please come share with us if you are having
problems in early sobriety.
It is difficult and you do not have to be alone.
Yes...you too can recover!
Here is the link to the last part...
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-3-a.html
I need to make a request to all of you here
I realize when somebody is new to this board, they are full of emotions and need to vent.
HOWEVER ... when you discuss your situation in a HUGE paragraph, it is very, very difficult to read. My eyes - and they're OLD eyes! - keep jumping from sentence to sentence.
I periodically post this request. If all of you could try to chop your thoughts up into shorter paragraphs, I would be able to more easily read your posts and respond.
I believe I am speaking for a lot of us older-than-dirt members of this board. Again, we would appreciate it if you could try to keep your paragraphs to about 10 sentences or so, and then start a new paragraph.
Thank you very much!!!
HOWEVER ... when you discuss your situation in a HUGE paragraph, it is very, very difficult to read. My eyes - and they're OLD eyes! - keep jumping from sentence to sentence.
I periodically post this request. If all of you could try to chop your thoughts up into shorter paragraphs, I would be able to more easily read your posts and respond.
I believe I am speaking for a lot of us older-than-dirt members of this board. Again, we would appreciate it if you could try to keep your paragraphs to about 10 sentences or so, and then start a new paragraph.
Thank you very much!!!
