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Get by yourself for a few minutes once a day for several days -- if you can choose about the same time each day, so much the better, but this is not essential -- drop all your worries for the time being -- this is absolutely essential -- relax the body, and quietly invite the Great Universal Power to come into your mind and endow you with whatever thing you are most needing; whether that be health, or guidance, or some information concerning a particular matter, or a job, or even money, or what not. But on no account must you give instructions to that Power, because it will not take them; and if you try to compel it, nothing will happen. Be receptive. Be open-minded. Be humble. Do not be impatient; and you will see what you will see. Something remarkable will happen.
(From an essay)

I just want to let you all know, that I'm still hanging in there...made it to day 8. My hubby is the one who said I should put "still doing great" in the title...lol.
He also says that he's proud of me, I'm proud of me too.
I'm telling myself, that I'm not quitting, I'm just cutting back and taking it a day at a time. Will I have some beer tomorrow? I don't know...Will I never have beer again? I don't know that answer to that either. All I know is that I'm not doing it right now and that tomorrow morning I will wake up the same way I did this morning...feeling pretty darn good!
I can't believe that I made it this long....would have had at least 3-4 drunk nights in by now...Gesh, that's about $40.
I love doing crafts and the past couple of days I have stopped by the craft store to buy some things for a new project that I just discovered...I ended spending some money on crafts instead of beer, now I have something to show for with no guilt.
Just wanted to share and say "I love you" guys!!!
:You_Rock_

XOXO

P.S. And yes, coming to this wonderful place has played the majority role in why I haven't drank for 8 DAYS!!!!
THANKS AGAIN!!!

This is my first visit to this site. Ok here is my story. I have known the father of my 21 year old daughter since we both were 15 years old. He has had a heroin addiction for over 20 years. He and I rekindled our relationship 3 yrs. ago after he promised me he was no longer using or selling drugs. Needless to say to my dismay and surprse that was a LIE. Why I didnt run for the hills I dont know. I guess I thought I could help him, but that has proven to be too big of a task for me. Since that wonderful declaration he made to me he has stolen a lot of money from me and our daughter. In the summer of 2007 he took off to rehab for 45 days. He has declared he is and has been clean for a year. I am having a real hard time believing him and I dont know what to do. I don't feel he has nor is he being totally honest with me. He has been working on his job since June of 08 and I have NEVER seen a paystub. I know he works because I drive him there, but every Friday he comes home with between $20-60, and some lame excuse as to why he doesn't have more. Two weeks in a row he said his employer made all the occupants of the truck he was riding in (not driving) pay for a ticket. Then a few months ago it was they had to pay for uniforms (I haven'[t seen the uniforms yet). It is always a reason he has so little to contribute to the household. Now, his hours have been cut at work and he hasn't worked since 12/9/08 and all he can manage to do is sleep or jump up and run out the door with one of the neighbors. And for reasons that are so unclear to me he doesnt get my anger and disgust. I am getting so fed up with him. I am at the point where I don't like him if that makes since. If it were not for the fact that he has no where to go I would throw him out. I love him and I am still in love with him, but I struggle daily to maintain that level of love. He is very lazy and doesn't appear to be concerned about being a provider for himself or the household. He wants to get married, but I am NOT going to marry him until I KNOW he is truly clean. I so desparately want to trust him but his words and actions dont add up. I am so sorry to be long, but I needed to sound off. I feel trapped in his mess while my dreams, wants, and desires are put on hold. Is there anyway I could get him tested for drug use? His mother told me I could get something from a drugstore, but I am not sure how true that is. Am I being too watchful and critical? Am I being to overbearing? He says I have control issues and dont want him to have friends, but my issue is I am very cautious of me and his choice of friends (by appearance only) look just as shady as he does. I want to trust him, but I see don't see where he deserves such trust nor can I see where to begin to mend my broken heart to trust him again.

As many of you know this has been a tough 10 months for me. I have had alot of troubling family problems.
Well this year is starting off on a much better note. Rebecca4 introduced me to facebook and it was there that I found my half brother who I've been looking for several years.
I cannot tell you how happy this makes me. He is 6 years older than me and we were close as kids and young adults. Our dad passed away in 1991 and I havn't seen Hal since. There were alot of hard feelings after the reading of the will.
Take my advise - money isn't that important in the long run - however family is.

Thank You Rebecca,
Love,
Suzette

Being away from my addicted ex and ending the relationship was difficult, but necessary. I fell in love with someone who took advantage of me in so many ways. Financially, Emotionally, Spiritually, etc. So if the part away is good for me, why am I still sad? I feel that living at home with my parents, starting over from scratch, barely making ends meet let alone able to save money to get my own place is really affecting me. I am sad because I don't have the time with work and raising my daughter to do anything for myself and though I am lonely, now is not the time to jump into a new love. I have so many good qualities, but all I see is loneliness and despair. His family has helped him set his life up again and he has a job and friends and still uses but I am stuck in a hole where I can't even afford a cup of coffee with a friend. Why did this happen, am I ever going to see the light again. I know this is minor compared to other posts, but I am so sad and need some advice. Has anyone been in my shoes? I really could use some words of encouragement. Thank you for reading...if anything comes to your mind, no matter how little...please post...Thanks

well, i called the apartment complex i am looking to move into, not expecting to get an apartment, but at least to be put on the waiting list because it can be hard to get an apartment there.

