Archive for the ‘Milestone’ tag
LouLou629 has 91 days today!
Way to go LouLou on 91 days! I had to do a little math to determine your days but it merits a celebration!:bday8
:fireworks2 That's an awesome milestone! I'm impressed!!:c029:
:fireworks2 That's an awesome milestone! I'm impressed!!:c029:
At the risk of sounding dramatic…
OK. Here goes. I found this site because I am looking for help and guidance. My boyfriend is an addict. Although his primary addiction is alcohol, he has used other drugs. He was already in NA when we met 8 months ago. In that short amount of time, we've grown to love each other quite deeply and I'm fairly certain he is who I will be with for a very long time.
I have never had alcohol or drugs of any kind. No particular reason why, I was just never interested in either. I've dated my fair share of people who were active alcoholics so I'm familiar with addiction (not in a good way) but recovery is foreign to me.
Consequently, there's been a part of me that worried about the worst but all seemed to be going well with my BF's recovery so I didn't feed that anxiety by paying attention to it. Even when I heard things like "he doesn't have a year of clean time so you know where that relationship is headed", I chose to be in the moment and in the relationship. November 18th was going to be my boyfriend's anniversary. That (apparently) important milestone where, once surpassed, our relationship would have a chance of survival... so, I invested a lot in November 18th.
He relapsed last night.
Just like that, November 18th lost all meaning. And now the threat of "he doesn't have a year of clean time so you know where that relationship is headed" is going to be in my mind for the next 365 days (or more).
I'm devastated and I don't know what to do or even how to feel. I'm feeling many things but disappointment, fear, and anger are the top three. I'm overwhelmed and profoundly saddened by the whole thing.
I checked out Al-Anon's site but reading it I felt like the steps and principles don't quite fit what I'm experiencing right now. But I'm also naive. Obviously. Anyone out there with some words of wisdom?
Sorry about the long post and thanks for listening...
I have never had alcohol or drugs of any kind. No particular reason why, I was just never interested in either. I've dated my fair share of people who were active alcoholics so I'm familiar with addiction (not in a good way) but recovery is foreign to me.
Consequently, there's been a part of me that worried about the worst but all seemed to be going well with my BF's recovery so I didn't feed that anxiety by paying attention to it. Even when I heard things like "he doesn't have a year of clean time so you know where that relationship is headed", I chose to be in the moment and in the relationship. November 18th was going to be my boyfriend's anniversary. That (apparently) important milestone where, once surpassed, our relationship would have a chance of survival... so, I invested a lot in November 18th.
He relapsed last night.
Just like that, November 18th lost all meaning. And now the threat of "he doesn't have a year of clean time so you know where that relationship is headed" is going to be in my mind for the next 365 days (or more).
I'm devastated and I don't know what to do or even how to feel. I'm feeling many things but disappointment, fear, and anger are the top three. I'm overwhelmed and profoundly saddened by the whole thing.
I checked out Al-Anon's site but reading it I felt like the steps and principles don't quite fit what I'm experiencing right now. But I'm also naive. Obviously. Anyone out there with some words of wisdom?
Sorry about the long post and thanks for listening...
Paulos has 122 days sober!!
Way to go Paulos!!:a122: That's a major milestone! I am proud of you!
:a194:
Having major depression anxiety and bipolar myself I know my staying sober is helping my depression. I'm so glad we're sober, aren't you!!
:a194:
Having major depression anxiety and bipolar myself I know my staying sober is helping my depression. I'm so glad we're sober, aren't you!!
Joinedintime has 90 days!
CONGRATULATIONS JIT!
:bday2 :bday8
90 days is a huge milestone! I know you've had some really difficult times lately but you've hung in there and I'm really proud of you! WTG!
Julesxox :ghug2
:bday2 :bday8
90 days is a huge milestone! I know you've had some really difficult times lately but you've hung in there and I'm really proud of you! WTG!
Julesxox :ghug2
Jules has 90 days
Congratulations on 90 days, Jules! :day4
I know how hard it's been for you recently - you've dumped a bottle you bought, tipped out another you were given...I know how incredibly hard it is not to just say 'eff it' and follow through when things like that happen, especially when times are hard...you inspire me.
I just wanted to say I'm proud of you. 90 days is a major milestone - one I remember you thinking you'd never get.
I always knew you'd make it, but especially this time - its clear to me you've changed. You *get* it. :)
You're obviously doing things differently this time, and its all about what we do....
you're such a good friend, not only to me but to so many others here too.
You support a lot of people here, everyday. You're an important part of the community here now.
We need you :)
post my $10 in an envelope.
LOL
D
I know how hard it's been for you recently - you've dumped a bottle you bought, tipped out another you were given...I know how incredibly hard it is not to just say 'eff it' and follow through when things like that happen, especially when times are hard...you inspire me.
I just wanted to say I'm proud of you. 90 days is a major milestone - one I remember you thinking you'd never get.
I always knew you'd make it, but especially this time - its clear to me you've changed. You *get* it. :)
You're obviously doing things differently this time, and its all about what we do....
you're such a good friend, not only to me but to so many others here too.
You support a lot of people here, everyday. You're an important part of the community here now.
We need you :)
post my $10 in an envelope.
LOL
D
Iloow Has Ninety Days !!!!!
(Wooli) on 90 days of sobriety on Saturday...
What a milestone!
Hugs :ghug3
Day 100
Just want to post about my 100 days. Bit of a milestone, hope there are many more.
It's been a journey so far, can't believe i have got to a point where i have lost the desire to have a drink. This happened on my last night of drinking, but i felt compelled to have a drink, it was a lads night out for someones birthday. I didn't have the courage to back out, as i was trying to control my drinking at the time.
So after this i went back to AA and not looked back. This time in AA has been different to the beginning of the year when i started to attend.
If someone told me back then that i would get to a point where i did not even want a drink and at the same time be happy about it, i would never have believed them.
Thanks for AA and thanks for SR.
Paul
It's been a journey so far, can't believe i have got to a point where i have lost the desire to have a drink. This happened on my last night of drinking, but i felt compelled to have a drink, it was a lads night out for someones birthday. I didn't have the courage to back out, as i was trying to control my drinking at the time.
So after this i went back to AA and not looked back. This time in AA has been different to the beginning of the year when i started to attend.
If someone told me back then that i would get to a point where i did not even want a drink and at the same time be happy about it, i would never have believed them.
Thanks for AA and thanks for SR.
Paul