i called and the first time i was told i was on the waiting list but they didn't have any 1 bedrooms at the time. i called back and asked about 2 bedrooms also and was put on the list for that.

so, i then resided myself to the fact that i was staying put where i'm at and was okay with that. AH was nice this morning even though he drank last night and was charming (of course, it is like they have a sick sense when something is going on...grrr) i was reminded of the things i love about him. also, he stated again that he was going to set up marriage counseling with the pastor at the church he has been going to.

wouldn't you know, then my phone rang. message to call the apartment complex... i called, it was the very same woman i talked to before that had went out of her way and pulled strings so i could move in then months ago if i wanted. she said she had remembered me and our conversation adn that she could get me into a two bedroom now. it is more money, but i would have a place to store my stuff. i have absolutely no idea how i will manage to pay for it and morgage while the house is not sold and i still cannot see myself taking the furniture out of the house, it still seems so cold to me.

and, God forbid, what if i leave and the worst happens and somehow he does kill himself? how do i live with that? how do i live with the guilt if he gets worse and gets really sick or kills himself drinking and driving..anything - i just feel like i need to make sure he is okay all the time and protect him. i really struggle with abandoning him. i really do.

soo,,, i told her i would come look tomorrow. i just don't know if i can actually go through with signing the lease.

AH is drinking again tonight. i did not tell him i was looking at the place tomorrow, but i did ask him if he knew i was going to move out if he would stop. he asked no, how many times have you told me you would move out and you can't afford to do it anyway.

i really don't know if i'm ready or not. part of me thinks i am and part thinks i'm not. part of me thinks i have to and it is a really good idea...the other part thinks no, now you have to give this counseling a try. you owe it to him.

so, don't know what tomorrow will bring, except, that i will really be disappointed and defeated again, if, once again, i don't have the courage to do it.

I did it again. He called needing money two days before Christmas. He begged and manipulated and made me feel guilty and so on. I wired him money to put a down payment on his own apartment. We are not together but I still love him and want to be with him. I live 5 hours away and still in school. He just graduated, found a job and now living on his own. If I didnt help him, he would still be living with his parents. A big part of me wants to see if he can make it own his own. He chooses to still smoke pot as often as he can. He states he used to do it to get away from his problems but now he does it bc he likes it? We had a good talk on the phone for 2o minutes that night and he wants me to come see him soon. 5 days later after not hearing from him I text messaged him asking how he was doing? I got no response. I text him New Years Ever and New Years Day. He finally text me back and said he would call me later and never did. Yesterday, I kept calling and texting him and he finally answered upset telling me that we aren't together and that I need to quit acting like we are in a relationship. He says he wants to see me and wants me to come down later. I asked when and he said he would call me. He rushed off the phone saying he was busy and was getting everything in his new apartment, thanks to me. Why do I do this to myself? Why do I keep longing for someone that obviously is just using me? Why can't I stop? When will I hit my rock bottom with him? I am broke. Did I enable him? A part of me thinks he will be needing and wanting money again? Do you think so? Will I be strong enough to say No? Why can't I let go. This has been going on for almost 5 years now. I hate myself for it sometimes and then other times I am happy for helping him. I am so confused. I can't function. I feel my heart aching and stay in my room all day. I don't feel like doing anything anymore.

I spoke to Barb on the phone today and she just got an eviction notice despite having made an agreement to pay her rent when some money came through.

As some of you will know she hasn't been able to work for some time due to hypo-thyroidism.

She has an interview with the Govt Doctor about getting some sickness benefit soon. She has had a hard year and this eviction notice has kncked her badly, please keep her in your thoughts and prayers.

Thanks.

I am almost at a loss for words. As some of you may remember the h--- AH put me through. Well, he is still in prison, up for parole Jan. 13 and should be out shortly after that.He went through 6 months of extensive rehab in prison and seemed to be doing well. Sounded good, had a positive attitude.

Well, he said he has heard nor written anyone but now I have my doubts. Neighbor just called and ran into one of his druggie friends who informed her that AH will be home by mid Feb. There is NO WAY this person would know this without being in contact with him.

AH will call tomorrow and I am wondering whether to confront him or just tell him to find another place to parole out to. He knows gram passed away and there is money coming-but it is in trust and he cannot get his hands on it.

My darn blood pressure has sky rocketed and has not done that in over a yr. I AM UPSET!!!!!!

Any suggestions?????

Try to make a long story short. Addict lives with me. Won't stop using. Needs hospitalization for bad wounds that won't heal. keeps promising he'll go to hospital. Bugs me for money. Lays on couch all day in agony. Needs his drugs. I am enabling. Can't get him to hospital. he won't let me call ambulance. Today promised for 2 weeks today he'd go. Came time to go, wanted his drugs, asked for money. Now, still hasn't gone.

I need to move Again. Everytime I try to leave, he comes back, or I do. To help him. But I don't help.

I pay for and do everything. he on couch all day. he is very sick. wounds that won't heal from surgeries done last year. Won't go to doctor, I offer to take him.

I need to get out don't I? My house, my name on the lease, my money that feeds and clothes and takes care of him, I never clean enough, never do enough to help him.

I really need help. What do I do? He cannot take care of himself. :praying